Poll: Can you hate gay culture and not be homophobic?

[sir.rutthed]

Well, can you? I know a few gay people, and I've called some of them my friends but never someone who makes 'I'm gay' a major part of their identity. By major part, I mean someone who flaunts it at any opportunity. I realize that it's part of the whole 'we're here, we're queer' thing, but I still think it's obnoxious to flaunt your sexuality (no matter what it is) because it's obviously going to make some people uncomfortable (again, no matter what you like to hump). So, are people who like me who don't automatically hate gay people for being gay but don't like the 'in your face' attitude surrounding a large part of that culture homophobic? Or is it acceptable to draw that distinction?

EDIT: OMNOMNOMNOM *bits of my poll go flying everywhere*

 

[pixiejedi]

I think you can. My little sis is gay, honestly I don't care one way or another. Part of me worries for her a bit though. She is pretty out and proud and all that. Thats all well and good but she is talking about getting a big rainbow tattoo and I worry it well be a hindrance to her succeeding in life. She isn't making out with her girlfriend and stuff in front of me, but it would bug me if she did. If any of my siblings did it would bug me though.

I guess I think thats more of a personality issue than a sexuality preference. If they were that into football or the show Mad Men that they went about making a big scene it would probably be annoying to, ami right?

 

[LobsterFeng]

I'd say yes. People can get really annoying when they constantly shove their lifestyle in your face. Like the vegetarian that takes every single opportunity to tell someone that they're a vegetarian. It's like "good for you...do you want a cookie or something?"

 

[Hitokiri_Gensai]

I think so, yes.

 

[Loonyyy]

Homophobic has always been a misnomer, designed to make those who don't like gays seem cowardly. That said, I have no problems with gays. Sure, the whole, "Hollywood Queer" and flamboyantly irritating person annoys me, just as much as the guy who won't stop banging on about breasts and ass. Avoid all of them like the plague. Hating a certain way of behaving doesn't necessarily mean you hate the entire group, and if your only problem is the way some of them behave, then that's a good thing, because that's hardly a problem.

 

[celsuis]

I think that part of the whole purpose for making a big deal about one's being gay is to draw attention to the subject. Essentially, by broadcasting it, they're getting the subject out of the taboo and into the mainstream. I think somewhere along the line "Gay culture" will no longer be a thing. It will just be integrated into the rest of society. But before that can happen, before being gay can be "normal", the rest of the world has to be desensitized to it.

So yeah, it's perfectly fine that gay culture weirds you out a little, but it's also important to understand why people do it. A lot of people are still "weirded out" by homosexuality. The only way to change that is immersion.

 

[Josue Rodriguez]

Hey, I'm a dude who likes dudes and I have no problem with that providing they like stuff I do, like video games, comics, sports, tv, shit like that. I hate the other type of flaunting gay the same way I hate it in hyperactive girls.

 

[Gmans uncle]

Well I'm bisexual, and I don't "flaunt it at every opportunity" (I've never even worn a pride pin out in public) and all my gay/bi/trans friends don't really make a big deal out of it either, so I'd say what you have a problem with isn't gay culture it's self, but rather excessive pride, that isn't exclusive to the LGBT community, that's EVERYWHERE, and if you ask me there's nothing wrong with having pride in who you are.
I can completely see where you're coming from though, but no, I wouldn't say what you describe is homophobic, just a bit narrow minded.

 

[lord.jeff]

I hate anyone who makes sex or sexual preferences a major part of there personality, gay or straight.

 

[celsuis]

I hate anyone who makes sex or sexual preferences a major part of there personality, gay or straight.

Why? Just out of curiosity.

 

[ckam]

Hmm, let's apply this to a different standard. Can you hate African culture and not be racist? Yes, I don't like gangster-wannabees and rappers but I could care less about their skin.

 

[thiosk]

The segment of the lgbt community--and the rest of society in general, incidentally-- that I feel worst for are the ones whose sexual identity are THE singular part of their lives. They can't be anything but their sexuality, and its a consumptive condition. I know a lot of folks who are gay-- so you fancy men, women, whatever, big deal. They're a professor-- who happens to be gay. A police officer, who fancies men. A lady secretary who likes the ladies. Good for them! I hope the laws change to enable you to marry. Its the ones that can't really do much of anything because they're so enmeshed in sexual identity that I feel sorry for. I'm tired of hearing about their trials and tribulations on the tele, as well, incidentally. Theres a lot more to life than what you do with your junk in the night time, and what everyone feels about it.

 

[Paladin Anderson]

I hate rap music. Doesn't mean I hate minorities. Though some minorities who wear their race card stapled to their forehead, so they wont have to exhaust their arms pulling it out all the time, would be happy to disagree.

There's a difference between hating a culture and hating a people. What you do in you bed with whomever you want is your business. Acting Hollywood gay? No. Just no.