Poll: "If you cry, you're weak."

[Hurr Durr Derp]

I think it depends on what you're crying about. For example, if you're crying because you lost someone you care about, that's perfectly normal. If you're crying because you stubbed your toe, I'm going to tell you to man the fuck up.

Also, showing emotion might not be a bad thing, but crying all the time makes everyone around you feel uncomfortable, so don't do it.

 

[DoomyMcDoom]

I cry for some things... death of a loved one, and once when i realized the true futility of life, love, and everything... that was a pretty deep feeling of sorrow there... but hey if you can get over being a meaningless useless piece of meat that nobody loves... well hey you can get over anything... am i right?

heh... I replaced sorrow with hate, i replaced tears of sadness with shouts of rage, i replaced fear with a deep knowing that death is but another inevitable part of life.

I do not cry except in an extreme situation where i am a witness to the death of someone i care about, and the realization strikes me that it was them and not me to bite it... after all I have no real future, and most people i care for have a plan an education and connections... I have an unofficial education, I'm not a graduate of highschool, in fact i left to avoid murdering people, as I found my feelings of intense hate were clouding my perception. I then spent 6 years of my life, alone.
I'm a much clearer headed person now, and i feel almost no emotion in most situations...

as such i am almost an abomination in the eyes of my family...

ok i rambled a bit... still my reasoning for saying depends on the poll is thus. i am unnaturally devoid of emotion, so i would say it is not weak for someone else to cry.

also studies have been done, and they've found that if you are a woman and you bottle up your emotion and hide it, it causes an unhealthy kind of stress, which can cause serious health issues... so a woman crying is just a healthy expression of sadness...

they did the same study with all male participants and saw no remarkable effect of bottling up emotion... so... i guess, maybe that is why i see men crying about anything short of a life harming catastrophy as a weak abhorrent and detestable expression of weakness...

/end rant

 

[PhoenixOnly]

Crying is just for wimps. i don't have time to cry in my busy schedule of pumping iron, laying broads, smashing windows, roaring in public, driving my ferrari and winning.
Plus i've been drinking 19 protein shakes a day and my muscles around my eyes have become massive so even if i did cry (which I don't) i would need a spoon to scoop the gay juice out of my face

 

[benjtfell]

Yeh when a really sad event happens, (someone dying), otherwise it just seems a bit pointless and uneeded. I think it's just better to just feel sad, or get angry as I enjoy doing that.

 

[Resistance205]

I think I'm a proud member of the "Harden The Fu*** up School" of doing things, it's the same reason I don't ask for help really.

 

[AVATAR_RAGE]

i rarely cry, so if i do everyone better shut the hell up about it

 

[Kollega]

It's just as okay as it is to laugh. Having emotions is completely natural - and good - for human beings.

Last time i checked, i wasn't a robot.

 

[Woodsey]

Never in front of people and certainly not very often. Obviously there are some things that don't apply (funerals and whatnot).

I'd only apply those rules to guys by the way.

 

[ottenni]

Only if you cry manly tears of FIRE! And err, FOOTBALL!

So its ok to cry if you are Nick Riewoldt. I know only a handful of people here will get that, and i think it was worth it.

But in all seriousness, its ok to cry. I may find it odd that people cry over certain things. But things such as death of a loved one or even loss of a grand final i can understand. No shame in it.

 

[gillebro]

Well I cry pretty often, so it would be wrong of me to say that it isn't OK. And it is OK. I've certainly never thought to judge people for it. My dad cries a lot as well, but he reckons it's embarrassing, which I think is silly. I certainly don't cry about things that are trivial to me (although they may be to other people).
I do subscribe to the "harden the fuck up" principle as well though, but not about things that hurt you inside. Generally I use that for when people are being lazy and complaining lots and all of that sort of thing.

 

[Boba Frag]

Crying is a release of emotion, nothing more, nothing less. People cry when they're depressed, happy, angry, in pain, stressed. I see no shame in it. I don't cry much myself, but if I did, I would not be ashamed.

The last time I cried was about a year ago, when I was very depressed. It was only once, but for about 20 minutes or so, in the bathroom alone. Not by choice, it just happened. It was very cathartic, it was like I was detoxifying myself of all the emotional baggage I had. I felt fine afterward, much better.

Anyone who'd call that weakness is a fool.

I agreen totally. It actually infuriates me to think that there are people who still think it's a sign of weakness. "Harden the f*** up" seems like an intensely juvenile way of thinking. I think if people genuinely believe that then there have serious problems with empathising with others at the very least.

I would have thought society was more mature, but obviously not.
I think it must be something in Anglo-American culture. Thankfully, I'm not from either country, but we still have that here and there from where I come from. It's starting to change now thankfully.

Personally, if I need to cry, I'd rather hold it until I can be in private. Not because I'm ashamed, but because I feel like no-one else has the right to see into my personal life without my permission.
I had to hold it in for an entire day of flying, one of which was trans-Atlantic, because I had to leave the love of my life behind.

 

[Dott]

hurr durr u r weak cuz u shed tears *shunz*

See, if we all went about acting like that, shunning those who cry or otherwise show that they have more emotional depth than a god damn metallic mountain, then this world would be an awful place to be.

This entire topic begs for one simple question:

Why does crying/showing emotion make you weak?

 

[serialver]

Crying is fine like anything else as long as it does not stop you moving forward and living.

 

[Uncreation]

*snip*

i am unnaturally devoid of emotion, so i would say it is not weak for someone else to cry.

*snip*

i guess, maybe that is why i see men crying about anything short of a life harming catastrophy as a weak abhorrent and detestable expression of weakness...

/end rant

I'm confused a bit...

Also, i think i'd like to call bullshit on that study. Bottling up your feelings causes stress in men too. You often hear about people who kept hiding their pain, and then they couldn't take it anymore, and hurt themselves, or went on a killing spree. Do you remember were you heard about that study?

Also, it seems that several people clicked the opposite of what they wanted to click. I think the poll could have been done a little better.

 

[Usurpurus]

No matter what people say, you look weak to others.

 

[SomeBritishDude]

I wouldn't say crying makes you weak. But I haven't cried for a very long time.

When I was younger, everything up to the age of 15, I cried like it was no ones business, at very little things at times, at selfish things most often. I'm not sure when I did it, but at one point or another I found myself crying at something so pathetic and ignorant that I just kind of closed off that part of my mind.

I haven't cried since, even when my Granfather died. Which I suppose it unhealthy but I just don't do it anymore. I'm still brought to the verge but I never quite tip over. So no, I wouldn't say it's weak to cry, but neither is it strong to do so at the little things. Just don't turn into a cry baby or a cold hearted robot like me, find a balance.

 

[Katherine Kerensky]

There is nothing wrong with crying.
Anyone who says that crying makes someone weak, just dropped a notch in my eyes...

 

[Andalusa]

The last surviving kitten of a litter of four died today. They were born on Monday. Two were still borns, the third was smothered by its mother yesterday afternoon, and the last one just stopped breathing this morning. Last Sunday, our oldest cat's body was returned to us. I'm feeling pretty crushed right now. It's okay for me to cry I think.

 

[Blackvegie]

Only when you're listening to Goodbye Yellow Brick Road.

 

[sjarri]

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