i think my freind likes me, erm...wtf do i do?

[Florion]

I'd just like to add to all the people who are wisely advising "Don't bring it up unless she mentions it" - try not to give off mixed signals. If you have a habit of casually touching on the arm a lot or whatever, she might misinterpret it. Social hugging's probably okay as long as you're not too intense and you don't go running towards her from across the hall.

 

[drdamo]

Be honest.
Tell her something like: "I hate being an asshole, but i hate being dishonest even more"
The direct approach isn't always the nicest solution, but yer better off being honest and crush her feelings right now, than lying your ass off and hurt her even more by toying arround with her feelings for weeks/months/years.
If she truely is a good friend, she'll understand your opinion and value your honesty.
She might not like it, but at least she'll know the truth and will be able to get on with her life.

On the other hand, if she is a smart girl with a sense of humour you could always choose not to be a fcking mainstream retard who only wants the perfect figure and enjoy the fun as the people you are, instead of seeing every girl as a potention fckdoll and demand more then actually needed.

And yes, i've had women who wheren't exactly stunningly beautiful to look at, but at least they where able to best me in a contest of wit, rather then giving me the "Duhhhhhhh"-look with every joke i made; not to mention they are usually better in bed than the ones with socially-demanded physicial features.
And being the bold dick that i am i can safely say that i rather have a smart and ugly girl who knows what to do, than a good looking novelty that doesn't know sh*t, let alone even tries to do so.

 

[geldonyetich]

Gotta love how 9/10 of the spazzes on an Internet forum just want to set you up for failure for their own amusement. In fact, I wouldn't put it past the original poster to have made up this whole scenario for that purpose.

Just be yourself. That's apparently good enough for this girl. Frankly, at your age, it's probably just a passing fancy anyway. Learn what you can from it.

 

[Mrkittycat]

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

Well we're 1 billion times better to ask than 4chan.

Why'd you quote me?
Or was it just a deleting subsequent quotes mistake?

Mistake, sorry

 

[Irridium]

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

Well we're 1 billion times better to ask than 4chan.

Why'd you quote me?
Or was it just a deleting subsequent quotes mistake?

Mistake, sorry

Alright then, fair enough.

 

[IcyEvils]

*Oprah-worthy excerpt*

Can I ask your view (as a girl) on the opposite? (Forgive me, OP, for derailing slightly).

Briefly; I'm into her, I think she's into me, she doesn't have any other male friends, I don't have any courage to tell her, and I don't want to scare her off/ruin friendship etc. She's pretty shy with strangers, just chatty with people she feels comfortable with (i.e. me).
What should I do? I'm at a loss, and have been for a few months.

 

[Mrsoupcup]

Snip

Most guys here never have that happen. We're all pretty anti social here, if a girl is into a dude from this site he would probably just run with it. In your case I say just go with it bro, and see were it takes you.

 

[manaman]

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

Because we're "like minded and helpfull individuallys", duh

OT: Make out with her mom
Steal her bus pass
Move to Mexico
Oppress the natives.

No I get asking because you know the community and have some friends here, but just joining out of the blue and asking is what struck me as odd. And no oppressing the natives. Stealing the bus pass I am cool with, and making out with her mom is the best idea yet.

This is the best plan I've heard yet.

Except for oppressing the natives. I am not a fan of that, you know me being Mexican and all.

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

Well we're 1 billion times better to ask than 4chan.

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

Because he doesn't know of the basement?

I have a better one, why did this guy join a gaming forum just to ask for relationship help?

Because lots of people ask us for relationship help. I've grown a Doctor Phil mustache because of all the times this question was asked.

As to the OP: I'd take it slowly and subtly, get her to spell it out clearly, before you do anything rash.

I swear I was quoted 15 times for this comment. It wasn't a question about the community here, more a question of why the guy posted about it out of the blue.

 

[nightwolf667]

hey guys first hello im mike (as you can see), now i know this may seem i bit of an odd place to post this as its a gaming site but hell people here seem to be like minded and helpfull individuallys so im hoping it will work. Ok so im freinds with this girl and i think she has kinda a thing for me , unfortuantly in a compleate roll reversal i dont feel the same way about her , so my question is how should i deal with this, do i ask her about it to conferm my suspishions, let her no im not interested steight up , or simply hide my head in the sand and hope it blows over, shes a really good freind so i would really hate to hurt her im just not sure to go about this...so ya any and all help is appreashiated and sorry for the horrable spelling =S.

