Need help with Romance? Who you gonna call?
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not gonna lie i laughed my ass off at that one lineAssassinator said:
tough and moped never go in the same sentence XD anyways I have seen this type of behavior many times before, its called low self esteem. I'm not saying that she likes being treated like that but subconsciously she may feel as if she deserves that type of treatment (and i mean no disrespect to your friend, its just an observation i have made with similar scenarios.) Also, i honestly dont know how old your friend is but usually the "bad boy" thing is something that some younger women go for (some, not all) and will inevitably grow out of it.
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Okay theres this girl i met again summer of last year. I liked her and she liked me, but i blew it and didnt do nything til it was too late and she went out with this other guy. Ive been her best friend, and over the months have fallen deep into the friend zone. They broke up, and now shes single. THe problem with us is that we hardly see eachother. I dont know why. I try to plan things, but she never follows through with asking her parents or something. We cant drive yet, she got her permit recently though, late. So its very hard to see her when shes like this. I dont know why, we are est friends on the phone, and weve met before...
So she has her bestfriend she practically lives with. Her neighbor is this guy who she sees frequently when shes at her friends house. Well she likes him.
How can i fix this? I just dont know why she wont see me... and how do i beat a guy who sees her more then me?
help?
Okay theres this girl i met again summer of last year. I liked her and she liked me, but i blew it and didnt do nything til it was too late and she went out with this other guy. Ive been her best friend, and over the months have fallen deep into the friend zone. They broke up, and now shes single. THe problem with us is that we hardly see eachother. I dont know why. I try to plan things, but she never follows through with asking her parents or something. We cant drive yet, she got her permit recently though, late. So its very hard to see her when shes like this. I dont know why, we are est friends on the phone, and weve met before...
So she has her bestfriend she practically lives with. Her neighbor is this guy who she sees frequently when shes at her friends house. Well she likes him.
How can i fix this? I just dont know why she wont see me... and how do i beat a guy who sees her more then me?
help?
AHH!! The 4th of July weekend was a rousing success! Now it's time to get back to the grindstone...
It's true, local customs differ from place to place (picking up a girl from Dublin as opposed to say, New York, involves a whole different song and dance altogether), but I think it's fair to say that no matter where you live, it usually doesn't work to just ask someone out. What kind of controversial statements did you make? (PM me if you're more comfortable) Once the cat's out of the bag, you can't really stuff it back in. Ideally, you want her to find out you're interested on your terms, with a minimum of disclosure. If she does know, then the best we can hope for is damage control (most teenagers go through a...superficial stage. The girl you like now might not be emotionally available to you yet). Tell me more about her. Tell me about your interactions with her. The more information I have on her, the better equipped I'll be to help you.crazyhaircut94 said:
Dude, anger is a beast. An animal in a cage. If you never let it out, when it manages to escape, it's going to do some damage. But if you let it out frequently, it becomes manageable. It can even give you perspective. You're merely in need of an outlet.Aanorith said:
You're not the first person I've met who hasn't been able to find a creative means of letting it out. I've met people who tell me how cathartic their art or their music is to them. I've also met people who say it's a lot of bullshit that doesn't do them any good. The truth is, there is simply no better way to vent, then to just get it all off your chest. Don't sugarcoat it. Don't hide it in the metaphors of a poem or a song. Just put it all into words. I would suggest starting a journal, but even more important, just talk to somebody.
Just being able to yell, and scream about the stuff that angers your, to vocalize it, and have it be in words, is tremendously relieving. Often times, the best person to tell, is someone you don't even know. Chances are, the stuff that has and is angering you, has something to do with the people you love and care about (after all, the only stuff you can be truly angry about, are the things that you feel you have a stake in), and often times, venting with people you know and love runs a risk of alienating you or them, and it just might not feel right to leave yourself completely vulnerable to a person you love.
It was pointed out to me that places like Steam and Live might be a good place to meet people you can just talk to. Or, if you require more of a face to face thing, talk to a guidance counselor or therapist; people who are literally paid to listen. Don't let your emotions get the better of you. Acknowledging that you need to find a means of control is a great first step.
Lol, nice Hey Arnold ref there :-DQuantum Roberts said:
Yes, we are a rare elusive breed of girl and it takes a very special guy to find us. We're like freakin Narnia or something. Specially cos many guys who play are asses who refuse to accept that girls play.Sark said:
You know, I simultaneously love and hate in dealing with teen relationships. I love them, because when the problem is simple, it's usually painfully so. Conversely, sometimes, things just make no sense. A lot of teens aren't exactly slaves to logic.Sipher107 said:
The good news. You are mistaken. You aren't in the friend zone. At least, not exactly. You see, she liked you. You two may not have dated, but you two were digging each other. Then something more concrete came along, and the dynamic shifted.
Now you're back. Not exactly where you were before, but in a promising position none the less. Teenagers don't just write off someone they like. Most adults don't really do it either, but with some booze and lots of introspection, they move on. This girl definitely still has something for you, at least so far as she hasn't looked past the idea of you two ending up as more then just friends. This is evidenced by the growing chasm between you. She's pushing you away. Girls do this when they don't like a guy at all, or if they're scared that they might like a guy too much. In this case, I'm suspecting the latter.
For you, there is no approach, there is no gathering up the nerve to ask her out. There is no background feeling in your gut that she might not end up liking you. No, there is you, her, and your history. If this were a movie, it would very much be a romantic comedy. And at this point in the movie, I'd say you're closing in on the climax.
The bad new. Your best, and really, only solution isn't exactly a fun one. You see, you're past the point of interesting and creative solutions. You're at the point of sitting her down, and placing each card on the table. You get her in a room, alone, and you talk. You're going to start by getting her to tell you exactly why she's pushing you away. You've noticed, there is clearly a reason behind it (and while I have a key contention in my head as to why, I'm not arrogant enough to claim that I know the specifics of her psyche). Then you tell her that this attitude shift has been hard to deal with, and then, the tough part, you need to tell her why. Recap the events of your friendship with her (she only has her perspective to go on, and giving her a chance to see how things unfolded through your eyes might grant her a new position on things), and tell her that after losing her once, you're not going to do it again without at LEAST showing that you should be the number one contender.
I don't think that you're going to absolutely see victory on this, but I think your chances are great, but I'd make your play quick. Those next door neighbors have their foot in the door by proximity.
Ok, I had to get some outside help for this one. I've never been big on the rich girls, because you almost always have to lie....a lot. But I have a buddy who is kind of like Sam Axe without the spy background, and he had this to say:LimaBravo said:Where do sugar mommies hang out. I want to be a kept mandwightsteel said:
"Hmmmm, wine tastings are good. Gourmet cooking stores, high end bars, dog shows. Don't discount dives. A lot of the rich broads looking for a thrill will go to low end pubs. The Prada bag is like a bullseye."
Yeah, if you ever get out, your cynicism, if used properly, can be an endearing trait. Just don't forget ample amounts of cologne.dalek sec said: