Mothers can be Idiots

[Simriel]

Ranting never helped anyone.

Wrong: it helps the ranter, and can also be amusing (see: Blunty3000)

 

[TrogzTheTroll]

Respect and love are very different get that straight first of all, I both deeply respect and love my parents but I was very lucky to be brought up with little restrictions, no pre-set religion/values, I was left to my own devices and to deal with the consequences if I ever needed advice they were there. I had no "the talk" my old man threw a porn mag in my lap and said there you go, rather than saying "dont drink" or "drugs will kill you" I was taught how to drink and stressed on how moderation is far more important than restraint. But at the same time we had problems watching your at the time alchoholic dad beat your mum thats a shit life, being thrown into the stairs so hard you slip a disk thats a shit life, computer confiscated not so much.

We had big problems for numerous years but despite it all I still love/respect them both they worked hard to keep me and my sister living a lifestyle at the time we really could not afford, they had alot to deal with when we moved homes, when my dad had no jobs in, when I was going out getting plastered every night. But still my dad managed to quit drinking and we live a much better standard of life now despite being born lower/working class, love is conditional but if you have a roof, food and warmth and your not being hurt then damned well respect your parents.

Im not sure its about the computer being taken away but rather his mother having no respect for some things he enjoys to do...

 

[Darktau]

Haha, if I get told im adopted by anyone (as a joke or insult) i just say thank you

 

[skywalkerlion]

Don't fret, just 2 more years. Then you can have kids of your own and treat them like shit and fuel the endless and vicious cycle!

 

[ShotgunShaman]

While they have given a LOT to raise you, that doesn't change whether or not they now know what's good for you. Be constantly thankful to them, but be your own man.

 

[BonsaiK]

Im typing on my wii, because my mother took away my computer, which 'inspired' me to write this piece. Please note that this isn't a "I hate my mom" thread, there's discussion.

So, why is it we have to respect or love our mother jyst because society says so? My mom is a dumbfuck with computers thinks any recreational software shouldn't exist, is racist, is homophobic (im not gay but this still bothers me with her anti-gay lectures), and religious person (not that crazy though).

For a while now I have been working with a team making an indie game, I'm one of the artists so I spend a lot of time drawing. My mother yesterday decided that she can't have me doing this because she deemed it a waste of time she cut me off completely from my team for who knows how lonh but FACT:SHE HAS NO CONCEPT OH COMMITMENT AND EFFORT, if -eople are counting on you let them down because het people aren't paying you, if its work that doesn't result in instant $$$ stop doing it(seriously, if it requires ANY sort of brain power and thinking she can't do it. Non-video games like monopoly are impossible to play with her.) Where was I? Oh, I know that by these facts, I can say my mom is an Idiot and I am more capable than her, so why do I have to 'Love' her like every day is mother's day? Society tells you that parents do no wrong and you should be their little slave for your own good. My mother disapproves of everything except the classic 3 jobs all parents would be proud for you to have: Doctor, Engineer, Lawyer.

Bah, enough about myself, can't help but rant. Its all you can do when you know you know you're stuck 'till you're 18.

So escapist, I don't like my mom, am I in the wrong? Must you forever love your parents because they raise you? I think this is a dumb reason because they have no choice but to do so and I have no choice but to stay. Do you think parents always know best? Merry Christmas, also don't worry about hurting my feelings.

I had a fairly weird relationship with my dad when I was younger. It was a similar problem in that he thought at lot of the stuff I did with my time was kinda rubbishy. I played a lot of guitar and he thought that music was all insane. That is, until, one day I brought home an instructional video and practiced in front of that. He still hated the music but he stoppped writing off the technqiue. One solution to your problem might be to show her how serious you are about this. Study drawing formally if you can. Attend drawing classes. Buy textbooks about drawing technique. Make sure she knows that you're doing all this. If she can see you're taking it deadly seriously she might stop dismissing it. She may never like it but she may come to grudgingly accept it.

If that backfires, another solution is to just do your drawings while you're at school in your lunch break or something. She can't stop you from that, really. If you're using a computer to draw get a laptop, you can get very cheap secondhand one, or if you're drawing at school you can then scan at home. There's multiple ways around the situation.

Keep in mind that art is a "glamour" industry, much like music, and therefore will always be dismissed by people whose idea of "work" is doing very unglamourous shit. So the challenge in front of you is to show and prove that it is actual work, AND also to show that there are pathways to employment with this gig. You might not be able to change everything about your mother but you only have to put up with her for a few more years in close proximity. Try not to blow your parents off completely when you walk out the door, keep things nice if you can. Your relationship with them will improve drastically once they are no longer regulating your every move. I don't have parents anymore, and even though I didn't get along with them always I do still miss them.

 

[TheBoulder]

Oh, yes, hate your mom. It's not like she didn't carry you around in her womb for nine months, fed you, clothed you, and took care/still continues to take care of you.

