I finally have a girlfriend! I am so happy I'm posting it-Wait, she's also with my best friend?

[Kif]

Ack, I know 1 word replies are frowned against but my initial reaction is just to say 'kids' and roll my eyes.

If she's dating the two of you she does not know what she wants (like most young girls). My girlfriend refers to this stage in a female's life as "the slutty stage".

If you feel like you're in danger of physical harm then back out.

 

[Lyri]

Well, your friend is a jerk, the girl is a *****. Dump em both.

Going with this.
You friend also seems to have problems with the ladies choice and seemed to have smacked you for it.
Next time he socks you, bust his nose then add a ***** at the end.
Everything sounds better with that word.

 

[Celtic_Kerr]

So, as the title suggests, I have a girlfriend (anyone who knows me knows that not having one was almost a running joke with me), but I learned that she is also dating my best friend. It's a little uncomfortable, knowing that if go to far (as in, he punched me in the stomach for putting my arm around her), I could get the shit beat out of me (as happened when there wasn't any bad blood between us while playing a card game).

I would just say "Look, I think that you should be with (Best Friend) for now, not me and him" but I partially initiated this, and I do not want to hurt anyone. So, any suggestions would be extremely appreciated, and just some plain old friendship would be very helping.

EDIT:

I guess I should explain a bit better.

Yes, she is in fact my girlfriend, as she told me that I was her boyfriend several times, even going as far as to kiss me, grab my hand, and other such romantic things without any input from me.

The friend is not an ass. He really isn't that bad of a guy, and I know I might have put him in a bad light, but there was reason behind me getting hit. Such as the punch to the stomach wasn't with any bad intentions, just normal messing around for such and such reasons that started with a normal joke, but escalated a little. It's more that he can do it than anything else that is a little unnerving.

The girl really isn't cheating on me or him, as we (me and the best friend) know about each other with her, I just feel a little uncomfortable with having another guy with my girlfriend and want some extra input from a third party.

And another thing I forgot to bring up but no one asked, it really isn't that serious, and I have no intentions of making it so, I just want to be able to get out of it without any of my friends, or me, feeling hurt.

Once again, thanks for any input from you guys, you've become almost like another family to me over the past few months I've been here, and it's good knowing you guys will actually talk to me, and others in the community, about problems they are having.

1. I have no tolerance for cheaters. She is a cheater. You and him might know about one another, but unless you are 100% FOR her having another man, it's cheating. She's playing you, both of you. And right after she's led you on, she's going to say "I didn't mean to lead anyone on and then have to pick one"

2. If you don't feel 100% comfortable about this, get out. IT. WILL. DESTROY. YOU. Trust me, I was in this situation, I thought it was fine... Trust and such things tend to evaporate, even for really trusting people like me

3. Did you know she had a man, or did you find out right after she started dating you?

Look, I'm just giving you my perspective from experiance. If you're known as the guy who's not had a girlfriend, I should be know as the man who was cheated on. In some cases I've known about the person but had to end it because it didn't feel right. In others, the girl told me she wasnted to wait a bit before having sex, just to go fuck a friend of mine. THis has happened to me in NO LESS than 3/4 of my relationships, and if you let this happen to you repeatedly, you start thinking YOU'RE the issue.

I'd say play it safe dude. Let her have one man, and if she comes to you, then treat her like gold. If she can't be fully satisfied with just your company, then she doesn't deserve you

 

[Celtic_Kerr]

Ok here's what you do.

1. 'Borrow' your girl's phone.
2. Arrange a fake meeting between your girl and your best friend in a field.
3. Wait for your friend to show up, jump out and employ a sleeper hold.
4. Dress him in the KKK uniform.
5. Get your girl to come meet you.
6. Depending on what outcome you want, stick her in another KKK outfit or tell her he's a racist.

Optional 7. Rape.

Rape and the KKK? Seriously? SERIOUSLY?
Come on dude, too far... This entire idea is just retarded... And racist and... Wow...

 

[MasTerHacK]

Threesome

Duh.

Exactly

 

[The Stonker]

Hey! You just answered your question your self!
Your girlfriends a whore who should burn in the everlasting flames of Hades!

But really get rid of her and beat the living shit out of your so called "best friend".
Because I think kid is that your way to good for this kind of bullshit.

Edit:I've been in this situation except it was my ex boyfriend cheating on me with my other best friend who is a girl.

P.s.I'm bi so I've been through alot of shit situations.

 

[The Stonker]

You're dating your best friend's girlfriend? Scarlet woman!

Srsly dude, tell your best friend and get rid of this chick. She'll come in, ruin EVERYTHING and leave and you'll be minus a girlfriend and a best friend.

Have to be careful with that too, you don't want him thinking your trying to get rid of him so you can make a move on this girl. But this is a good idea, keep the friend lose the drama queen.

haha...He's not much of a friend if he dates your girlfriend mate so I say get rid of them both.

 

[runnernda]

I say get out. Girls like that are no good, whether you want it to be serious or not. I would try to keep your best friend, but advise him to get out, too.

 

[xavi]

It's gonna end up being one or the other.
Go bros before hoes. Trust me.

 

[Noceus]

go and check this out http://tinyurl.com/lbhqjr

 

[Dommyboy]

Threesome

Duh.

Thread solved. And now, we must be off to solve more crimeous crimes.



She seems sadistic. My solution; get with your best friend and make her jealous!

 

[MagicMouse]

There is only one option, a duel to see who gets the girl.

Honestly if you don't like the situation, tell the girl this. If she still insists on having both of you its your choice; deal with it or leave her.

 

[TheScarecrow]

You have three options:

Get out.

Cheat on her, then get out.

Tell your friend to fuck off.

 

[Standby]

This will not end well at all.

As for advice? There seems to be a pretty common theme going from the first page of responses alone.

 

[ryai458]

bro's before ho's, or something clich'e like that.

 

[Diligent]

I know it's super exciting to have your first girlfriend, but step back for a moment and really look at what you're describing.
It sounds like a parody of a relationship - something that might appear in a family channel young teen sitcom, with two dudes vying for the affection of "the popular girl" who is just taking advantage of both of them.

Ok, I'm assuming a lot there, but unless you all amicably decide on a polygamous relationship, that isn't how it works, and somebody is going to get hurt emotionally, physically, or both.

 

[Penguinness]

I just feel a little uncomfortable with having another guy with my girlfriend and want some extra input from a third party.

Or in this case, fourth!

Prolly been ninja'd somewhere.. ah well.

 

[MostlyHarmless]

She sounds like she just wants to stir the pot, and perhaps, break up your friendship.

My advice? Ditch the *****.