quiet_samurai said:
crypt-creature said:
quiet_samurai said:
Arsen said:
quiet_samurai said:
How the hell can anyone fell sorry for this psychotic loser? What about the victims? Did anyone ever think for a second that the reason women didn't want anything to do with him is because he was a weirdo? I have a friend who is a 26 year old virgin because of his attitude towards women. They don't like him because he's bitter and he's bitter because they don't like him. I don't relate to him in any way nor feel empathy, his lack of social life was clearly his own doing and because he didn't have the balls to change it he made others suffer for it. He should have just saved himself the trip and only killed himself, or gotten therapy.
Here's my problem: Should certain individuals HAVE to succumb to the wrongdoings of society, change themselves completely, and basically become a completely different person who sacrifices their morals and beliefs...to appease and attain some vague sense of attraction which is such an overrated, exaggerated demand in today's world?
Most men that are virgin's in todays world are, in my experience, typically victims of the ignorance and demand in modern times. I seriously hold NOTHING against virgins due to this fact alone. The more morality you feel, the greater sense of reality you have, and the higher beauty you see above others is marred by the fact that you never bring yourself down to the level of the unworthy.
Did you ever think that maybe it's that one individual person who is the unworthy one? How is it societies fault for certain peoples shortcomings? There is no one standard in society when it comes to finding someone, and people that say there is are either ignorant or suffer from delusions. Finding a girlfriend or getting laid is not that hard to do, you just have to put in the effort and not be afraid of rejection and realize that it may take several tries. Trust me, if you stood out on the sidewalk and devoted an entire day to asking out every girl that walked by you, I guarantee one hundred percent that eventually one will say yes.
Yes, but people also have something called standards. It may be looks, personality, trust, whatever.
Societies standards are a little out of proportion right now, and people lie. A lot.
Society can, and does, eventually find a way to stress the wrong things in life. Like how looks are more important than personality, or how bigger breasts mean a better girlfriend, or how a guy that looks like X acts the way he dresses and is therefore going to be a better catch.
People don't want to get to know someone else before they decide if they want to date them, they want to date them now. They want instant gratification.
Yes, you can get laid and find a girlfriend. But guess what, it's getting harder for some people to find a committed relationship in which they feel secure.
The world should focus internally on each other and not just see what's on the outside, I totally agree with you. But that's not how it is. People shouldn't lie, rob, and murder but they do. And your confusing attraction with shallowness or unrealistic standards. Attraction is what makes or breaks your decision to want to date someone, and it happens instantly. Usually if a person does not want to be romantically involved with you from the get go they probably won't later on. That's how attraction works.
I'm not confusing attraction with shallowness, since I was implying that a lot of people are basing their "attraction" on their shallowness (or selfishness).
Example (a real example), a man dates a girl that, while he does find her good looking, he is doing so more because he is bored.
Interest in a person happens instantly, real attraction takes a lot longer than that.
But again, a person who doesn't want to be romantically involved with a person can still date them, that doesn't mean that they will stay with them. If it gets more serious than they care for, they leave. If they get bored with the person, they leave. That is quickly becoming a "normal" situation with people these days. A lot of people have unrealistic standards, young or old, and it's becoming more common.
My point was, people are letting their unrealistic desires blind-side their 'attraction' towards others more often than they probably should be.
