Is it justified to hate your parents for the same reason people say you should love them?

[Azaradel]

No, I wouldn't say so.

However, I don't think you should love them simply because they brought you into the world either.

I despise my father for quite a number of reasons, the main one being that he's an ass. An ass will always be an ass, no matter if you're related to him. I don't see why I should have some sort of obligation to love someone who acts like a complete ****, so I don't.

If you're going to hate them, at least come up with a better reason than "you're my parents"

 

[Tim Mazzola]

There are plenty of reasons one could hate their parents. This is not one of them.

 

[Edana_ni_Emer]

Resent your parents for bringing you into the world? Under certain circumstances, I could see it. Crippling congenital issues that they knew about beforehand could certainly be one of them. Serious abuse from your parents could be another. And seriously, anybody who thinks it's as easy as "call CPS, they'll get you out!" is ignorant and naive.

That aside, hating or resenting them for WHY they brought you into the world seems perfectly reasonable to me. If they wanted an accessory, a clone, a vehicle for their own dreams without yours coming into play, a punching bag, a therapist, a "best friend", a bit of territory to war over, a sex-toy, a yes-man, somebody to do the chores so they don't have to....

Why on Earth wouldn't you resent them for that? It doesn't take much to get from resentment to hatred.

For those speaking on the "Life is what you make it! It's wonderful!" front, I cordially invite you to spend six months with crippling depression, or anxiety disorders, or schizophrenia, or severe bipolar. Life is what you make of it when you're starting from roughly 'even'. For a lot of people, they're struggling to hang on with their fingernails to the concept that life MIGHT someday reach 'livably sucky'.

So if somebody hates their parents... I'm not going to judge.

If any of y'all want to have discussions with people who are in the hanging-on-with-their-fingernails faction, www.crazyboards.com is a pretty good place to start. I'd seriously recommend it to people who are in that boat themselves, too.

 

[SsilverR]

Just wondering, people say you should always love your parents because they brought you into life and without them you wouldn't be here.

Lets look at the other side of that, lets look at those who genuinely have no interest in life and hate it. We all know this life is far from perfect ... far .. FAAAAAAAAAAAAR from perfect, but is it justified to hate your parents for knowingly bringing you into this fucked up reality? especially if they know that your surroundings completely suck and will possibly result in you being miserable your entire life.

I know it's a pretty perverse thought but it's been bugging me, does anyone really have the right to feel that way? is it fair?

If I hadn't been directly contacted by the mod squad telling me that one more shitty post would get me banned, I'd rip you a new asshole for this one, you selfish, pathetic child.

People that shit all over their parents give me soooo much rage... Unless you're getting seriously and horribly abused(and if you were you sure as shit wouldn't be sitting at a computer posting crap on gaming forums), then you're so much luckier then you realise, as is most people that have parents.

To answer your question, No, no-one has a RIGHT to hate their parents, or anyone else in the world for that matter. It isn't fair. And seriously, I would be careful about expressing such opinions in public if you ever come to the UK. I've seen people beaten by other kids for talking shit about their own parents. It's just a disgusting thing to ever do, and frankly, you sicken me.

Fuck it, this turned into a rant and I'm gonna leave it as is, if this gets me banned then so be it, it can't be said often or loud enough.

First of all, I'm from the UK
Secondly, fuck you! you talk like you fucking know me and my parents, I told the bloody world I hate my parents .. not once have i ever tried to hide it and I've never gotten any heat for it. You're a funny guy.

 

[somonels]

No, Yes, No.
No, though I prefer to do so.

 

[loc978]

(addressing the opening post as a hypothetical, here. Not trying to be insulting)
Depends on where you live, I suppose. In a first-world country like the US or UK, outside of extreme poverty, drug abuse, et cetera, I'd be tempted to say

Spoiler: this.

I suppose I should have included Canada, since that's where the song was made...

However, in extenuating circumstances where one's quality of life is truly terrible (starvation, abuse, homelessness, et cetera) with little to no hope of improvement... sure.

 

[Bakuryukun]

God no, anyone who acts like it's their parents fault for bringing them into a shithole of a world (which it isn't by the way, life is beautiful and more people need to realize that) is a whiny bastard.

or has had a very hard life. Things aren't so clear cut in life. You are presenting a VAST oversimplification.

Life's only as horrible as YOU make it.

I've yet to meet an instance in a developed country where this wasn't the case.

All that implies to me is that you've had a very sheltered life.

 

[loc978]

Life's only as horrible as YOU make it.

I've yet to meet an instance in a developed country where this wasn't the case.

