Poll: Gender Identity

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Jadak

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thaluikhain said:
Nimcha said:
Ugh, I object to the 'cis' label.
What label would you prefer to have, then?
What's wrong with just using male and female? You don't need to go appending prefixes to describe the baseline of something.

If other people need additional parameters to adequately describe their gender, than so be it, but otherwise plain old male and female suits it just fine.
 

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chadachada123 said:
Oh darn, I was born as an oppressive white male. Woe is me.

(Side note, I truly think that anyone that doesn't answer among the first four options is either lying, delusional, or thinks of themselves as some sort of special snowflake)
Excepting, of course, that there are rather obviously large numbers of people who are intersex. Intersex being the most obvious, but hardly the only, group that would fall into the "other" category.

(Unless, of course, the second line was a continuation of the attempt at "oppressive white male" humour, instead of a confirmation.)
 

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Phasmal said:
Cisgender female. It's pretty chill for me.

Padwolf said:
Cis female here and I'm pretty darn happy to stay this way. I've never really questioned my gender, only femininity. Such as I used to hate wearing make up, and I was told I'm "not a real girl" because of that. I was also told I'm "not a real girl" because I wax instead of shaving. Possibly the dumbest thing I've ever heard, but there you go.
I've sort of had this. I get told I'm `emasculating`, for the weirdest crap. Like beating a guy at poker. Oh shit how manly of me to know how to play cards.

I kinda wish that stuff wasn't attributed to gender at all. That way boyfriend could get over himself and admit that he loves Disney movies just as much as I do, and I wouldn't get shit for liking games. Ah... if only.
I got shit for "staying in all day playing games"! I got some shit at school for beating boys at football. I wish my boyfriend would admit to loving disney movies too, he loves The Jungle Book and he admitted to really enjoying Beauty and the Beast and Toy Story, otherwise he won't watch any other ones with me and yet I know he will really love them, if not for the stories he will love the music. He keeps hinting at Frozen. I've seen it, when I had it on he insisted it was crap and wouldn't watch the second half. Now he whistles the tunes on occasion, knows the words to some of the songs and hints at watching it. If only!
 

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Jadak said:
What's wrong with just using male and female? You don't need to go appending prefixes to describe the baseline of something.

If other people need additional parameters to adequately describe their gender, than so be it, but otherwise plain old male and female suits it just fine.
Well, for the most part, yes, male and female work perfectly well, but occasionally additional parameters would be useful.

Things would be a lot better if those additional parameters weren't needed so often, but that's been slow to change.
 

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Thing between the legs tells me I'm a dude. Mentally I'm not 100% sure anymore. Last year has been confusing times, not only about this but other stuff aswell.
 

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Padwolf said:
I was also told I'm "not a real girl" because I wax instead of shaving. Possibly the dumbest thing I've ever heard, but there you go.
Umm...

Seriously?

I mean, that'd be like someone telling me I'm "not a real man" for shaving my face with disposable razors instead of the ones where you change out the blades.

Please tell me you asked the numbskull in question to explain themselves.
 

Something Amyss

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Zhukov said:
Padwolf said:
I was also told I'm "not a real girl" because I wax instead of shaving. Possibly the dumbest thing I've ever heard, but there you go.
Umm...

Seriously?

I mean, that'd be like someone telling me I'm "not a real man" for shaving my face with disposable razors instead of the ones where you change out the blades.

Please tell me you asked the numbskull in question to explain themselves.
Wait, what? You're not using a straight razor? And you call yourself a man!
 

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Padwolf said:
Colour Scientist said:
Padwolf said:
I was told I'm "not a real girl" because of that. I was also told I'm "not a real girl" because I wax instead of shaving. Possibly the dumbest thing I've ever heard, but there you go.
Wat, how does that work?
What kind of person said that to you?
I have no idea how it works, I was so confused by it. I don't understand how waxing = not feminine. When it was said I just couldn't really talk other than go "wha? I don't even...". It was said by someone who is usually very open minded, very mature, and very intelligent. It made it all the more weird and stupid and random.
One thing that comes to mind is that waxing is painful and painful things aren't feminine, dainty flowers and all that.

Ignoring things like menstruation, pregnancy, higher pain resistance on average etc. of course.
 

Jadak

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thaluikhain said:
Jadak said:
What's wrong with just using male and female? You don't need to go appending prefixes to describe the baseline of something.

If other people need additional parameters to adequately describe their gender, than so be it, but otherwise plain old male and female suits it just fine.
Well, for the most part, yes, male and female work perfectly well, but occasionally additional parameters would be useful.

