Marriage without sex?

[GeorgW]

Can we still have kids?
If, and if we can still have other kinds of sex which by reading the responses so far doesn't seem to be excluded, then yes.

 

[Xaio30]

If she's that perfect, she would understand the problem if I explained it to her.
The solution we both would come up with would be to live together like a married couple, without actually being married.

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[Ben Legend]

hah....haha... hahahaha....

Oh god you're serious! :O

No chance.

 

[Blondi3]

... and the reason I wouldn't want to just stay a friend with this person is?

Pretty much this I think. Sex is the only difference between friendship and a romantic relationship.

I agree.

EDIT: I love all the virgins saying they're asexual, it's so cute.

Yeah, I lol'd. Although some people are born without a sex drive.

 

[FUAU]

Now, it has been my experience that sex drops off after a few years of marriage, and this is manageable, kinda, I guess. But if I'm not getting any before marriage there wouldn't be marriage.

I guess that depends - the opposite happened with my marriage. Honeymoon aside, my first year of marriage, my spouse and I had sex two, maybe three nights a week.

Now? We don't have sex one or two nights a week.

Wait, I'm not sure that made sense. Let me rephrase. We have sex almost every night - the one or two nights we don't have sex are the exception, not the rule.

And we're not talking quickies either. We were at it for an hour and a half last night. ^^ Of course, last night was particularly awesome. Normally it's around an hour.

Of course, I realize I have a wonderful sex life, and that my results aren't necessarily typical.

Jesus, I'm nineteen years old and in a relationship that's going on five years, and I swear me and my girlfriend never go at it more than once or twice every month. Not for any particular reason really, it just seems that both of us seldom want to.

In regards to the OP, I think I could have a chaste marriage. Sex always seemed a little over-rated anyway.

 

[LightspeedJack]

Well, I'm asexual, so it would be a match made in heaven.

Oh man I knew this was coming but the first post really?

Anyways that would be a big fat NO from me thanks.

 

[Lexodus]

"Your lover is perfect"

If you can't have sex, with any sort of medical procedure etc., that's a pretty fucking huge flaw.

 

[FightThePower]

If I can't have sex with my lover, then she is not perfect. I'll just settle for someone slightly less good but I can have sex with, thanks.

 

[bdcjacko]

Now, it has been my experience that sex drops off after a few years of marriage, and this is manageable, kinda, I guess. But if I'm not getting any before marriage there wouldn't be marriage.

I guess that depends - the opposite happened with my marriage. Honeymoon aside, my first year of marriage, my spouse and I had sex two, maybe three nights a week.

Now? We don't have sex one or two nights a week.

Wait, I'm not sure that made sense. Let me rephrase. We have sex almost every night - the one or two nights we don't have sex are the exception, not the rule.

And we're not talking quickies either. We were at it for an hour and a half last night. ^^ Of course, last night was particularly awesome. Normally it's around an hour.

Of course, I realize I have a wonderful sex life, and that my results aren't necessarily typical.

Jesus, I'm nineteen years old and in a relationship that's going on five years, and I swear me and my girlfriend never go at it more than once or twice every month. Not for any particular reason really, it just seems that both of us seldom want to.

In regards to the OP, I think I could have a chaste marriage. Sex always seemed a little over-rated anyway.

Well you are 19 so I guess for most of those 5 years you and your girlfriend have been living with your respective parents. And trying to find time to have sex without parents hearing/walking in on or whatever becomes a chore. Once you have your own place, and can just get sex whenever you want, you will celebrate with a week long sex marathon. Or maybe you do just have a low sex drive.

 

[Android2137]

Hmm. I thought that was the point of marriage, but I'm asexual anyway, so sure, why not?

(Although I do pity the poor man. I have yet to meet any man who felt life would be better without his man parts.)

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

Jesus, I'm nineteen years old and in a relationship that's going on five years, and I swear me and my girlfriend never go at it more than once or twice every month. Not for any particular reason really, it just seems that both of us seldom want to.

Once or twice a month? Egads, that sounds awful. Although, I suppose if you both have low sex drives, then it really isn't an issue.

I mean, that would drive me to... I have no idea. Either wear out my drawer of sex toys or go find some elsewhere. Or both.

 

[rileyrulesu]

...
Why would I have been dating her for that long?

 

[HasimirFenring]

If that's the price I have to pay for such a girl, no problem. I'd marry her without a doubt.

 

[slipknot4]

Ignore the word "marriage", than. What your lover wants is for you to live together for the rest of your life and for you to never sleep with anybody else.
Does that make it more clear?

That's just mean
As for the Op:
No, never. I mean... I don't have sex with my friends, so who else would it be?
You know... Forever is a long time.

 

[Haydyn]

I'd go for it. To have someone you care for to hold, play video games with, dance with, make cookies with, that's more meaningful to me than somebody taking a ride on your disco stick. Heck, she won't be cheating on you, that's a plus. Don't want kids, but adoption is still an option. (lol it rhymed) There are other things that could be done too, so it's not like being married to your best friend or something.

Edit: Marriage without sex? Isn't that most marriages? Badum tish.

Also, apparently asexuality is believed to only be at a percentage of 1%, yet we have a lot of asexual people here. Odd.

 

[velcrokidneyz]

Sex isn't and shouldn't be the only thing in a relationship, but it is healthy and great. I would have to decline. I would go nuts.

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

She can give oral, but she can't receive. I mean, I guess you could lick her malformed, partly developed "genitals" if you wanted (and if you could stand the sight, which was frankly hideous), but she wouldn't orgasm from it. Do you really want to have a completely one sided, degrading sexual relationship with the woman you love?

What. The. Hell?

You said that we'd have been dating - sure, let's go lesbian here - her for some time before hand. Before, I was willing to accept the magical "no more sex" genie for the sake of argument.

But this? Why would her previously perfect **stops self from following the obvious alliteration** "genitals" suddenly deform? Unless you're implying that her vagina was always like this, in which case I believe most of us would not have let the relationship get that far in the first place.

Before, I as assuming that this was just as thin veil for "married couples don't have sex" - which they quite clearly do - but this just makes no sense.

Also, for the record, there is nothing degrading about oral sex, male or female. If I give a guy a blow job, I am not degraded - if anything, I'm empowered (cause I can bite down if I want to - the man is totally at my mercy in that moment). Unless you're saying the one-sided issue is what makes it degrading, in which case I'd point out that there are other spots that can cause a woman to reach orgasm.

 

[Laser Priest]

I don't care about the lack of sex, but I'm not big on marriage. My belief systems are demented and I feel no desire to go into them.