All that implies to me is that you've had a very sheltered life.

Completely sheltered... Hell, I've known people born to homeless parents without ID cards... the kind of people who can't receive other than the most basic emergency care at a hospital, aren't allowed to get a job, much less attend public school... and are essentially forced to make a living illegally. Those people exist in every major city in the US.

 

[Hugga_Bear]

No but I hate the bullshit YOU SHOULD LOVE EM COS THEY'RE FAMILY.

No.

You should respect them and love them if they raise you well and such but ultimately they don't get automatic kudos points for having unprotected sex I'm sorry that's just bull. They are people and for the most part parents do a good job and thus deserve respect. If they don't then they can fuck right off.

I hate the family therefore love shit though, if I had a sibling who was horrible I would have no more (perhaps less) respect for them than anyone else who was horrible.

Like to clause all this by pointing out I have a pretty good family, my dad has his moments of being a complete dickhead but it's naivety more than anything else.

 

[xXAsherahXx]

This world is a 50/50 one. There is an equal amount of shit to balance out the beauty. The people are shit, but the world is beauty.

Hating your parents because of it is ridiculous.

 

[SsilverR]

Life's only as horrible as YOU make it.

I've yet to meet an instance in a developed country where this wasn't the case.

Sorry dude .. not trying to be disrespectful but FUCK NO!! Dude I'm from the UK and I've seen guys get screwed over through no fault of their own, I've seen some hardcore optimists turn cynical because of some shit they had no control over.

 

[wiggler]

God man your parents are evil the world is so unfair. You were born in a 1st world nation, have accsess to a computer and internet, and have food on the table.

Look I don't know your parents, they could be shits, but you can't hate them for giving birth to you, thats just stupid. Life might seem bleak from you but life is sound if you make an effort

 

[Naeo]

Definitely not, because the world is a much, much better place than all the cynical "look at me I'm jaded" teenagers on the internet make it out to be. Yes, some kids are truly born into unfortunate situations that I would wish on no one--kids born into the most extreme poverty, unsure of if they'll be able to eat tomorrow, kids born into war-torn areas who don't know if they'll be alive tomorrow, and so on. But on the whole, particularly if we're primarily considering the western/developed world, no. It's never a parent's fault for bringing a child into the world. It's the kid's fault for bitching about life and the state of humanity rather than, I dunno, growing up or trying to do something about anything.

Also there's an umlaut in my Captcha. IS A REGULAR O NOT GOOD ENOUGH FOR YOU?

 

[Twilight_guy]

If someone legitimately hates life then he or she will find a way to end his or her life. Dead people don't have opinions and we don't debate the legitimacy of their feelings. Therefore the argument is moot. The only people that we can argue over are the people who say they hate life and but don't hate it enough to do something about it. I don't like whinny emo hypocrites like this so no I don't think they should rationalized in their hate of their parents.

 

[SuperSuperSuperGuy]

Hating them for just that one reason isn't all that reasonable. You can, however, hate them for how treat you afterwards. I understand hating the world, but hating parents who've cared for you for the first couple decades of your life is a different story. If they've abused you, then it's justified to hate them. They didn't try to give birth to you specifically just to spite you, so that's not a good reason to hate them.

It's true that the world is a messed-up place, full of suffering and other ugly things. I hate all of that. It's terrible. However, sometime it just makes one appreciate the beautiful things that much more.

 

[floppylobster]

They had no idea you were going to survive, or actually live beyond the first few seconds of life. If you don't like it, stop breathing. You'll find it very hard but it will illustrate just where your life force is coming from.

 

[Twilight_guy]

If someone legitimately hates life then he or she will find a way to end his or her life. Dead people don't have opinions and we don't debate the legitimacy of their feelings. Therefore the argument is moot. The only people that we can argue over are the people who say they hate life and but don't hate it enough to do something about it. I don't like whinny emo hypocrites like this so no I don't think they should rationalized in their hate of their parents.

i thought it was about hating parents not life? I mean I hate my life too but not enough to take it. Or rather i hate my young life(the one spent with my parent) and i hate that that time was wasted.

I read it as people who legitimate hate their life and hate their parents for cursing them with life. Someone who legitimately hates life would be suicidal as they would love to end that curse. In order for this to be a valid reason to hate your parents you have to hate your life first and that generally ends the argument because people like that end their lives. If its just "I hate my parents because they ruined my childhood" that's a different argument.

 

[MazdaXR]

No it is crap to blame your parents for that, its just a way to blame someone for a mess of a life one has created for themselves. Life is good, and I love my parents for bringing me into the world and teaching me to be a good person.