Poll: "If you cry, you're weak."

[olcohalic]

i think that crying is fine, but full on sobbing should really be kept in private, because it's a fact of life that others see it as weakness and it can result in bullying and stuff. So releasing your emotions in private is a win-win situation. Of course death is different.

 

[Pariah87]

I haven't been able to properly cry in a few years now. Even when I'm really emotionally moved in private, I manage a couple of tears at most. Possibly because I numbed myself to the point that showing much emotion at all is difficult, be it anger, happiness, sadness, whatever.

It does mean I have less to bottle up inside of me though, seeing as things don't really affect me much. It takes a hell of alot to get me angry.

I actually hate it, as a result getting close to people is near impossible seeing as I can't show any affection to people or even seem like I care, even when I do.

I don't believe it stemmed from any "showing emotion is weak" thoughts, more along the lines of "feeling sad/worthless/depressed all the time sucks, lets drink the pain away untill you can't feel anymore". Yeah, I'm an emotionally healthy human being.

 

[Kraj]

I remember crying out of pain a few times when i was young, about 7 it stopped and I "hardened up". From then on I've only cried when furious, which usually involves beating someones head into the wall repeatedly or standing clenching my fists. "I've only been noticeably angry four times in my life. ever."
I try to avoid emotional extremes. Its okay to show you love someone, its okay to show your sorry, but moderation is healthy, even though I'm immoderate about it.

 

[Baldry]

Only real people cry. Well, some robots do, but only if their made correctly. And nah its Ok too cry as long as its not over something stupid like theirs a hole in your shirt or you got a boo boo.

 

[Randomvirus]

There is only one time when a man is allowed to cry.

When his dog dies.

Any other time makes you a sissy.

 

[Idlemessiah]

Well this didn't happen to me, it was...a friend. I...He was doing kickboxing trining and he got dropped on his ass and bruised his tailbone. After class and after he went home, A few tears made it feel all better. Mind you this was my friend...not me...a friend.

Oooh I know how that feels. Like you got a broken leg right on your arse.
Extreme pain is a perfectly acceptable situation to cry in. As long as theres a reason.
"Oh god you chopped my arm off! I'll never be able to eat Chinese food again!" for example.

 

[CK76]

To me truly weak people are those who never have the confidence to be vulnerable. To not cry over the loss of a loved one that meant so much to someone out of feeling of being tough is not a sign of strength, but of cowardice.

 

[Legion]

There are people stupid enough on here to say that crying is never OK? Dear God...

To me truly weak people are those who never have the confidence to be vulnerable. To not cry over the loss of a loved one that meant so much to someone out of feeling of being tough is not a sign of strength, but of cowardice.

Indeed. It's denying your grief and that's a lot weaker than admitting to it and making effort to deal with it.

 

[Higurashi]

There is social stigma against showing too much emotion in public in most of Western civilisation. However, allowing yourself to feel strongly and accept it is strength. Not weakness. It is always okay if it's what you feel. Absolutely nothing good comes from denying your own feelings. In fact, it can do you much emotional harm in the long run. That said, there are unfortunately situations when it can be useful to postpone your reaction, but never deny it. Never repress.

 

[DividedUnity]

I've lost the ability to cry years ago; death and pain don't work anymore. This has changed my view to, "Never cry in public" and don't do it privately unless it qualifies under Man Law;

1) Hit in the genitals with anything traveling over 10mph.
2) Your date is using her teeth.
3) Anna Kournikova gets married.

*note for #1* Man Law also saws anyone nursing a hit is to be hit again so... be careful

I agree with number one. Getting kicked in the nuts is so painful and it always leave you with that wierd feeling afterwards.

One and two however im not gonna say anything....


OT: crying is ok at funerals and traumatic events in public I guess but for anything else it should be in private in my opinion

 

[R4ptur3]

Crying is fine. i never understood why people find it odd when adults cry. i still don't.

 

[Turbo_Destructor]

I think that crying is extremely liberating and cathartic, especially if its with someone you love and trust, and it can help you get past feelings and stop you from dwelling on them or wallowing in them.

 

[Matt King]

If crying makes one weak, call me Wimp-Man.

i agree

 

[TheBigJadowski]

Like most things, when its done in moderation it's alright. It's a constructive form of expression and therapy when done appropriately. But if you do it too much then yes, you are a whiner and weak, but do it too little, and people will think you're either cold or have little or no feelings. And to address the whole man law or macho issue, I reply with this, is there it inappropriate for a man to laugh? get angry? to cuss out loud? I didn't think so. So if crying to get over things isn't good enough for you, then it's your loss. And you've succeeded in your quest to be the ultimate poser and hollowed out human being in life.

 

[Vitor Goncalves]

Well, if you cry in front of other people it generally shows 'weakness', but everyone needs to cry every now and again. I have a problem for myself right now because I constantly feel like I need to cry but I never can. Tears tend to just flow out at completely random times, like when I'm trying to sleep or when I'm just walking. It's quite annoying.

You are depressed maybe and need some good rest to sort out your ideas?

I usually cry when I am alone, thinking about sad things. It feels good afterwards.

 

[JigzPro]

Boys dont cry

 

[Galaxialconda]

I'm sorry but if you think crying is weak it is not ok to cry if your sport team has lost the finals of whatever, that's is probably one of the poorer excuses I can think of to cry.

Anyways I don't think it's a sign of weakness, if anything I think holding back tears just because you think it is weak is a sign of insecurity.

 

[Sgt Doom]

I haven't cried for pretty much as long as I can remember, despite constantly feeling the need to.
I don't see why it's seen as odd or weak to cry, to be honest.

 

[zombiesinc]

It's always okay to cry, in my opinion. It's healthy, and it's a human function/need, just like urinating, sleeping and having sex. Society and media has made it seem like an inappropriate thing to do, unless of course you're a child, or female. I will agree, however, that there are circumstances in which it may be inappropriate to cry.

It's sad that society and media dictates what is and isn't okay to show/do/feel/think openly or at all. To believe that doing certain things makes you any less of a person or that it's not okay to show certain things in public... It's utter bullshit (with obvious exceptions).

/stops... I'm getting off-topic.

 

[Elle-Jai]

Also, it seems that several people clicked the opposite of what they wanted to click. I think the poll could have been done a little better.

Agreed but 1) It was my first, so I get allowances lol
and 2) It at least got them talking, which is better than just clicking a button and slithering away