I finally have a girlfriend! I am so happy I'm posting it-Wait, she's also with my best friend?

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Well, your friend is a jerk, the girl is a *****. Dump em both.

yeah.. sound advice alright...

 

[mikecoulter]

She can't have her cake and eat it too, just leave her and find a girlfriend who is actually worth your time.

 

[Abedeus]

Seems to me like you are REALLY desperate to have a girlfriend.

Cheating hoes are bad hoes. You should talk to your friend and you both should dump her for being a double-faced back-stabbing witch-dog.

 

[Shinigami214]

So, as the title suggests, I have a girlfriend (anyone who knows me knows that not having one was almost a running joke with me), but I learned that she is also dating my best friend. It's a little uncomfortable, knowing that if go to far (as in, he punched me in the stomach for putting my arm around her), I could get the shit beat out of me (as happened when there wasn't any bad blood between us while playing a card game).

I would just say "Look, I think that you should be with (Best Friend) for now, not me and him" but I partially initiated this, and I do not want to hurt anyone. So, any suggestions would be extremely appreciated, and just some plain old friendship would be very helping.

EDIT:

I guess I should explain a bit better.

Yes, she is in fact my girlfriend, as she told me that I was her boyfriend several times, even going as far as to kiss me, grab my hand, and other such romantic things without any input from me.

The friend is not an ass. He really isn't that bad of a guy, and I know I might have put him in a bad light, but there was reason behind me getting hit. Such as the punch to the stomach wasn't with any bad intentions, just normal messing around for such and such reasons that started with a normal joke, but escalated a little. It's more that he can do it than anything else that is a little unnerving.

The girl really isn't cheating on me or him, as we (me and the best friend) know about each other with her, I just feel a little uncomfortable with having another guy with my girlfriend and want some extra input from a third party.

And another thing I forgot to bring up but no one asked, it really isn't that serious, and I have no intentions of making it so, I just want to be able to get out of it without any of my friends, or me, feeling hurt.

Once again, thanks for any input from you guys, you've become almost like another family to me over the past few months I've been here, and it's good knowing you guys will actually talk to me, and others in the community, about problems they are having.

Answer: GTFO

You can't BOTH be her boyfriends WTF

Your situation is headed for implosion, either way you look at it. Either your girlfriend dumps your friend for you, in which case he will resent you for it. Or she'll dump you for him, and you'll end up feeling like a chump. Or she'll maintain this little triangle of madness until you or your friend blow a fuse and then its goodbye friendship.

Your only way out is to either tell her to choose or you'll make the choice for her by leaving, or to just straight up leave her.

 

[Baby Tea]

So, as the title suggests, I have a girlfriend (anyone who knows me knows that not having one was almost a running joke with me), but I learned that she is also dating my best friend....
Yes, she is in fact my girlfriend, as she told me that I was her boyfriend several times, even going as far as to kiss me, grab my hand, and other such romantic things without any input from me...
The girl really isn't cheating on me or him, as we (me and the best friend) know about each other with her.

This is the dumbest thing ever.
You can't both be her boyfriends, you know why? Because then it's not a relationship. Then it's one girl making sure she can have all the 'fun' she wants with two guys. She calls you her boyfriend and kisses you and holds your hand. She does the same thing to the other guy. How the heck can you be OK with that at all? What happens if the other two are, or become, sexually active? You still want to kiss her then, knowing where she was the night before?

This is, honestly, like grade 4. Or even Kindergarten! Where you'd run around and just say people were your boyfriend or girlfriend without any actual concept of what it means to be in a relationship! Protip: Kissing and holding hands doesn't mean you're in a relationship.

Honestly man, if you have any self respect, you'd 'dump' the girl. She's trying to have her cake and eat it too, and, quite frankly, I would be flat out insulted if I was you. If she likes you, she'l be with you and not your buddy. If she 'can't choose', then she's way too immature to be in a relationship with either of you.

Of course, you all are probably 14 or something, and this will last about 2 weeks.
But the girl's not right. Not even worth the two weeks of ogling each other in English class.
Oh wait, it's summer. Not even worth the two weeks of hanging out at the YMCA with freezies.

 

[BonsaiK]

So, as the title suggests, I have a girlfriend (anyone who knows me knows that not having one was almost a running joke with me), but I learned that she is also dating my best friend. It's a little uncomfortable, knowing that if go to far (as in, he punched me in the stomach for putting my arm around her), I could get the shit beat out of me (as happened when there wasn't any bad blood between us while playing a card game).

