Poll: Is it OK to date your best friend's ex-girlfriend

[WorldCritic]

NO! It's not ok! It makes things really awkward and you'll end up hating each other! I hate you Sam.

 

[p3t3r]

i say u should ask your friend instead of the internet because we don't know and your friend does

 

[Ziltoid]

You only went out for two days? Then no it's not wrong for her to go after your friend.

She should respect your friend's current relationship though.

 

[Aerodyamic]

I would personally bang the sides off of it, but that's because I'm and incorrigible and unrepentant man-slut. I wouldn't kiss and tell, I wouldn't date her, and I would cheat to do it, though.

Mind you, I'm kind of an asshole that way.

 

[RhombusHatesYou]

My ex-girlfried, who broke up with me just over 3 weaks ago cause it was "too awkward" after two days, is trying to go after my best friend. We all hang out in the same group, we were all friends during, before, and after the relationship. Also my friend is in a relationship, 9 months strong.
Is it OK to date your best friend's (most recent, if that changes anything) ex-girlfriend?

So... wait... are you asking if it's okay for your mate to dump his woman for your ex or if it's okay for you to pounce on his woman if he shitcans her?

 

[Paksenarrion]

What the fuck is wrong with boys today? Do guys not have fathers to teach them the goddamn man rules? No wonder society's so fucked up. Alright, listen up, kid. You may not have your daddy teachin' you the rules, but I'm probably old enough to be your father, so I'll have to do.

Watch some beer commercials or something, boy. It is NEVER OK to date a girl who broke it off with one of your buddies. Ever.

And the girl's a slut. Not only does she go right after your best friend, but she's trying to steal him from another girl. She's poison. Your buddy shouldn't date her ANYWAY.

This. Even *my* dad told me about man rules. Guy or gal, a slut is a slut. Bros before hos, dude.

 

[Super Toast]

Look up the Bro Code, and follow it like your own personal bible.

 

[SimuLord]

Will it hurt your friendship? If not go nuts, if so you have to ask yourself how much do I like her? vs. how much do I like him?

to the others why isn't it OK?

As much as we'd like the world to believe we sprang fully formed from the granite of the Earth, hard and cold as stone. Fact is we have feelings too. Women get to weep, watch rom-coms, hold hands, vent, PMS, cry some more, and keep a live journal. All we have to protect us is the rules.

Shame on any man who doesn't keep to them.

OK, but that didn't really tell me anything, my question was more why do people make up and follow arbitrary rules and codes instead of just doing what they feel is right?

"Arbitrary rules and codes"? "What they FEEL is right?" Good thing I ain't yo' daddy or I'd smack you, boy.

The code is there so men are on the same page. So we don't have to guess what's right or (God save us all) FEEL what's right. That's girlie-man shit right there. Might as well cut off your junk 'cause you're more than halfway to being a woman.

You know the saying "a man's gotta do what a man's gotta do"? And y'know how a man always seems to know what that is, and when he doesn't, that's what his father or his friends are for? You never hear "a girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do", because women have that whole FEELINGS thing going and it's why there ain't a man alive who can figure out a woman.

"We are a generation of men raised by women. And we're pissed off." - Tyler Durden

 

[lariat37]

God, will someone walk in here with some actual sense and stop spouting "BROS BEFORE HOS" like its some sort of religious chant? YES, there are times when you shouldn't date your friends ex, but there are plenty of situations where it's OKAY to date them.

However, the girl in the OP seems kinda skanky for trying to move on to a guy in a healthy 9 month relationship.

 

[Marmooset]

My ex-girlfried, who broke up with me just over 3 weaks ago cause it was "too awkward" after two days, is trying to go after my best friend. We all hang out in the same group, we were all friends during, before, and after the relationship. Also my friend is in a relationship, 9 months strong.
Is it OK to date your best friend's (most recent, if that changes anything) ex-girlfriend?

On the other hand, would you be willing to date her best friend?

 

[Irridium]

Spoiler

"Bros before hoes. Why? Because your bros are always there for you. They got your back after your ho rips your heart out for no good reason. And you were nothing but great to your ho, and you told her that she was the only ho for you. And that she was better than all the other hoes in the world. And then suddenly...she's not yo' ho no mo'."

Spoiler: Agreed

She sounds like a skank. Avoid at all costs. And to all the bro's:

 

[ottenni]

Hell you know what they say.

And damn straight too!

A mates ex is absolutely out of bounds. Its in the rules. And you don't argue with the rules man.

 

[sneakypenguin]

ROTFL 2 days?
Anyways I did it and now have been dating the girl for three years, and I still hang out with my friend. It all depends on the situation. If he wants said girl back leave it alone, if he did the dumping then fair game. Or in your case it sounds like high school in which case it doesn't freaking matter lol.

 

[Marmooset]

"Arbitrary rules and codes"? "What they FEEL is right?" Good thing I ain't yo' daddy or I'd smack you, boy.

Hell, it's a good thing for him you ain't his daddy from an evolutionary standpoint...

 

[TheSteeleStrap]

You should adopt the rule my buddies and I have. Ask them, and if they are ok with it, you're in the clear. Otherwise, it'll be awkward because if your friend is dating her, chances are you'll all be hanging out together.

 

[inflamessoilwork]

Normally I find it fine, because if she's falling for your best friend, then you are doing something wrong.

 

[ydkwidrmw]

male comrades before women who sell themselves for money

 

[Sojaus]

My ex-girlfried, who broke up with me just over 3 weaks ago cause it was "too awkward" after two days, is trying to go after my best friend. We all hang out in the same group, we were all friends during, before, and after the relationship. Also my friend is in a relationship, 9 months strong.
Is it OK to date your best friend's (most recent, if that changes anything) ex-girlfriend?

Well, the fact that you're calling her an ex, after 2 days of dating is the wrong way to even look at this; 2 days does not even constitute an acquaintance, let alone a relationship so just please, stop right there.

Secondly the main question at hand is if it's alright for one to date their best friends ex. Well, that question is solely reserved for your best friend honestly. The bros before hoes rule is the a-typical followed man code. Short term the answer is simply no (No if's, no ands or but's); though long term I would ask your best friend if he's ok with that as there may be underlying feelings still lurking around and that just leads to disaster. If he says no, then well, don't though if he says it's ok well it's a go, even if he's not ok with it (His fault for giving the go ahead!). All I can say is thank god by best friend is a lot like me when it comes to sleeping with women:

after sex
Her: "Can I stay the night?"
Bro: "Huh? What are you still doing here? I'm going to sleep now"