OmegaXzors said:
While this does strike you as "immature," when I see kids who are trouble makers like so, I blame their parents. Why should it matter to you if he cares what other people thinks about him? So do a lot of people. I wouldn't put it as far as to say he's as immature. Little kids need a good yelling or so every once in a while.
Poor argument. What does it matter to you if it matters to me...? Slippery slope. And it doesn't matter to me, I'm just offering some introspection.
Kids being idiots, and most them are, not unlike most adults, isn't related to the question I posed.
Geo Da Sponge said:
My story, my story! So, me and my friend are walking home from school. I'm in year 13, he's in year 12. But this bunch of kids starts pestering us, a variety of year 7s to 9s. Apparently they had been taught by my friend's mother at Primary school, and saw this as a good reason to try and annoy us. We try to brush them off, by friend making non-committal comments about his mum teaching them. Then they start taking the piss out of how talks. That in itself is pretty weird; I would have understood if they've made fun of my voice as I sound quite posh, but my friend just sounds... normal. So anyway, they're then walking behind us, sniggering. One of the year 7s starts 'seatbelting' me (this is where you grab the back of someone's bag and yank back hard, jerking them backwards). After him doing this a couple of times, I swing round and tell him to fuck off. Any reasonable person would see at this point that I'm not going to put up with this. But no, the kid feels the need to give my bag another pull.
At which point I fly off the handle and in the words of my friend, "Go Batman on his arse." I grabbed him by the neck, pulled him over to a wall and yelled in his face "Fucking look at me! Is this fucking funny?". Yes I know it was a bit much, put sometimes things just push me too far. I then stride off with my friend in tow, having snapped out of it. His year 9 sister had a yell at us, but to be honest, what did he expect to happen?
Too much? Hardly. I would have just punched him out. More effective, less hassle. If all they're doing is talking then who cares? If they get physical then just terminate them.
Since we're sharing stories: when I was in 9th grade (or so), I remember one day I was just sitting around waiting for the school bus with my friend, and this dickhead (he was like...2 or 3 years younger and my backpack was bigger than him) was spouting insults just for the sake of being a dick. My friend, who was about as mature as you can expect from a 9th grader (no insult to him), was asking me "Man, aren't you going to do anything about it?! You're just gonna let him do it?!", to which I constantly replied I simply didn't give a shit... Which I didn't. Then this kid made the mistake of picking up rocks and throwing. At this point I sighed, got up, grabbed him by the throat and basically did a chokeslam on a marble floor, with his head hitting a rock or something. No, don't worry, I didn't kill him, was a pretty "gentle" slam, just enough to hurt him a lot.
He cried, I laughed and walked away, he never bothered me again. Ever. That's how you take care of it. You don't get angry, you don't rage, you ignore the retards till they compromise your physical integrity, at which point you do whatever it takes to make them stop.
Geo Da Sponge said:
Maybe food chain is a bad way to put it... But if they are indeed 'top of the food chain' as you say they'll soon find out that if they act like pricks to people bigger, older and stronger than them they won't stay there for very long. Not because they need to be taught a lesson. Just because that's how things work. In the example above from my life it turns out that they shouldn't try to piss off a total stranger who's bigger than they are, because they might find out that the stranger has anger issues that occasionally come to a head.
It's irrelevant whether the person who retaliates finds this funny, or is proud of what they've done, it's just what happens when you try to piss off someone bigger than you.
There's no need to get angry, just show them there are boundaries, and consequences for their actions.
And I never said otherwise, I for once enjoy doing "bad things"... So when someone gives me a reason to do them, all the better. But flying off the handle and getting angry and angst... It really just makes it hard to take someone seriously.
hyperhammy said:
The problem is that they would call me a ****** from a half mile away. I just don't want to chase them down.
Again, why does this bother you that much? They're just talking. They're just being stupid. The more you get angry over it, the more they'll do, because making you angry is the point.
If it really bothers you, outsmart them. Just remember them, and then next time they're sitting around eating lunch, or waiting for the bus, or whatever, just kick them in the head then ask them if they still wanna make fun of you. Not only doesn't that reinforce their attitude by not providing them the feedback they expect, but it also provides them negative feedback.
You know what they say, "don't get angry, get even".
