Marriage without sex?

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Jonluw

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JUMBO PALACE said:
And about all of the asexuals that are apparently crawling all over this website, I wonder how many of them have actually had sax before deciding it wasn't for them.
I wonder how many heterosexual people have tried out gay sex before deciding it's not for them.

I assume it's one of those things you know with yourself. If you don't feel any attraction towards either gender, you're probably asexual. No need to force yourself to try sex in case you aren't.
 

joebthegreat

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Hell no that's retarded.

She's beautiful? What's the point of that? Physical attraction might as well be a negative in a scenario with no sex.

She's talented amazing and kind? So are a lot of people in this world.

She loves me and would do anything for me? But no sex?

There's absolutely no possibility of swinging?

Seriously though, I would never get married even if the choice was marriage or death. Situation avoided. If she honestly thinks marriage is that important she's not right for me.
 

RanD00M

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I'm just going to quote Joan Rivers on this one
" You don't marry for love, you marry for money. That's where second wives get it right, they marry for the money."
 

Divine Miss Bee

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Canid117 said:
What has her vagina sealed shut in fear of my all mighty schlong or something?
actually, if she's been through sexual trauma, this is entirely possible. happens all the time. and there's often not a direct cure-the best i've heard of is surgery to cut off certain nerve signals or kegel exercises, and even those aren't always effective.

OP: sadly, i go through times when i am unable to have sex, but my partner sticks with me anyway. i doubt he would do so if it was permanent, but we'll see how long this one lasts. >.<
 

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I would be a different person if I was capable of having a "perfect lover". If sex hadn't been part of the relationship from early on, I would have ended it anyway... this issue could never arise for me.
 

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Lilani said:
If they are indeed my "soul mate," I say why not? There are other ways to receive sexual pleasure, and these days there has never been such a wide selection of such...equipment and it has never been so accessible.

If we do stay together for the rest of our lives, there will come a day long in the future when our sex drives wind down, and all we will really want is a companion to hold and cherish.

I'm just going to leave this little love story here. This couple proved a few things to me about love, and one of them is that real relationships run on more than just sex.


That video was really lovely. Thanks for that.

Personally, I would have no issues with this because, as someone else said, there are alternatives. You don't have to cheat on them, and they could still participate if it didn't seem too awkward, depending on what you did. But, good relationships are about more than just sex. There's a deep connection involved, and from what the original poster described, you'd have found that in this person. For me, anyway, finding and retaining that deep connection would mean a lot more than someone to sex me up on occasion.
 

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This reminded me of the series Pushing Daisies. I have only seen a few episodes but basically it's about a guy who can't touch his girlfriend because she will die if he touches her. They can't even kiss or hold hands, it's kinda sad really.
I can't really see how it would work out :/ Sex isn't the most important thing in a relationship but it's still a big part.
 

Brandon237

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I would first see how the relationship went for quite a while, and see how well the alternatives worked, and think long and hard about adopting a child too, I would have to take it from there after much introspection and so on. My gut feeling though is that in such a situation, yes would be the answer.
 

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Oneirius said:
(well, except giving oral I guess, but seriously now)
Shouldn't have added that part.

Many people almost prefer oral to the real thing. I know I do.
Changes the question from a huge dilemma to a piss easy choice for me.
 

Julianking93

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I still have my hands, right?

If so, sure. If I love them, I'll stay with them. No question.
 

teisjm

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Ewyx said:
... and the reason I wouldn't want to just stay a friend with this person is?
My first thought.

IMO the "physical intimicy" is the most defining difference between a lover and a friend, so why not just stay friends with this person, and have sex with someone else?
 

IanIvy

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I believe married couples are to "keep from abstaining unless consensually for a time".

She's fuc%ed. :)
 

viranimus

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Its the only real benefit for a man to enter a marriage. Its the way the world works.

A comedian (I think Tim Allen) said.. In life if your a woman you have the choice of to go to school, or to get a job, or have kids, Become a housewife and not work at all, or any combination there in. Men, have two choices. Go to work or go to jail. So given that men inevitably will end up having to take care of the responsibilities of their existence, because society demands it, then theres not a lot of things left in a relationship that a woman will do, that a man wont be expected to do anyway.

Now that was a sweeping generalization, without question. But I think you can see why this question really depends on what side your on. If you have options, it might not be as important to you. If you dont have options, its usually the only thing left that you cant (exactly) do for yourself.

So knowing it going into a relationship. No... I wouldnt. However all too often even the best relationships can degrade down to a sexless relationship over a long period of time. That makes the argument of "should I stay or should I go?" a more difficult one.

Now... as for what was said in the OP... The mention of oral gratification. In most ways thats more than a fair compromise. However, I am thinking if a person was not physically capable of having sex, then other forms of gratis would likely be just as limited.
 

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Erana said:
Well, I'm asexual, so it would be a match made in heaven.
Pretty much, yeah.

It's cool when I can just quote and agree. My head hurts too much to words make.
 

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RazgrizInferno said:
Oneirius said:
(well, except giving oral I guess, but seriously now)
Shouldn't have added that part.

Many people almost prefer oral to the real thing. I know I do.
Changes the question from a huge dilemma to a piss easy choice for me.
She can give oral, but she can't receive. I mean, I guess you could lick her malformed, partly developed "genitals" if you wanted (and if you could stand the sight, which was frankly hideous), but she wouldn't orgasm from it. Do you really want to have a completely one sided, degrading sexual relationship with the woman you love?
 

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Lilani said:
If they are indeed my "soul mate," I say why not? There are other ways to receive sexual pleasure, and these days there has never been such a wide selection of such...equipment and it has never been so accessible.

If we do stay together for the rest of our lives, there will come a day long in the future when our sex drives wind down, and all we will really want is a companion to hold and cherish.

I'm just going to leave this little love story here. This couple proved a few things to me about love, and one of them is that real relationships run on more than just sex.

WOW, Just Wow. that was a really great story to listen to, seems like I just found out how I want to live my life :'). Good to see youtube has other stuff than people making an ass out of themselves.
 

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As if sex would get in the way of something like that.

You would be a fool to turn down a life partner like that.