Poll: Am I a bad brother?

[delet]

Just say no. Ever take D.A.R.E.?

You have no obligation to take her anywhere, and if she steals your stuff, get your parents involved or just take it back. You don't have to hit her, you can just either go into her room and take it back, grab it out of her hand, or take something of hers as collateral.

Tell me, how old are YOU? If you're in a different school than her, then there shouldn't be a problem with her telling rumors. Also, you shouldn't really care what her friends think, as you don't have to have anything to do with them.


I've found, as the youngest child with a (formerly) bitchy older sister, discipline makes you better. Make her pissed off at the very sight of you. Make her hate you. If you do that, she'll be a better person for it. Also, you can become her friend after you're off to college, if you would really like to.

As of now, she is a freshman at my school.

Doesn't help much since I don't know your standing in school...

If you're worried about her rumors, you can just tell your guy friends "That rumor was started by my sister. She's a brat/*****/insert insult here" and they should understand. If you're worried about girls not liking you for it, well you're going to have to deal with that when you try to make your move on a girl. If she mentions said rumor, just say something along the lines of "My sister started that because I wouldn't take her to taco bell" or whatever the stupid, trivial reason is.

 

[12345cyclone]

She is 14.

She fit? : D

Why man, you wan't her number or something?

 

[crypt-creature]

You need to ignore some of her demands, and her threats.
She just wants attention from you and probably wants to make you feel bad for not giving enough of it to her. You have your own life to live, help her if it seems reasonable but you do need to draw the line somewhere. It might make you feel bad, but you don't need to be trapped by your own feelings or the ones she is manipulating you into.
Yes, being a sibling does mean you will probably help out your sibling but it does not mean you will be their slave. Do not let her think that she can control you, if you care about her you will tell her no. It's better that she starts hearing it now, otherwise it will never sink in.
I'd even pull her boyfriend(s) aside and tell them the same thing. Eventually it will sink in, and it sounds like she really needs it.

If she spreads rumors, ignore them as much as possible. Again, she wants attention from you and to make you feel bad.
A rumor is only a rumor until proven. If she has no way to prove it, it's just her word against yours, and the more she does it the more people will see her as a needy little girl (which, at the moment, seems like what she is) and learn to ignore the things that come out of her mouth.
It'll suck, but stick up for yourself. For your sake, and hers.

 

[BehattedWanderer]

Run a few things for her, but have your own life too, holmes. Oh, and call them favors, what you do for your sister--favor she may or may not have to repay.

 

[Christemo]

a bad brother? for not being her slave? if that was my brother, id slapped him a few. she sound like an annoying little ego-tripper (sorry if im going to far, but seriously).

 

[ddon]

i suggest telling everyone that says your a bad brother for that tell them they are wrong by telling them why you think she does not need that stuff. makeup for a volley ball game? is she really that stupid that she would think that you would believe in that? and here is a saying that might help. "forgive your enemys. it will annoy them" but keep saying no to things for a good reason. trust me i forgave this girl for this arguement and she broke out into tears.

 

[jasoncyrus]

Sounds like your sister is trying to turn herself into a manipulating gold digger.

Bring the hammer/foot down on this behaviour, put her in her place and show her you wont stand for being abused in such a fashion. She needs to learn that the world frowns upon such behaviour.

 

[Bored Tomatoe]

Just tell people very calmly that she is on her period when they inquire about rumors. Blackmail her back as well. If she isn't favored by your parents, then talk to them about her being a spoiled *****, they're likely fed up with her too.

 

[esperandote]

no, actually you're being too good.

 

[nepheleim]

Yes because you're letting a child walk all over you. Say no way more often.

 

[Dr.Poisonfreak]

say to her "you got a pair of feet don't you? then jog on!!" makes me glad i havent passed my test yet xD

 

[Troublesome Lagomorph]

Tell her to get off her fat ass and do it herself. She has legs, make her use them.

 

[RobCoxxy]

No, you sound like a nice guy taken advantage of by an irritating little shit.
May I suggest:

Spoiler

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[Deleric]

No, what the hell kind of blackmail could she have on you?

 

[Bulletinmybrain]

Stop spoiling her, let her know there are limits.

 

[Flux289]

Stand up for yourself! You dont need help from people you dont know to be able to do that.

And no youre not a bad brother.

 

[Merteg]

I'm confused why you'd think you were a bad brother when your sister demands stuff of you and you finally say no.

 

[quiet_samurai]

Yes, you are training her to become irritating and needy, and you are training yourself to be a doormat. This might sound harsh, and I'm sorry, but sometimes you need to stand up to people no matter what your felings are for them. By not standing up for yourself and telling her she needs to do things for herself you are being a bad brother.

Next time just tell her "no", she'll probably rant and hollar but will eventually get over it and so will you.

 

[Solytus]

I think that you are being a bad brother, but not in the way that you're thinking. by letting your sister walk all over you, you're giving her the mindset that men are glorified servants, which will negatively impact her in the future. This was particularly evident in how your sister apparently treats her boyfriend...

like a lap dog.

My advice is to warn your mom about your sister's blackmail attempts, then, with all due respect, tell your sister to get off her ass and try walking or taking a bus.