Is roleplay sex okay?
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I can already see the conversation:CommonSense1013 said:
"Hey bob, do you mind if me and your girlfriend pretend to have sex?"
"Wait, what, no! Why would you ask that?"
"No its cool we just want to do some role play"
--->Insert pain here.
It's simple: Just ask her. Is it game or more? If she did not intentionally do this in order to do something sex related with you but jut in order to roleplay, then it's fine. Just remember: It is a game and it is two sided. The thoughts behind those actions do count. If she was male, for example, playing a female character - were you two having gay sex? Noooooo. That's the answer. So ... ask her what her intention was. In short: If she wanted intense RP - fine. If she wanted to turn you on - suggest her to dumb her BF and do her.
Who started it afterall?
Who started it afterall?
See this is why I come to this community as well. I met one of my best friends asking a personal question that I needed serious help with on here. and I agree with Rob, However I've had a relationship where she was having "Roleplay sex" online with somebody, then ended up having ACTUAL sex with them while we were together, so I am a bit biased here. However, it does all come down to, would you be upset or heartbroken or pissed if she was YOUR girlfriend and she was doing this with somebody else?Grabbin Keelz said:
Also, I like your morals in the fact that you'll discontinue it if it's hurting somebody else. You're a good man. Anybody tells you different you tell them to come talk to NoriYuki Sato =P
i (cant belive im posting this) have actually done this before*deep shaaaaaaame* and trust me you two just want to stay friends.
Generally, I'd find it not OK.
Of course, if say, I were to do it and be in a relationship... Well, I'm asexual, for one. And I hold myself to a very strict rule with roleplay: I want to watch the character and see what they do, not be the character and do what they do.
If I were to roleplay in a sexual context (which I honestly can't ever see myself doing) it would be like writing a romantic scene in a non-romance novel.
I suppose that's where I draw the line. The whole thing's pretty questionable from the start, but if it goes beyond what is needed to suggest a love scene... then yeah, no.
Of course, if say, I were to do it and be in a relationship... Well, I'm asexual, for one. And I hold myself to a very strict rule with roleplay: I want to watch the character and see what they do, not be the character and do what they do.
If I were to roleplay in a sexual context (which I honestly can't ever see myself doing) it would be like writing a romantic scene in a non-romance novel.
I suppose that's where I draw the line. The whole thing's pretty questionable from the start, but if it goes beyond what is needed to suggest a love scene... then yeah, no.
Just parroting what some other people said, if this is something her boyfriend is in the dark about it isn't necessarily a good thing.
I had it happen to me, my girlfriend was into a bunch of RP chat rooms (back when MSN ran a bunch of random user created chatrooms) and I wasn't super into it, but I'd show interest and listen to her talk about this or that person etc. It was her thing like videogames were mine.
But I decided to give it a try so we could spend more time together and I could get to know her online friends like she knew my real life ones.
I get into the chat and I'm like hey guys I'm 'Y' 's boyfriend, what's up. Instantly kicked. I was like uhh wtf? Went back into the chat kicked again, get an angry message from the guy who kicked me and he was like "f*cked up joke, I'm her boyfriend, don't come back loser".
When I saw her in class I was like uhh hey what's up and I explained the situation and demanded an explanation. And she was all like oh it is just an RP thing it isn't serious, the guy was just acting out his character.
Personally I didn't believe it, went back into the chat a few days later when she wasn't on. Private messaged and told her I was her boyfriend in real life and asked him if it was just an RP thing or if he thought it was real. He thought it was real. Confronted the g/f she said she would break it off. Like 3 months later, she went to a wedding came back said she met the guy, got drunk, and had sex with him and said she was sorry but it felt right.
I was absolutely floored since in the almost 2 years we went out we never did more than kiss. Needless to say I did not speak a word to her the next 2 years in school and never saw her face again after we graduated.
I had it happen to me, my girlfriend was into a bunch of RP chat rooms (back when MSN ran a bunch of random user created chatrooms) and I wasn't super into it, but I'd show interest and listen to her talk about this or that person etc. It was her thing like videogames were mine.
But I decided to give it a try so we could spend more time together and I could get to know her online friends like she knew my real life ones.
I get into the chat and I'm like hey guys I'm 'Y' 's boyfriend, what's up. Instantly kicked. I was like uhh wtf? Went back into the chat kicked again, get an angry message from the guy who kicked me and he was like "f*cked up joke, I'm her boyfriend, don't come back loser".
When I saw her in class I was like uhh hey what's up and I explained the situation and demanded an explanation. And she was all like oh it is just an RP thing it isn't serious, the guy was just acting out his character.
Personally I didn't believe it, went back into the chat a few days later when she wasn't on. Private messaged and told her I was her boyfriend in real life and asked him if it was just an RP thing or if he thought it was real. He thought it was real. Confronted the g/f she said she would break it off. Like 3 months later, she went to a wedding came back said she met the guy, got drunk, and had sex with him and said she was sorry but it felt right.
I was absolutely floored since in the almost 2 years we went out we never did more than kiss. Needless to say I did not speak a word to her the next 2 years in school and never saw her face again after we graduated.
I've done it several times before, so I'm likely biased if I say "Yes" in any case. Although be careful, because it can backfire in an evening if you both aren't on the same step at the beginning of things.
..As well, just ask the second consenting individual on the other end. Simple as that.
..As well, just ask the second consenting individual on the other end. Simple as that.
I was seriously looking forward to some 2d4 piercing damage, saves: Will negates.
But, I wouldn't consider it cheating if her BF is okay with it.
But, I wouldn't consider it cheating if her BF is okay with it.
Wait it can backfire...how, actually never mind.ShadowsofHope said:
But for me...
If she wants to do it, I wont mind, but me personally not really...
Difficult question, really. Imo, it depends almost entirely on what you and your friend think. As long as their is no sexual tension between you, no "thoughts that should be suppressed but are so nice to think about", then I don't see why roleplaying it would be bad. Just make sure it doesn't lead to something that would cause problems.