What you really need to do is to sit her down and talk this out with her. Explain that you are working on a project that requires access to a computer, and that you would like her full support behind her in this. Or go and get a job, your own place, and your own computer. Really, you're nineteen...maybe it's time to think about leaving the nest.

All because your parents did all that, doesn't mean they're good people. What about abusive parents? By your logic, the children of abusive parents should suck it up and let their parents beat/rape/starve them.

 

[Icecoldcynic]

Oh, yes, hate your mom. It's not like she didn't carry you around in her womb for nine months, fed you, clothed you, and took care/still continues to take care of you.

What you really need to do is to sit her down and talk this out with her. Explain that you are working on a project that requires access to a computer, and that you would like her full support behind her in this. Or go and get a job, your own place, and your own computer. Really, you're nineteen...maybe it's time to think about leaving the nest.

All because your parents did all that, doesn't mean they're good people. What about abusive parents? By your logic, the children of abusive parents should suck it up and let their parents beat/rape/starve them.

I don't really think bringing abusive parents into this is relevant. I mean sure it happens, but it's pretty obvious that's not the case here. No-one mentioned anything about justifying abuse.

 

[joshthor]

yes, you have to love your mom. plus after high school it is uncool to hate your mom.

 

[jigilojoe]

My mum's (yes, that's how you spell it, silly yanks) really interested in Poetry, so I guess I got it good, my pa' is racist, homophobic and sexist, which seems more like your mum, just laugh it off, I've been doing so for years every time my pap says something about the BNP being the party to back. Anyways, you can leave when you're 16 if you want to enough.

 

[Mozared]

Well...

I agree with you in that she's being stupid - if she forbids you to pursue your own dreams she is virtually forcing you to pursue goals you do not have your heart behind. Even though nowadays few people actually realize this, every single second of your life you spend not pursueing your own wishes is virtually wasted. You do not achieve anything by getting an awesome career in a profession you do not like.

What you need to do is sit down with here and tell her exactly what you want and why you wanted it. If you've tried your utter best and the message still hasn't come across, then you'll have to look for other ways around your mother that allow you to realize your own wishes.

That said, you should take some more time in thinking your posts through as well. The OP was alright for a rant (I won't blame you for the grammar if you're typing it on a Wii) but several of your replies to other people have made me cringe in realization that you either missed what they had tried to say or bringing up a moot/bad point.

 

[Heart of Darkness]

Oh, yes, hate your mom. It's not like she didn't carry you around in her womb for nine months, fed you, clothed you, and took care/still continues to take care of you.

What you really need to do is to sit her down and talk this out with her. Explain that you are working on a project that requires access to a computer, and that you would like her full support behind her in this. Or go and get a job, your own place, and your own computer. Really, you're nineteen...maybe it's time to think about leaving the nest.

All because your parents did all that, doesn't mean they're good people. What about abusive parents? By your logic, the children of abusive parents should suck it up and let their parents beat/rape/starve them.

Basically what @Icecoldcynic said. That's not necessily relevant here. And at what point does "taking care of you" logically include abuse?

 

[ma55ter_fett]

I love my mom, I'm sorry that you don't but hey we can't all be blessed with awesome parents.

also typeing all that on a wii, A+ for dedication.

 

[DSEZ]

my mom is awesome, she knows more about Rock then most wannabe rockers these days,

and as a bonus she let's me go to almost any concert I want to

you are very lucky

OT:yeah no offence but your moms a ***** my family is racist but to a extend (im not) but i dont like it either

 

[DuplicateValue]

Its all you can do when you know you know you're stuck 'till you're 18.

Um..........your profile says that you're 18 and a half.

 

[Julianking93]

Sounds like your mum's a bit of a **** who needs to open her mind a bit.

And no you're not wrong for not liking your mother in this situation. I for one, hate my grandmother. Like, really hate her and everyone thinks I should love her just because I'm related to her. Fuck what society says. If I hate someone, I'm gonna hate them. Just because she's my grandmother doesn't mean I have to respect the *****.

 

[Ethereal]

You can think your mother is an idiot, yes.
However, you can't hate her.

If your alive, have access to the internet, and have a place to sleep, than she's obviously not harming you intentionally.
She cares for you, she's doing what SHE thinks is best for you.
If that is truly hindering your success, than you are OBLIGATED, to tell her.

However, I truly doubt she is hindering your success at anything. You're 16. No one is expecting you to have 80 AAA indie titles to your name at that age. Hell, the fact that you started anything at all already puts you ahead of thousands of inexperienced adults wanting to enter that same field.

Back to the point though, she is your mom.
She loves you.
She would probably take a bullet for you.

Yes, there are some people who have a right to hate their mothers and call them idiots.
You do not have that right.
There are many people who would love to have your mother in place of theirs.

 

[cheese_wizington]

Ranting never helped anyone.

Wrong: it helps the ranter, and can also be amusing (see: Blunty3000)

Yeah, well blunties accecent keeps it amusing.

 

[bcponpcp27]

I consider myself lucky that my mom is rarely this crazy (it happens, but very rarely) and she actually knows how to build and program a computer.