Things would be a lot better if those additional parameters weren't needed so often, but that's been slow to change.
Did you only read half my post? Yes, additional parameters are sometimes needed or at least useful. No problem, use them when they help. What you're calling 'cis' is the baseline, a lack of extra parameters, so no need to add anything.
 

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thaluikhain said:
Excepting, of course, that there are rather obviously large numbers of people who are intersex. Intersex being the most obvious, but hardly the only, group that would fall into the "other" category.

(Unless, of course, the second line was a continuation of the attempt at "oppressive white male" humour, instead of a confirmation.)
Intersex people should pick a side and stop being greedy!

....Sorry, just applying the logic that bisexuals are handed. It sounds silly there, too.
 

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Zachary Amaranth said:
Zhukov said:
Padwolf said:
I was also told I'm "not a real girl" because I wax instead of shaving. Possibly the dumbest thing I've ever heard, but there you go.
Umm...

Seriously?

I mean, that'd be like someone telling me I'm "not a real man" for shaving my face with disposable razors instead of the ones where you change out the blades.

Please tell me you asked the numbskull in question to explain themselves.
Wait, what? You're not using a straight razor? And you call yourself a man!
Mate, I still manage to nick myself with a safety razor from time to time. (Always on the tip of the chin.) I'd be liable to sever my own windpipe if I tried a straight razor.

I did shave with a really sharp pocket knife once though. That's gotta net me a few manly points, right? Right?
 

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Jadak said:
Did you only read half my post? Yes, additional parameters are sometimes needed or at least useful. No problem, use them when they help. What you're calling 'cis' is the baseline, a lack of extra parameters, so no need to add anything.
Ah, seem to have missed your point entirely.

Anyway...I really don't like the idea of claiming a default of this sort of thing. Even if one group is much more numerous, deciding that they are the default is very othering for the other groups.
 

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Jadak said:
Did you only read half my post? Yes, additional parameters are sometimes needed or at least useful. No problem, use them when they help. What you're calling 'cis' is the baseline, a lack of extra parameters, so no need to add anything.
Do you feel the same about heterosexual?
 

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Hixy said:
There is nothing old fashioned or unenlightened about men wanting to behave like men and women like women.
However, there is something very wrong with individuals pushing that expectation onto other individuals. Whether someone wants to do things in keeping with their traditional gender roles or not is their choice, and nobody else's.

(I'd also question the relevance of the majority of society supporting an idea or not)
 

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Hooray for other! I'm gender-fluid, folks. Recently came out to close friends and family, too. That was fun.
 

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Padwolf said:
Phasmal said:
Cisgender female. It's pretty chill for me.

Padwolf said:
Cis female here and I'm pretty darn happy to stay this way. I've never really questioned my gender, only femininity. Such as I used to hate wearing make up, and I was told I'm "not a real girl" because of that. I was also told I'm "not a real girl" because I wax instead of shaving. Possibly the dumbest thing I've ever heard, but there you go.
I've sort of had this. I get told I'm `emasculating`, for the weirdest crap. Like beating a guy at poker. Oh shit how manly of me to know how to play cards.

I kinda wish that stuff wasn't attributed to gender at all. That way boyfriend could get over himself and admit that he loves Disney movies just as much as I do, and I wouldn't get shit for liking games. Ah... if only.
I got shit for "staying in all day playing games"! I got some shit at school for beating boys at football. I wish my boyfriend would admit to loving disney movies too, he loves The Jungle Book and he admitted to really enjoying Beauty and the Beast and Toy Story, otherwise he won't watch any other ones with me and yet I know he will really love them, if not for the stories he will love the music. He keeps hinting at Frozen. I've seen it, when I had it on he insisted it was crap and wouldn't watch the second half. Now he whistles the tunes on occasion, knows the words to some of the songs and hints at watching it. If only!
Just as an aside, my boyfriend was the one who made me watch Frozen. :D
 

Something Amyss

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Hixy said:
Extreme example that it is, the next world war roles around and the men will be out fighting and the women will be picking up the slack.
Absolutely, as long as that world war is World War 2.

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here is nothing old fashioned or unenlightened about men wanting to behave like men and women like women. Thats the vast majority of society.
The "vast majority" also adheres to a different version of what "men" and "women" are and what their "roles" are compared to even fifty years ago. Which kind of leads to the question of "so what?"

Zhukov said:
I did shave with a really sharp pocket knife once though. That's gotta net me a few manly points, right? Right?
...How big was the knife?