I finally have a girlfriend! I am so happy I'm posting it-Wait, she's also with my best friend?
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Cripes, you got need some good luck there.
Can't say I have much experience with scenarios like these, but if I was to suggest anything, it'd be this: If you really want to date this girl because you LIKE her, not just date her for the sake of having a girlfriend(it's okay, I'm sure most of us could understand that sentiment) then you'll have to make it clear that she'll have to choose one of you. If she agrees to, then that's that, she'll either choose you or your friend, and you'll deal with those consequences. If she refuses, then quite frankly, you'll need to talk with your friend about this. He may be mad at you at first, but it'll be a lot better than if you sneak around behind his back until he eventually finds out. At least you'll be being honest with him, and that definitely counts for something.
Unfortunately, there's really no easy way out of this. Someone's going to get hurt at some point, the question is who, and how badly.
Can't say I have much experience with scenarios like these, but if I was to suggest anything, it'd be this: If you really want to date this girl because you LIKE her, not just date her for the sake of having a girlfriend(it's okay, I'm sure most of us could understand that sentiment) then you'll have to make it clear that she'll have to choose one of you. If she agrees to, then that's that, she'll either choose you or your friend, and you'll deal with those consequences. If she refuses, then quite frankly, you'll need to talk with your friend about this. He may be mad at you at first, but it'll be a lot better than if you sneak around behind his back until he eventually finds out. At least you'll be being honest with him, and that definitely counts for something.
Unfortunately, there's really no easy way out of this. Someone's going to get hurt at some point, the question is who, and how badly.
I think I found a way to explain it: I'm rather relaxed with this, so I don't mind if she is with someone else while I'm with her, it's just, well, odd for her to be with both me and my best friend at the same time, and my friend really isn't that relaxed about, but he seams to tolerate me with her. It really is hard to explain without saying "she's with another guy, but I don't mind with anyone but my friend."Mr Thin said:
Weren't you here when I had my last problem related to the opposite sex? Anyway, I really do like her ( wouldn't call it love, but I do want to make her happy), and if I wanted to date someone for the sake of having a girlfriend, then I wouldn't care at all.RathWolf said:
Method 1: Your best friend should never have punched you in the gut for any reason. You let him know this and tell him straight out that if he has problems with the arrangement, you and he (and the girl) need to discuss it openly like adults.
Method 2: Your friend hit you. That's assault. Ditch him and continue dating the girl.
Method 3: This girl doesn't appear to want a monogamous relationship and you probably do, so dump her and find somebody who's willing to be with you and only you.
Method 4: Both your friend and this girl have problems. Ditch 'em both and find better people to fill both roles.
There you go-every scenario I could think of. I personally suggest the first and last methods. The first scenario is the obvious thing grown-up, mature adults would do, but most of the people who are having relationship problems on this site aren't having them because they're in relationships with those kinds of people. So option 4 is nice because it lets you clean the slate, maybe with an honest assessment of both of their personalities before you leave?
Method 2: Your friend hit you. That's assault. Ditch him and continue dating the girl.
Method 3: This girl doesn't appear to want a monogamous relationship and you probably do, so dump her and find somebody who's willing to be with you and only you.
Method 4: Both your friend and this girl have problems. Ditch 'em both and find better people to fill both roles.
There you go-every scenario I could think of. I personally suggest the first and last methods. The first scenario is the obvious thing grown-up, mature adults would do, but most of the people who are having relationship problems on this site aren't having them because they're in relationships with those kinds of people. So option 4 is nice because it lets you clean the slate, maybe with an honest assessment of both of their personalities before you leave?
