HOW DID YOU FIND OUT!?!?! I'LL KILL YOU!!!!!! I'LL- *shot with tranquilizer dart*Imbrium said:
Love, why can't you find it?
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that's not what i'm saying. what i AM saying is i have to many disconnections from the average person to find many friends, let alone love.Monoochrom said:
and FYI, people do understand me. mostly.
and yes, i do know what love is and i am very much aware what it feels and looks like.
please don't escalate this into an argument.
Basically, because my affiliation with women is something less than spectacular. I'm not very good-looking, and I hardly doubt a woman has even been remotely interested in me. My interactions with them mostly consist of just passing by some girls from class I know in a hallway and exchanging "hi" and "what's up". That's it. Even when I try to strike a conversation with them and want to get to know them better, they never want to do the same.
Constant rejection is also something I don't cope with very well.
But, to summarize part of it in a sentence...
And even if I DO manage to ask some girl I like out to some ice cream or hang out somewhere, they always say yes, but then I find out from friends that they really don't want to. Essentially a "I don't want to hurt your feelings directly" no.
I'm contemplating on just giving up on "love" altogether, as I'm beginning to believe I am one of those not meant for it.
Constant rejection is also something I don't cope with very well.
But, to summarize part of it in a sentence...
Basically this.steeple said:
And even if I DO manage to ask some girl I like out to some ice cream or hang out somewhere, they always say yes, but then I find out from friends that they really don't want to. Essentially a "I don't want to hurt your feelings directly" no.
I'm contemplating on just giving up on "love" altogether, as I'm beginning to believe I am one of those not meant for it.
I'm not particularly attractive, I'm somewhat unfeeling (not ASPD but close), I'm gay and no one knows, I can't tell which other guys are gay and asking would be... awkward to say the least, especially if they aren't. I also have very few friends. As such, I'm still single.
I've found it, and lost it and fond it again and got it snatched away from me and I think I may have found it again in a very dear friend but I'm not sure whether i'm too shy and scared to go for it. Or it might just be that I'm only just 20 and I have hormones all over the place.
Well, aside from the fact that my own personal fetishes restrict me from truly finding any naturally-grown woman to be sexy, the biggest contributor to my persistent loneliness is simply the fact that I've never really associated with any women. I've been a gamer all my life, a loner up until mid-high school, and can count the number of lifelong friends I have with a single hand. Kind of hard to get to know women when the typical places you'd find them are everywhere I'm not.
I don't interact with many people of the opposite sex, I don't go looking for a relationship, and I don't really care.
I used to care when I was in school, but now I can see it was really more of a matter of being (or at least seeming to be) one of the only people who didn't have a significant other.
I used to care when I was in school, but now I can see it was really more of a matter of being (or at least seeming to be) one of the only people who didn't have a significant other.
a running theme I've seen is 1 "shyness" 2 "inability to let go of a past love" 3 "fear of being to ugly" and 4 "I just don't want it"
1: Shyness is easy to break, and it really just starts with changing up your routine. Instead of taking the left hall to get to class, take the right. Don't park in the section of the parking lot you always do, find a new spot. Always order the same thing at resturants, change it up. This will help break you of that, it worked for me and I didn't have anyone to tell me it would, I just assumed it would.
2: You have to let go, there's nothing there for you and holding on will just push you away from everyone. Life isn't a movie, a fun spastic girl isn't going to show up and totally make you forget the past love, it has to be done by you. (I have a long story here, but I will not share unless asked to)
3: No one is to ugly to be loved, and that is a fact. I recently attended a funeral (why does it start with 'fun' btw) and there was a woman there who, and I mean it, had no neck. It went from chest to chin, she wasnt strong or built, or fat, she just had no neck, and she had a husband. "But she's a woman, she has all the power" False. I've seen many men where I work who have wives, be it young or old, and many of them are "ugly" as you would describe them. Now not everyone will see it as so, and don't expect anyone to just fall in love with you, it's something that must be worked on, over months and even years.
4: You don't want it because you haven't experinced it. Love is something that will change who you are, what you do, who you hang out with. True love doesn't just change you physically but spiritually and emotionally. Love is something thats hard to describe. But I can best say it's like surving something that should've killed you, or a fresh breath of cold mountain air. You come out and that first breath, that deep inhale, that feeling you get from "being alive" is the feeling love spread through you every time you see that person you're in love with.
1: Shyness is easy to break, and it really just starts with changing up your routine. Instead of taking the left hall to get to class, take the right. Don't park in the section of the parking lot you always do, find a new spot. Always order the same thing at resturants, change it up. This will help break you of that, it worked for me and I didn't have anyone to tell me it would, I just assumed it would.
2: You have to let go, there's nothing there for you and holding on will just push you away from everyone. Life isn't a movie, a fun spastic girl isn't going to show up and totally make you forget the past love, it has to be done by you. (I have a long story here, but I will not share unless asked to)
3: No one is to ugly to be loved, and that is a fact. I recently attended a funeral (why does it start with 'fun' btw) and there was a woman there who, and I mean it, had no neck. It went from chest to chin, she wasnt strong or built, or fat, she just had no neck, and she had a husband. "But she's a woman, she has all the power" False. I've seen many men where I work who have wives, be it young or old, and many of them are "ugly" as you would describe them. Now not everyone will see it as so, and don't expect anyone to just fall in love with you, it's something that must be worked on, over months and even years.
4: You don't want it because you haven't experinced it. Love is something that will change who you are, what you do, who you hang out with. True love doesn't just change you physically but spiritually and emotionally. Love is something thats hard to describe. But I can best say it's like surving something that should've killed you, or a fresh breath of cold mountain air. You come out and that first breath, that deep inhale, that feeling you get from "being alive" is the feeling love spread through you every time you see that person you're in love with.
First time for everything I guessDaystar Clarion said:Well I can honestly say that's the first time someone has referred to me as a role model.brandon237 said:Damn... as far as these things go, you are my Escapist role model.Daystar Clarion said:
And the last part is true for me too, people have relied on me to do many things simply because I am confident...
OP: I have not had trouble with this, I am 16 and have been going out with my girlfriend for around a year and three months... and it has been amazing. There have been some external things (ie: parents and her ex) that caused bumps, but otherwise all good. She really is amazing, we also share many ideas and a similarly warped sense of humour which makes for funny times
I must not use this power for evil.
With great power, comesa great beatdownresponsibility.
Your story sounds like the one I want...It is more than power, it is respect, far more important. And less likely to get your balls shoved into in a laser-powered meat-grinder by thugs with neon-pink mohawks.
I think that's the problem with some people. I've known guys and girls who aren't exactly the best looking or most charming person in the world and they want a smokin' hot, fun, sexy partner who will share all their interests. Don't try to shoot too high above your weight and you'll be fine.
I'm naffed if my boyfriend breaks up with me. I've gotten so fat since we got together ;-; No other man will want to look at me.
i am socially retarded and any girl that i am attracted to and that is somewhat interested in me already has a boyfriend. i am really unlucky. and the thing is, i'm not just going to go out with some random girl that i don't know or have any feelings for, but any girl that i'm friends with and i like is already taken. apparently i'm actually pretty good looking, but the fact that i seem to be simply forever alone really makes that hard to believe. it's high school though, so my awkward phase will hopefully pass sometime in the middle or at least after it's all done. then, maybe i can finally stop being forever alone, and finally accept myself for the sexy beast that i have been told that i am.
