Poll: Are Relationships for Everyone?

[RabbidKuriboh]

i guess i should explain the title

i have never been in any sort of relationship beyond friendship with a girl, and i don't really have a compulsion beyond the biological urge to seek a mate.And the very idea of me being in a relationship just seems ridiculous, i'm not sure why

do i need to be in a relationship to understand the true benifits? do some people just not require that kind of intimacy or dependance with another person?

 

[No_Remainders]

One needs to be in one to realise whether they're suited to be in one or not, if you get my meaning.

But no, definitely not for everyone.

 

[Zantos]

It's a sort of "you don't know until it happens", when you connect with someone and just want to spend all your time with them then you suddenly realise that's what they're always banging on about it.

 

[Jazzeki]

well a very important thing to establish is what do you mean by relation ship?
are we simply talking about the common 2 people haveing sex and being emotionally attached?
does it count if we are talking about completly inseprable freinds that has no sexual attrction what so ever? are we talking about basic human contact? obviously everyone needs some form of relation ship with other people.

but assumeing you are talking about the standard love relationship i can clearly tell you no. i can do this because i don't need it. i'm not saying i'll never have it but that i don't need it. i will admit i have no expirience but fact of the matter is i can not see anyone above what i personally would call friendship. then again my friendship can go very far so maybe i simply love everyone but then i'd not feel comfortable attacthing myself to a single person anyway and we'd be back at start.

 

[b3nn3tt]

Nope. Some people aren't happy unless they're in a relationship, others try relationships and don't like it, some people have no desire to ever be in a relationship. To each their own, if relationships aren't for you that's fine

 

[silent_noir_67]

I think that if you feel no need to be in a relationship then there's no need to rush things. I was in grade 10 before I got my first girlfriend simply because I wasn't remotely interested in dating beforehand.

It all depends on the person I guess, although I'd have that before someone swears off relationships entirely they should probably at least try them (not saying that you meant the topic like that at all).

 

[Stammer]

They're not for everyone, honestly. I've been in a few relationships and between my personal experiences and stories of the experiences of others I'm not exactly ready to commit myself to any long-term relationship with a woman.

Though I am only 22 and I'm still in university so maybe we'll see.

 

[Snork Maiden]

POLL: Is one particular thing going to work for everyone?

Answer: Probably not.

 

[Ace of Spades]

Of course not, but I'd give it a try before dismissing it.

 

[Billabong Pobblecock]

idon't think so. so people just want to be alone and there is nothing wrong with that.

 

[Dogstile]

Nah, of course not. Everyone is different, that's what makes us human.

 

[Phasmal]

No, it's not for everyone. Some people are happy on their own (or have far too many issues to date).
Still, dont stress about not wanting to date, I didnt want to for a long time either. But dont do what I did and go out with someone because you think you should be dating by now, it ends badly.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

No.

This whole idea that everyone needs to be with someone is stupid. Like everyone is so fucking codependent that anyone who is without something to mash genitalia with is in serious mortal danger.

Half the reason people are so fucking distressed that they haven't had a girlfriend or boyfriend at sixteen or whatever is because of this societal obsession with romance and relationships. We are fucking raised to think being with someone is the only way to be, the ultimate fucking goal. All of these depressed whiny nerds we get bitching on the internet about VIRGIN FOREVER FML caused by this bullshit.

It isn't important. It will never be important. I will enjoy my life just fine without someone leeching off my energy and patience just so they can fill a nonexistent void.

 

[Continuity]

i guess i should explain the title

i have never been in any sort of relationship beyond friendship with a girl, and i don't really have a compulsion beyond the biological urge to seek a mate.And the very idea of me being in a relationship just seems ridiculous, i'm not sure why

do i need to be in a relationship to understand the true benifits? do some people just not require that kind of intimacy or dependance with another person?

Try it. Then conclude like I did that they're not worth the effort or maybe you'll think they are... but you cant reach a decision without trying.

Personally I absolutely don't require personal relationships, I flat share with a guy who is hardly here and I live a hundred miles away from friends and family, I have no girlfriend so its essentially just me.... and I've never been happier!! Not even a twitch of missing anyone for a second, even a fraction of a second.

Home is where the computer is

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

No.

This whole idea that everyone needs to be with someone is stupid. Like everyone is so fucking codependent that anyone who is without something to mash genitalia with is in serious mortal danger.

Half the reason people are so fucking distressed that they haven't had a girlfriend or boyfriend at sixteen or whatever is because of this societal obsession with romance and relationships. We are fucking raised to think being with someone is the only way to be, the ultimate fucking goal. All of these depressed whiny nerds we get bitching on the internet about VIRGIN FOREVER FML caused by this bullshit.

It isn't important. It will never be important. I will enjoy my life just fine without someone leeching off my energy and patience just so they can fill a nonexistent void.

I understand your point, but... cynic much?

OP: Are they for everyone? Well... I dunno. I think everyone should probably try their hand at it when they're ready, but eventually some people are bound to go on with their lives without a significant other to share it.

It's not cynicism. It is targetless venom spewing at whatever presents itself.
There is a difference. One is bitter whinging. The other is just throwing a tantrum.

Maybe I should have put it all in capslock and periodically embedded a scowling face.

 

[aba1]

I find alot of kids rush into dating I guess I started dating at 16 too but I was never really looking either I just happened into it. I think if you don't feel the need for one than don't bother but at the same time if somthing comes your way dont hide from it be open to seeing how it goes n decide after you have tried. Ussually being a little older and past all the silly high school drama helps you make a more informed decision.

 

[Zeetchmen]

I say give it a try first, I tried it and hated it so I don't see to find another. Or even worse go through the process of finding another