I would just say "Look, I think that you should be with (Best Friend) for now, not me and him" but I partially initiated this, and I do not want to hurt anyone. So, any suggestions would be extremely appreciated, and just some plain old friendship would be very helping.

I've answered this in the Relationship problem thread, at the following link: ----> http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=40#7089571

You know what, maybe you should forget my advice and go with this guy's. Why? Because she's the Escapist (Love) "Advice Guy", and he's pretty good at his job, too.

Oh cheers, thanks for your vote of confidence. My advice is only advice though. People can do whatever the hell they want really.

 

[yoyo13rom]

Oh cheers, thanks for your vote of confidence. My advice is only advice though. People can do whatever the hell they want really.

Ok, Doc! I'll put in free will on my to do list.

 

[Lemon Of Life]

This really depends on how comfortable you guys are with the idea of a threesome.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

People can do whatever the hell they want really.

And that's why I sometimes unicycle around the block naked.

 

[AndrewC]

Use the boost to get through.

And leave.

 

[k-ossuburb]

Have sitcoms taught you NOTHING? Go and watch "Friends" or something similar, they has the advices.

Let him have her, if you work at it you'll find someone else in the future. She's not the only girl in the world. I like the GTFO option the best, but that's just me. It seems everyone is in agreement though from what I can tell.

On the other hand, if you love her more than he does (although I think you said something about it not being serious) then you should fight for it (not literally! I deplore real violence, I just like the violence I create on my T.V. screen whenever I put a DVD or game into a disk tray on whatever device supports it).

Or failing options one and two.

Get her to choose. If she can't then leave it. As I said up front, I don't think it's worth the hassle.

 

[Ickorus]

Hey wait.. im getting dejavu here.

I had this happen to me once, I was in the position of boyfriend for a year then she met one of my friends and got close to him, he was a totally manipulative asshole and a drama-queen to boot and he started saying how he'd kill himself if she didn't go out with him and how he got mugged at gunpoint and shot at[footnote]I shit you not, he actually said this to me and her[/footnote] and pretty much guilt tripped her into going out with him. Of course even at this point she was still with me but then being so upset and angry I left her and didn't speak to her for 3 years.

I feel horrible for what I did now even if it wasn't my fault but I feel I should never have left her because of all the crap the guy put her through, he never stopped guilt tripping her and he kept on upsetting her for the entire duration of their relationship.

Regardless I still think what I did was the best course of action, if your buddy is anything like the 'friend' I just described then warn her and tell her you're leaving her.

Funny thing is about my story is im talking to the girl again and she's now once again one of my best friends. (Guy can go die in a fire for all I care, i'd beat the crap out of him if I ever saw him again)

 

[Baldry]

Wow. This was my case just a month ago. we've broke up and although I was happy till the final week or so it was a bumpy ride and I'd do it all again all you've got to do is make it work

 

[AlexWinter]

Ok here's what you do.

1. 'Borrow' your girl's phone.
2. Arrange a fake meeting between your girl and your best friend in a field.
3. Wait for your friend to show up, jump out and employ a sleeper hold.
4. Dress him in the KKK uniform.
5. Get your girl to come meet you.
6. Depending on what outcome you want, stick her in another KKK outfit or tell her he's a racist.

Optional 7. Rape.

 

[Javex]

Bros before Hoes. 2 guys? She can't have both of you. Seriously, it's you, or him. If she can't choose, stick with your bestie!

 

[Albino Boo]

Get your friend and the girl together in the same room and quietly explain that you don't mind that they are having a relationship. Be relaxed about it and just say the as long as you get sloppy seconds its not a big deal.

 

[Israirie]

I generally don't advocate violence, but sometimes you just have to put a prick in his place. Your 'friend' is stepping way over the line by telling you how far you can go with your girlfriend. If a friend of mine tried to set boundaries between me and my wife, I guarantee you he wouldn't walk away from it. He probably wouldn't even get to finish his sentence. And my wife would probably help kick the shit out of him.

Likewise, if I tried to tell someone what they were and were not allowed to do with their significant other, I wouldn't exactly expect them to shake my hand and smile. It's the sort of thing you can say to any self respecting pacifist mr. friendly and within seconds you'll have a maniac on your hands.

As for the girl, dump her. She's pulling your strings you idiot, it's a mind game.

 

[jimClassic]

Escape, flee, run away!