1) If you are truly not interested in her, show her your spelling. If she is interested in you, she probably no longer will be. It's cruel but in many circles spelling can be used to define the individual's intelligence and most girls are looking for an intelligent or at least seemingly intelligent boyfriends (if not physically attractive ones).

Trust me. As a girl, I know.

But in all seriousness, like everyone else has been telling you: say nothing. Just ride it out and see where it goes. She's already in the friend zone, so no matter what anyone else is telling you, you really don't need to do that. She'll get the hint eventually. Now, there's also a strong possibility that she doesn't actually like you. Some girls, attractive or unattractive, tend to be friendly, touchy, smiley, whatever with guys they completely consider to be friends (just like they would with their girlfriends) but it's something that guys can get the wrong impression from. So, you need to compare her behavior with other friends to the way she behaves towards you.

Say nothing until she brings it up and don't change your behavior. But that's advice for someone who doesn't want to lose a friend. If you don't care, then do what some of the other people are suggesting.

Or for the expert's opinion talk to BonsaiK.

 

[Nouw]

The wisest choice would be to ask BonsaiK. He is the Relationship Problem Person of the Escapist.

Also, as Nike says. Just Do It.

 

[Hardcore31]

You could try this: try finding reasons to confirm that she is not actually into you, and keep saying to yourself ¨she does not has a crush on me because....¨ . Then maybe she isnt into you at all. Just consider it an option.

 

[Ziadaine_v1legacy]

Simple, you grow a pair and tell her straight "I have no interest in you".

If you just bullshit it and try to sweeten it, it just hurts them even more and makes you look like a dick, I've seen it firsthand.

 

[Blue Musician]

im 17 and well... i dont like to say it but she isnt very physicly attracive tbh, feel a bit of a dick for saying it but hell =S

I recommend you to use the quote function if you are going to reply to anyone.

OT: Just say it directly. Am I the only one in this planet who doesn't cares for others people feelings?
Other than that, I cannot think about anything else...

 

[bak00777]

Put her in the friend zone. Girls do it to us all the time, it's only natural one of us gets payback.

fucking hate the friend zone, its such a damned thing, if you are not in the friend zone and ask the girl out, then it might seem odd, but if you are in too far then she might never see you as anything other then a friend. You have to be in the zone for the perfect amount of time, which can be tricky.

OT: wait it out, don't want to make the situation too awkward.
Edit: don't go and tell her no, but also don't try to "sugar coat" it, just let it fade. Personally i fucking hate it when the rejection is sugar coated.

 

[AmayaOnnaOtaku]

1) Make big fuss over another girl.
2) See how she reacts.
3) Take situation from there.

Or a wiser choice would be to consult BonsaiK [http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=1]. He is good with these things.

Man Dammit I got mind ninja'd. When I say this thread my first thought was where is Bonsai when you need him.


*turns on the BonsaiK bat signal*

 

[Westaway]

Can I ask why you think she likes you?

 

[Westaway]

im 17 and well... i dont like to say it but she isnt very physicly attracive tbh, feel a bit of a dick for saying it but hell =S

I recommend you to use the quote function if you are going to reply to anyone.

OT: Just say it directly. Am I the only one in this planet who doesn't cares for others people feelings?
Other than that, I cannot think about anything else...

Trust me, I don't care about other people's feelings either.
My friends asked me yesterday if I hated him because I always make fun of him.
I figure if they can't figure out that I don't mean any of my insults they deserve to feel bad.

 

[Oinodaemon]

let her know real subtle-like...just drop hints and talk about some chick you have a crush on nonstop

 

[JohnSmith]

Is anyone else wondering whether this topic is going to compose a portion of someones thesis. "Societal Disconnect In The Gamer Community", "Egotism and Interactive Media" or the less catchy "Gamers advise: don't bone ugly chicks".

OT: If you are generally not physically attracted to this girl then that will make a relationship difficult (although not as hard as if you think she smells funny) so don't bring it up. Avoid public situations where she would feel that she could tell in front of people (Truth or Dare, Spin the Bottle; that kind of stupid crap its usually compounded by how inebriated everyone is.) and reinforce that you are glad you are friends with her.

However basing your decision not to have a relationship with this person based entirely on physical appearance may not be the best way to go. In the Venn Diagram of dating the set of people with common interests that you enjoy talking to is much smaller than the pool of moderately attractive individuals.

 

[Godhead]

im 17 and well... i dont like to say it but she isnt very physicly attracive tbh, feel a bit of a dick for saying it but hell =S

Do you have a picture? And if not then Rule 11.