Odd Bisexual to Gay Escapist Demographic

[shroomie]

I would say Im Bi (which I am) not because I want to be cool or different but honestly because I don't quite know what I am and nor will I ever really know. I have never been in a serious relationship with anyone but I have had feelings for both men and women, but mostly women. I feel that love is an emotion everyone can feel and share so sex and gender (I know the difference between the two) shouldn't really be a factor.

 

[Princess Rose]

tl;dr: You see more bisexuals on the escapist than gays. Why?

First off, in sexuality threads, all the straight and asexual people usually post "I'm straight" or "I'm asexual" - the bisexuals are merely doing the same thing. Also, I see a lot of gay or lesbian posters saying that is what they are.

I have not seen this "lots of bisexuals" trend you claim to have witnesses. As another poster mentioned, asexuals seem to be to be the most vocal group, and I have seen a lot of posts from asexuals where they point that out.

Are you sure you just aren't paying more attention to the bi posters than other posters? Mental filters and all that.

OP aside, I have to say, some of the horribly anti-bi comments I've seen in this thread make me sick. When anyone who isn't bisexual starts making up theories about bisexuals being "fakers" or following a fad or anything like that, I wonder how those posters would feel if people of another sexual preference sat around analyzed why THAT poster is whatever they are. I bet I'd piss a lot of people off if I suggested that 50% of "straight" people are actually closet bisexuals in denial.

Did me suggesting such a thing upset you? Do you think that's bullshit? You know what - you're right. So stop making stupid, ignorant, childish, and idiotic statements about bisexuals. It makes you look both ignorant and homophobic. Because what I just said about straight people, that's what you're saying about bisexuals.

And I know that 50% of straight people aren't secretly bi (in case you missed the 'this is what you sound like' implication), so don't quote me on that and tell me I'm wrong. The point, if you didn't get it the first time, is that your statements about bisexuals are just as insane and ignorant as my fake comment about straight people.

And before anyone splits hairs, when I say bi, I'm including pan, omni, and any of the other flavor of similarly wide-focused sexuality.

 

[Kurokami]

Just a little something I've noticed about the escapist is that you see a lot of people chiming in with the "I'm bi so this, this, and this ^.^"

The fact that I've always found this slightly annoying aside (Seriously, what the fuck does your sexual preference have to do with what kind of food you like?) Its always struck me as strange that we see more bisexuals proclaiming themselves than just straight up gay people doing it. It was my understanding that there are significantly more people identifying themselves as gay than as bisexual.

So, anyone have an explanation for this?

tl;dr: You see more bisexuals on the escapist than gays. Why?

To me, Bi is something girls often say for the simple sake of getting attention. I have a few friends who are like that, only one of which might actually be bi. (Though she seems less interested in Sex and just generally interested in all people, so she would have an intimate relationship with a girl or guy, but never actually... 'do' anything)

Basically I think most of them aren't bi, it's just what they consider to be the in thing to be or something along those lines. Either that or Bi people are simply more vocal than most gays.

 

[killcannon71]

tl;dr: You see more bisexuals on the escapist than gays. Why?

First off, in sexuality threads, all the straight and asexual people usually post "I'm straight" or "I'm asexual" - the bisexuals are merely doing the same thing. Also, I see a lot of gay or lesbian posters saying that is what they are.

I have not seen this "lots of bisexuals" trend you claim to have witnesses. As another poster mentioned, asexuals seem to be to be the most vocal group, and I have seen a lot of posts from asexuals where they point that out.

Are you sure you just aren't paying more attention to the bi posters than other posters? Mental filters and all that.

OP aside, I have to say, some of the horribly anti-bi comments I've seen in this thread make me sick. When anyone who isn't bisexual starts making up theories about bisexuals being "fakers" or following a fad or anything like that, I wonder how those posters would feel if people of another sexual preference sat around analyzed why THAT poster is whatever they are. I bet I'd piss a lot of people off if I suggested that 50% of "straight" people are actually closet bisexuals in denial.

Did me suggesting such a thing upset you? Do you think that's bullshit? You know what - you're right. So stop making stupid, ignorant, childish, and idiotic statements about bisexuals. It makes you look both ignorant and homophobic. Because what I just said about straight people, that's what you're saying about bisexuals.

And I know that 50% of straight people aren't secretly bi (in case you missed the 'this is what you sound like' implication), so don't quote me on that and tell me I'm wrong. The point, if you didn't get it the first time, is that your statements about bisexuals are just as insane and ignorant as my fake comment about straight people.

And before anyone splits hairs, when I say bi, I'm including pan, omni, and any of the other flavor of similarly wide-focused sexuality.

Seems like you have the inside scoop, Oh Wise One. Since everyone else is stupid, ignorant, etc etc with their opinions on why people say they are Bi, perhaps you could tell us why they are then? If it wouldn't strain that huge brain of yours too much?

 

[RedMagic]

I've seen this several times, but I just haven't given it much thought. Maybe it's a way of putting a disclaimer on your post before stating an opinion.

 

[Julianking93]

hehehe, I blame you for corrupting my innocent straight self :3 *tackles* you and your catboy whiles.

And you really blame this on me? XD

 

[Kurokami]

And I know that 50% of straight people aren't secretly bi (in case you missed the 'this is what you sound like' implication), so don't quote me on that and tell me I'm wrong. The point, if you didn't get it the first time, is that your statements about bisexuals are just as insane and ignorant as my fake comment about straight people.

