Should I add weed to the mix because I am an avid smoker. (theres a good idea for a topic)dogstile said:
Im 22 and still not laid (starting to get anxious)
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Don't stress out about it, think about something else. You're gonna make it worse if you kept thinking it is an issue.
I'm in the same situation as you but I don't think about it, If you have a hobby concentrate on that (I write stories) . And if you are sexually frustrated don't be embarassed about masturbation, It's ok to let off a little steam.
I'm in the same situation as you but I don't think about it, If you have a hobby concentrate on that (I write stories) . And if you are sexually frustrated don't be embarassed about masturbation, It's ok to let off a little steam.
As everyone else is saying, just go out and socalise and meet new people. And hell, your only 22, i wouldn't be surprised if i'm still a virgin at 30.
I don't understand what the big deal about losing your virginity soon is myself. So what? Some of my friends lost it when they're well over 25 and nobody thinks any less of them. Personally I value self-imposed chastity, hard as it is, since any first impressions affect the following times it better be worth my while.
Call me old-fashioned, but I actually look down upon people wanting to lose their virginity so eagerly.
Call me old-fashioned, but I actually look down upon people wanting to lose their virginity so eagerly.
I don't like how everyone is suggesting you go to Amsterdamn.
I know they're probably joking, but you should lose your virginity because you love that person, not because you want to get laid.
Being a virgin does not make you a loser. I wish I lost mine to my current boyfriend, but I was stupid and reckless and now I can't get it back.
The moment you stop wanting it, it'll happen. Girls can sense desperation.
I know they're probably joking, but you should lose your virginity because you love that person, not because you want to get laid.
Being a virgin does not make you a loser. I wish I lost mine to my current boyfriend, but I was stupid and reckless and now I can't get it back.
The moment you stop wanting it, it'll happen. Girls can sense desperation.
I'm 24 and in much the same boat.
Hell, if I didn't have standards I could one-night all the time but I don't want that.
Hell, if I didn't have standards I could one-night all the time but I don't want that.
Big whoopty shit. I'm nearly 28 and I still haven't lost mine yet and it's not looking like it's going to happen any time soon. Who gives a shit what your friends say?
Don't feel too bad about being a virgin. It isn't too bad from my experience.
But if you feel that you must have sex find a nice lady, take her out on a few dates and when the moment feels right go for it.
But if you feel that you must have sex find a nice lady, take her out on a few dates and when the moment feels right go for it.
Don't buy into the "your not a man until you have sex" bullshit, because that's crap and you need to put that out of your mind as soon as possible. However, the notion of waiting until your married is very commendable... that's just not the way it works, and anybody that tells you different is a fucking liar. It's the times we live in - people have urges, and they have to fill those urges. I'm not saying you need to go out right now and hookup with the first girl you can, because I can see you making the mistake or miracle by the grace of God (either or) of a buddy I used to have that was a virgin until he was twenty one, and ended up impregnating the first girl he had sex with... very shitty situation. Nicest guy you'd ever meet, but not father material.StuddedZombie said:
You've gotta do what you've gotta do, but don't be afraid to get out there and have a fucking connection with another human being... and if it goes *there* whatever, have a blast. Just be smart about it, that's it. I don't think you want any little StuddedZombies running around just yet.
Why are you so bothered about your age? I'm 21 and still a virgin, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. I'm honestly not upset that it hasn't happened for me yet, and you getting more and more anxious the older you get will probably prevent you from finding someone to lose yours. I honestly wonder why people are so bothered about losing it young. I wonder why people are so bothered at all. When it happens, it'll happen, and I'm sure it'll be marvellous and amazing and blahblahblah, but I really can't see why there should be a rush.
Quite simply you have to convince yourself you don't care. Before University I had a two-year 'drought', you might say. I'm pretty sure women can smell the desperation on you because I just had no luck with women. Now, call it coincidence or whatever, but I decided during my summer holidays that I just didn't care anymore - sex, relationships, it was all too much effort. I just decided I was going to forget about sex and just enjoy my time with friends and so on.