This is what you should do:
First you'll need to collect the three pieces of triforce, and to do that you must slay Ganon and rescue the princess (the real princess, not your promiscous girlfriend) and also kidnap Link. After acquiring the three golden triangles you shall travel to the moon with Arnold Swartzenegger on a magic whale. When you arrive on the moon you shall promptly eat the whale (before any of you spit out your tea/milk/coffe/absinth in rage, I should tell you that eating whale is alright again, as proved in the whale eating thread yesterday) as a test, to get past the teenage mutant ninja turtles who guard the gates to the moon's core. You could show the turtles the triforce and just pass, but eat the whale anyway since your hungry. Then when you enter the moon's core and find that earth's satelite actually is steam-powered, sacrifice Arnold to Odin for divine knowledge and spare parts. Be careful, as everyone knows Terminators are almost impossible to kill. After he is dead, take the spare parts and build a space time machine mobile out of the steam engine, then rip a hole in the space/time weave, and drift between dimensions. Then, wait until you see a dimension entirely made of cake, then jump in it! This won't solve your problems with your girlfriend and friend but you won't care since you're far away in a dimension MADE OUT OF CAKE!
First you'll need to collect the three pieces of triforce, and to do that you must slay Ganon and rescue the princess (the real princess, not your promiscous girlfriend) and also kidnap Link. After acquiring the three golden triangles you shall travel to the moon with Arnold Swartzenegger on a magic whale. When you arrive on the moon you shall promptly eat the whale (before any of you spit out your tea/milk/coffe/absinth in rage, I should tell you that eating whale is alright again, as proved in the whale eating thread yesterday) as a test, to get past the teenage mutant ninja turtles who guard the gates to the moon's core. You could show the turtles the triforce and just pass, but eat the whale anyway since your hungry. Then when you enter the moon's core and find that earth's satelite actually is steam-powered, sacrifice Arnold to Odin for divine knowledge and spare parts. Be careful, as everyone knows Terminators are almost impossible to kill. After he is dead, take the spare parts and build a space time machine mobile out of the steam engine, then rip a hole in the space/time weave, and drift between dimensions. Then, wait until you see a dimension entirely made of cake, then jump in it! This won't solve your problems with your girlfriend and friend but you won't care since you're far away in a dimension MADE OUT OF CAKE!
Also, if you're such a sucker for romance, just mary the princess after you save her. I hear you get half a kingdom, too.
Bros before hoes.
More so: A girl that wants two boyfriends at once can't really be called a girlfriend. In my opinion. But that's just me being old fashioned.
Your a witty fellow and I bet you a dollar there's enough other girls out there that'll be happy to claim you for themselves without wanting to share themselves with the general public. Don't settle for something thats not even halfway there.
More so: A girl that wants two boyfriends at once can't really be called a girlfriend. In my opinion. But that's just me being old fashioned.
Your a witty fellow and I bet you a dollar there's enough other girls out there that'll be happy to claim you for themselves without wanting to share themselves with the general public. Don't settle for something thats not even halfway there.
Usually when I see these relationship advice threads, I just post a big thing saying that we simply don't know enough to give you good advice, because we don't know you or any of the people involved.
But in this case, we actually do know one thing. We know that this girl is willing to cheat on someone she's already in a relationship with. That means that even if she never actually cheats on you, you'll always have a hard time being able to trust her. This time man, just find some way to get the fuck out. Why the hell would you even try to initiate a relationship with someone who's already dating someone else in the first place? Both of you fucked up.
But in this case, we actually do know one thing. We know that this girl is willing to cheat on someone she's already in a relationship with. That means that even if she never actually cheats on you, you'll always have a hard time being able to trust her. This time man, just find some way to get the fuck out. Why the hell would you even try to initiate a relationship with someone who's already dating someone else in the first place? Both of you fucked up.
Possibly? Anyways, I was just making sure. I've known guys who have actually dated girls just because they felt it was necessary to have a girlfriend. If you do like this girl, then you need to make it clear that she has to choose one of you. If she's okay with dating your friend at the same time as you, then she's okay with dating ANY other guy at the same time, and that's no good.CloggedDonkey said:
Made my day good sir. Also, you can get a Probation for making a Pic only response. Edit before someone hits Report!Om Nom Nom said:
You should do this:
1.Get a Gun
2.Shoot your supposed 'Best Friend'
3.Spread a rumour about her. -cough-Herpes-cough-
4.Say Ahhhh
Seriously though, fuck 'em both. Not literally.
BUT after reading your second post, I realize you want to do it the soft way. (Puts away Shotgun) Just dump her. She already has a Boyfriend and you don't want to hurt anyone. Also, what kind of a Best Friend makes your fear them?