Poll: Am I a bad brother?

[Nmil-ek]

Just stop doing shit unless she pulls her act together being a sibling is more than about one person giving or caring, personaly I would just tell her to fuck off or arrange her own stuff if im buisy but meh me and my little sisters relationship could be best described as "distance = tolerance" so what do I know.

 

[The_Echo]

I get that a lot, '" YOUR THE WORST BROTHER IN THE WORLD" ~ My dipshit sister... And every time she does I say " Your not dead are you? No? Than shut the fuck up"

I should try this. I get such insults from my sister on a regular basis.

On topic: No, you're not a bad brother. She's a bad sister.

 

[Nuke_em_05]

No.

If it's important stuff or just getting her somewhere faster, or safer, than alternative modes, hey that's good brother stuff there. If you're just at her beck-and-call for crap that she can/should have taken care of herself, not so much a requirement. If you do and she's grateful, that's incentive to you to to it more. If you do and she isn't grateful, well, you aren't obligated to it.

This is a phase for younger siblings, because you have a privilidge, they feel entitled to it as well. It usually passes, or at least it used to. The yonger end of the teenage spectrum isn't what it once was. Generally speaking, she isn't going to hate you for it the rest of her life.

As for the comment about parenting her as a sibling, with discipline and re-inforcment, no. That is not your place. Older siblings are role-models and mentors growing up, at best. The end.

I'm going to base an "if" situation on an assumption that you're free to clarify. If you're in school in the U.S., I'm going to assume that you don't fully pay for the costs of your car. If your parents are granting you the privildge of using something that they pay for, you should also accept the responsibilities. Ask them, they make the call of what you respond to for her, because if it wasn't you, it'd be them.

 

[buddee1]

believe you me you are not a bad brother my brother is a bad brother he steals money from me blames me for my parents getting a divorce and keeps bitching about me keeping the xbox 360 while he gos to college you know when he CAN GET A FUCKING JOB!

 

[Takoto]

You don't seem like a bad brother, if that is the real, unbiased story.

I'm a bad sister, my brother and I share a room and we never even talk, my Mum says he's scared of me, and I don't even know why.

 

[Xorghul]

Its not that she is too young, its that she doesn't see a boyfriend as someone you like/love, she treats them more like a lap dog. She has tried (and done) to get her boyfriends to spread rumors about me, some of which make me feel extremely terrible about myself.

....Excuse me for saying this, but...your sister is a *****. You really need to stop being so nice to her. I'm not saying you should be mean to her(I think you should though ;p), but you've gotta start acting like a brother and not take shit from her.

She may take things from my room and make a story out of them (stealing stuff from Target or somthing), changing the story of what I did, or telling people what I did when I was a little kid that would embarrass me. Trust me she has done it multiple times now.

Return the favor.
And get a key to your room and lock it!

 

[katsa5]

You're doing ok. My much-younger brother tried the same stunt with me when I got my license. We had a trade-services system; he mowed the lawn for car rides. But there was a list of places that I would not, no matter the begging, drive him too. Such as the Prank Toy Store, or his friends house from across town, aka 30 miles away.
So my point is, you're doing good. Don't let some whining get to you.

 

[Lord Thodin]

No but what i think you should do is hit her. Just a little so she learns whos dominate in the pride.....

 

[MajoraPersona]

The information you have provided is insufficient to reach a proper conclusion.

But saying no does not make you a bad brother. Doing all that stuff for her is far worse.

 

[park92]

just do a thing so badly that she will never ever ask you to do it again like "accidently" throw her ipod into a puddle and say here it is

 

[Zarthek]

No offense but your sis sounds like a spoiled brat. Ignoring/disobeying brats doesn't make you a bad person... usually. But really, Make-up for volleyball practice? Ipod would make sense but makeup defiantly doesn't.

 

[Standby]

Grow some balls man, she's your little sister!

 

[The Shade]

It does not sound at all like you are a bad brother.

It does sound like you're a bad slave, though.

She apparently sees YOU as a lapdog too. In fact, she probably sees a great many other people as her personal servants.

You said you don't want to hurt your sister physically/mentally/emotionally, but she clearly does not grant you the same consideration. One-way predatory relationship are NOT healthy and you are allowing one to continue, even though you are the victim of the relationship. In fact, by allowing her to walk all over you, you are doing her less of a favor than if you snapped her back in line.

You may not want to admit it, but your sister is the typical stuck-up high-maintenance holier-than-thou ***** that most people want nothing to do with. If you don't stand up for yourself she will take advantage of you like she has been.

A wise person once said "You haven't been a good parent if you've never been hated by your children." The same logic applies to older siblings and other mentors. You've coddled her too much and now she sees having people wait on her hand and foot as the status quo. Correct her before the rest of the world does, because I can guarantee you the world will be far harsher on her than you could ever be.

That's about as useful advice you're gonna get here. Wise words.

 

[Walker100]

That you would do these things even sometimes and refuse to harm your sister makes you a better brother than I am to my little sister and I am not a bad big brother, I am just not that good of a big brother. Then there's the fact that you actually made a thread asking people if they would consider you a big brother. That just shows how much you care.

 

[General Ken8]

You're the exact opposite, i think you're too good of a brother
But i'm a soft guy too, and i would probably end up doing the same thing

 

[AbsoluteVirtue18]

My sister does that crap to me all the time.

So from someone who knows, no, you're not a bad brother.

Also your sister's a year younger than mine. Cool.

 

[Border City Gamer]

Ok, here is what you do, say no... it's that simple my friend, don't worry if she says she hates you, or says your a bad brother, you're not. I'm 15 and my brothers still refuse (most of the time) to do, well anything for me that i can't do on my own. If i want to go to my friends house, they say "ride your bike you lazy bastard." As the youngest of four boys I have been told to "do it myself" countless times. So don't let your little sisters words phase you, you have already been a great brother to her (from what it sounds like) and if she can't do anything for herself, well it's time to fucking teach that ***** to become independent.

 

[Border City Gamer]

My sister does that crap to me all the time.

So from someone who knows, no, you're not a bad brother.

Also your sister's a year younger than mine. Cool.

Is she single? lol

 

[TZer0]

According to what you're telling.. you're not a bad brother. Oh well, I won't be able to come with any advice about this case as I don't have any brothers or sisters

Btw.. those 18 people who voted yes, are they by any chance 14 year old girls who registered just to mess up with the poll?