nekoali said:
I can only facepalm very hard over the original poster's attitudes.
"It's not cheating if it's lesbian"
"Can I watch?"
Seriously, cheating is cheating. And no, most lesbians are not going to let you watch, the same as most hetero couples aren't going to let you watch. They are human beings, not things there to entertain and excite you. There are plenty of movies out there for that.
Now, me personally, my girlfriend DOES see other people. Men and women. And tells me about it. I am okay with this, as we have an open polyamourous relationship. She is also perfectly okay with me seeing or dating other people. So for me, my girlfriend can't 'cheat' on me, unless she's hiding things. It doesn't bother me in the least that she sees other people, in fact I find it kind of fun and makes me happy for when I can't be there for her.
However, if I were in a monogamous relationship with the expectation that neither of us saw/dated/slept with other people and I found out that my partner was going behind my back... I would be hurt regardless of the gender of the person they saw. It's not a matter of who they were seeing, but the fact that they broke the trust we had that makes it cheating.
Don't know why you're raging so hard. I've asked about people's opinions and their own relationships, not about this exclusive situation.
I've asked my girlfriend about that, and she said that she would ask what I thought about that first because I am older than her and have more experience in these matters. She also knows I'm quite liberal about sexuality, but I can get very angry and jelaous if emotions are involved. Of course if it was just experimentation, and as someone already said, seeking pleasures that a man can't give, I'm all for it. After all, the relationship isn't just about sex, it's about giving comfort and love when needed, supporting your partner in things he/she loves doing.
Vivace-Vivian said:
Being a woman, who has been with a woman, we aren't just playing around.
As much love can go into a lesbian sexual encounter as any other and that, is what you shouold be worried about. Anyone can have sex with you, not anyone can love you.
I know the difference between love and sex, I'm just surprised that some people wouldn't trust their partner in these situations. Of course it differs from individual to individual, relationship to relationship, and the boundaries you set in said relationship.
And I wasn't considering male homosexuals, because... well I'm not into that stuff, and women could have different opinions on that, maybe even more extreme than some guys here.
I've been hurt, depressed and sad, but that made me look at things from another perspective.
Also, yes, it's still cheating, the gender of the other person has no relevance on this.