And whaddya know? Three weeks into my second year I get into an easy-going relationship, with regular 'good times'.
Long story short, just forget about being pressured. Just enjoy yourself and talk to women as though they were your mates, rather than 'potentials'. They will feel comfortable because you are and you'll be able to impress people with effortless cool, charm and yada yada yah.
And as far as the prostitute goes? Definite no-no. Losing your virginity by a certain date is not at all important. Who you lose it to, however, is. Doesn't matter if it's their first time or not, but don't do it with someone you've drugged, blackmailed or purchased - none of these are something to be proud of!
And whaddya know? Three weeks into my second year I get into an easy-going relationship, with regular 'good times'.
Long story short, just forget about being pressured. Just enjoy yourself and talk to women as though they were your mates, rather than 'potentials'. They will feel comfortable because you are and you'll be able to impress people with effortless cool, charm and yada yada yah.
And as far as the prostitute goes? Definite no-no. Losing your virginity by a certain date is not at all important. Who you lose it to, however, is. Doesn't matter if it's their first time or not, but don't do it with someone you've drugged, blackmailed or purchased - none of these are something to be proud of!
If you are just concerned about getting laid:
Step 1: Confidence is sexy. I know how hard it is to break that down, but you have to learn to be comfortable with yourself and who you are.
Step 2: If you REALLY are just concerned with breaking the virginity barrier, there is no better way to do it then to hit a bar sometime near closing time. I have friends who have NO business NOT being virgins, but they have gotten laid by vulturing the drunk chick.
Though be aware, the next morning you MAY receive an "oh god, what happened? Did we do it?"
I had a similar bout of "omigod, really?" when i was still a virgin at 19. Believe me, there are women out there who, in the right circumstances, will bone anyone and anything! (Just...sometimes... They may have breasts with no nipples
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Step 1: Confidence is sexy. I know how hard it is to break that down, but you have to learn to be comfortable with yourself and who you are.
Step 2: If you REALLY are just concerned with breaking the virginity barrier, there is no better way to do it then to hit a bar sometime near closing time. I have friends who have NO business NOT being virgins, but they have gotten laid by vulturing the drunk chick.
Though be aware, the next morning you MAY receive an "oh god, what happened? Did we do it?"
I had a similar bout of "omigod, really?" when i was still a virgin at 19. Believe me, there are women out there who, in the right circumstances, will bone anyone and anything! (Just...sometimes... They may have breasts with no nipples
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It's about confidence.
No really.
To most women, THE most important quality for a guy to have, is confidence. Ask some girls, and most will agree. Although some people seem convinced that you can't work on shyness, you CAN work on it. You just have to force yourself to do things which feel uncomfortable at first, and then gradually they become easier and feel more natural. Once women see you're comfortable around them, and confident in yourself and your environment it will be MUCH easier to get into a relationship and go all the way.
No really.
To most women, THE most important quality for a guy to have, is confidence. Ask some girls, and most will agree. Although some people seem convinced that you can't work on shyness, you CAN work on it. You just have to force yourself to do things which feel uncomfortable at first, and then gradually they become easier and feel more natural. Once women see you're comfortable around them, and confident in yourself and your environment it will be MUCH easier to get into a relationship and go all the way.
and this too.Oliver90909 said:
If you're really bent out of shape about it, hire a prostitute. No, I'm not joking. It's the world's oldest profession for a reason. Just don't get some crackhead off the corner, go to one of Nevada's many very reputable brothels.
Or wait it out. It really isn't that big of a deal. While sex is awesome, it won't change your life. Probably not, at any rate.
Or wait it out. It really isn't that big of a deal. While sex is awesome, it won't change your life. Probably not, at any rate.
This might seem trollish but hell, if you REALLY are that desperate to have sex then just find a brothel.