And before anyone splits hairs, when I say bi, I'm including pan, omni, and any of the other flavor of similarly wide-focused sexuality.

you KNOW THIS!? Well shit, man. Bring out the charts and graphs.

I'm currently wondering how you feel about statements like 'most of the people I know are...', because to me, many of the girls I know claim to be bi in the aims of getting attention. (See the above post where I mentioned it if you care at all) It's not homophobic to claim that Bi people are either gay or straight people in denial or fad chasers. Ignorant maybe, but not homophobic.

First time I've heard the term Pansexual, interesting. I guess that's what she is.

 

[Realitycrash]

Every time I read a topic about "So why are you gay/bi?" on the Escapist, I die a little inside.

We should have covered this in the Forum-FAQ.

 

[RobfromtheGulag]

Only comment here - had a professor that theorized all people were bisexual to some degree. I'm sure that's not new, but I think I agree. Even your hardest-core beer guzzling Texan has at least had to ask himself the question, which means he's thought about it once.

 

[Nickolai77]

I think i've vaguely noticed that there are a lot of bisexuals on the Escapist. I'm straight but i don't really care at all what the sexual preferences of the users here are, sexuality's a personal matter anyway.

 

[Princess Rose]

Seems like you have the inside scoop, Oh Wise One. Since everyone else is stupid, ignorant, etc etc with their opinions on why people say they are Bi, perhaps you could tell us why they are then? If it wouldn't strain that huge brain of yours too much?

For the same reason that a person is straight (or gay or anything else) - cause they were born that way. If I suggested you were straight to "get attention" you'd think I was an idiot. Hence why anyone who says people are bi to get attention is...

I'm currently wondering how you feel about statements like 'most of the people I know are...', because to me, many of the girls I know claim to be bi in the aims of getting attention. (See the above post where I mentioned it if you care at all) It's not homophobic to claim that Bi people are either gay or straight people in denial or fad chasers. Ignorant maybe, but not homophobic.

Ahem. Like so.

 

[Catalyst6]

In my not so humble opinion, they use it because they think that it makes them special, like it's making them push against the crowd. Which is, of course, not true.

The problem with having something like that is that it goes from being simply part of your life to being *all* there is to it. We all know people like that, the folks who are christian/atheist/very straight/camp gay/"macho"/femenine. And that's ALL they are, just that one trait.

Me? I'm bisexual. Does it ever come up outside of being directly asked? No. People are more complex than that. At least, they should be.

(Just don't tell the media that.)

 

[Biosophilogical]

Although if I'm honest I think asexuality is the "new bi" in that regard.

It does seem so, doesn't it?

Most of the time I hear someone on this forum say they're asexual there seems to be this underlying tone of "I'm going against the current, baby! Yeah!!!"

I take very minor offense to that![sub]Not really[/sub] I label myself as asexual simply because it is the easiest way to describe myself. But I recognise that I'm only 17 and I'm probably just a late bloomer, but I can't exactly go around saying "I'm homo/hetero/bi/omni/etc" when I'm not actually at that stage. So asexual is the most accurate and appropriate label for the time being. And there's probably a lot of asexuals like me, ones who are at an age where almost everyone else has sex on the brain and we're just sitting there going "Man, I could really go for some orange juice right now" while we wait for something to click so that we can finally go "Ooooh! Now I get it". So while there would be some Bandwagon-Asexuals, I'd say a fair chunk is us going "Why does everyone else only seem to think with their penis?" and at least some people who literally don't have the desire to have sex.

OT: I'd say that people in this demographic (gamers, nerds, geeks) are a lot less afraid of not being straight than other groups (so less 'in the closet' bisexuals/gays), and people who already know that they are gay/bi may not feel like they fit in with normal society, so they seek a comforting and safe social group, so we get more people coming out in this group and a higher percentage of gays/bis joining than other groups. Then again, it's just a theory.

 

[tobi the good boy]

Because people like to brag?

Whether it be they have a higher IQ, Bigger dick or if they are more open to wang and/or vagina than the next fellow, they will (consciously or not) want to make it known, and in forum where they cannot be traced or no negative repercussion can be applied (Not that there should be), you're bound to have an influx of vocal people.

Don't know if this sounds homophobic or not because in all honesty I don't care what you diddle with.

 

[moopig66]

I'm gay... don't know if that helps

I actually haven't noticed a spike in Bi people. But that's just me...

 

[silverhawk100]

Most of this thread: This is my personal experience with a very limited segment of the population of this group of people. Therefore, it must be true of all members of this group! In fact, I'd go so far as to say it's true of all people too!

tl;dr: You see more bisexuals on the escapist than gays. Why?

Most people here have been attacking this from the angle of "what makes bisexuals unique?" My question is "what makes the Escapist unique?"

Gaming has become so ubiquitous that (albeit late-night) talk show hosts proclaim themselves gamers. It's gotten to the point that objectively, it's like saying "I'm a sports fan." Like all humans, gamers will want to congregate into groups to form community and we have dozens of these communities scattered across the web. But what makes the Escapist unique is its constant message of "it's okay to be a nerd/gamer/geek/dork." And guess which population segment will identify with that message?

As for their insistence at every opportunity, I won't speak for them, but if you were a marginalized and even invisible [http://www.starobserver.com.au/news/2011/03/23/bisexuals-still-invisible/47800] group, wouldn't you want to proclaim to a community that supposedly prides itself on acceptance that you exist?