Poll: Is sex sacred to you?
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Apparently, at the point of orgasm hormones are produced that simulate love. Personally, I couldn't say, my virginity was just something I was in a rush to get rid of because everyone else was doing it and when it happened the experience was disappointing then things just got better as other things got bigger. I do find the attitude can change depending on class, background etc, but not in most cases.
...Nope. I have enough self respect to know if a guy needs that much convincing, he's not into you enough and thus not worth it.Bran1470 said:I'm sorry i should of explained that allow me to rephrase myself...Phasmal said:...Seriously?Bran1470 said:Also it drives girls crazy when i tell them i dont want to have sex with them because they aren't special enough
I'm a girl and that makes NO sense to me.
If a guy said that to me I'd just be like `kthanxbyethen`.
OT: I've only had sex in a relationship, but I dont look down on people who do it openly/casually/weirdly/not at all. It is what you decide it is.
OK, have you ever been with a guy that you liked and cared for so much that you are whiling to do anything for them? So you try to have sex with him because you care so dearly for him; then you try to seduce him but in the end he just say's no to you because your not good enough?
I don't know about you but if that happened to me i would heart broken.
But that would suck if that happened. That's kind of a dick move.
This poll has too much information. The explanations to "yes:" or "no:" make each answer so extreme and polarizing that I think most of us are going to find ourselves in some middle ground. It should have just been "yes." or "no." period, where the yes and no answers extend to the median.
i guess your one of those lucky women you think with their head and not with their hearts.Phasmal said:...Nope. I have enough self respect to know if a guy needs that much convincing, he's not into you enough and thus not worth it.Bran1470 said:I'm sorry i should of explained that allow me to rephrase myself...Phasmal said:...Seriously?Bran1470 said:Also it drives girls crazy when i tell them i dont want to have sex with them because they aren't special enough
I'm a girl and that makes NO sense to me.
If a guy said that to me I'd just be like `kthanxbyethen`.
OT: I've only had sex in a relationship, but I dont look down on people who do it openly/casually/weirdly/not at all. It is what you decide it is.
OK, have you ever been with a guy that you liked and cared for so much that you are whiling to do anything for them? So you try to have sex with him because you care so dearly for him; then you try to seduce him but in the end he just say's no to you because your not good enough?
I don't know about you but if that happened to me i would heart broken.
But that would suck if that happened. That's kind of a dick move.
I do also agree with you on it being a dick move. But if the guy hasn't made a move and even showed the slightest interest in wanting to sleep with you why would you be surprised with him not wanting to?
It depends on the person. I can say I've had several meaningless encounters, some which I'd rather forget, and some which I just truly regret.
But there has been a few that I really added a sentimental value to. So yes, sex is sacred to me to a degree.
But there has been a few that I really added a sentimental value to. So yes, sex is sacred to me to a degree.
You don't consider eating sacred? Or getting drunk? Dionysus would be displeased.Chefodeath said:
OT: Yes, I do. I'm a worshiper of (among other gods/goddesses) Aphrodite, Isis, and Brigid.
That doesn't mean I don't enjoy casual sex - I do, very much - but that casual sex is just as sacred to Aphrodite and Brigid. Pleasure for pleasure's sake is sort of Aphrodite's thing. ^^
Whenever I encounter someone who says that sex is completely meaningless to them, and that it is just meat slapping against meat and therefore nothing to get worked up about, I like to present them with the following scenario:
Let's say that you have a girl/boyfriend who you have been with for a long time and have strong feelings for. Now let's say that your girl/boyfriend has sex with an entire football/cheerleading team. Assuming that they all used protection, would you feel the same way about your lover? Once you put it in that setting, it ceases to become a physical process and something that has to be shared between you two.
I think that people place far too much importance to it, and it is far from sacred, but in a relationship I think that it should remain between the two people (assuming that at least one partner feels the same way).
Let's say that you have a girl/boyfriend who you have been with for a long time and have strong feelings for. Now let's say that your girl/boyfriend has sex with an entire football/cheerleading team. Assuming that they all used protection, would you feel the same way about your lover? Once you put it in that setting, it ceases to become a physical process and something that has to be shared between you two.
I think that people place far too much importance to it, and it is far from sacred, but in a relationship I think that it should remain between the two people (assuming that at least one partner feels the same way).
*is 23 and male*
I don't consider it "sacred", although I do consider it special.
I view it as sharing yourself with someone in the most primal way possible. It's something I feel should be saved for someone you truly feel a deep and long lasting love for. No, I won't wait until marriage. Just until I'm sure the relationship is truly long term and important. Because getting intimately closer to the other person is more what I care about. If I'm just looking for an orgasm, I can do that without involving anyone.
*is a total virgin, but in a stable 9-month long relationship with a really nice girl. I don't think we're quite there yet*
Also, please note that I am not ragging on casual sex and the people who do it. If that's your thing, have fun. I'm not gonna tell you otherwise.
EDIT: Does laughing my ass off at the word "preistitute" make me a terrible person? Because I laughed. A lot. XD
I don't consider it "sacred", although I do consider it special.
I view it as sharing yourself with someone in the most primal way possible. It's something I feel should be saved for someone you truly feel a deep and long lasting love for. No, I won't wait until marriage. Just until I'm sure the relationship is truly long term and important. Because getting intimately closer to the other person is more what I care about. If I'm just looking for an orgasm, I can do that without involving anyone.
*is a total virgin, but in a stable 9-month long relationship with a really nice girl. I don't think we're quite there yet*
Also, please note that I am not ragging on casual sex and the people who do it. If that's your thing, have fun. I'm not gonna tell you otherwise.
EDIT: Does laughing my ass off at the word "preistitute" make me a terrible person? Because I laughed. A lot. XD
It's a shame really seems like sex is the only thing men seem to care about these days.Phasmal said:Bran1470 said:
Because they are a guy, I guess.
I'm only half-joking, there. Girls are told all the time that all men want sex all the time.
So its surprising when some men dont.
Love is like a foreign language to most people now a days.
I think it depends on what you specifically mean by sex. I hold three categories for it. Love making, Sex, and Fucking.
Love making is something sacred I believe, as it's (like the name implies) people making love to each other, their feelings put into it.
Sex is disingenuous, as it can just be two strangers having a simple one night stand, lovers enjoying each other intimately but a bit more primal, etc. So it's somewhat sacred, somewhat fun.
Fucking is definitely not something sacred in the literal use of the term. It's practically people going at it like beasts, no love, no passion, just straight pure adrenaline and lust.
Love making is something sacred I believe, as it's (like the name implies) people making love to each other, their feelings put into it.
Sex is disingenuous, as it can just be two strangers having a simple one night stand, lovers enjoying each other intimately but a bit more primal, etc. So it's somewhat sacred, somewhat fun.
Fucking is definitely not something sacred in the literal use of the term. It's practically people going at it like beasts, no love, no passion, just straight pure adrenaline and lust.
My stance on sex is pretty simple.
For actual sex I want emotion and caring to be involved.
Without that it just seems like mutual masturbation. And if I want to masturbate I'd rather do it on my own, much less awkwardness and stress involved.
Don't take that as me judging others though. If you want to enjoy some mutual masturbation then you should really do so. It's just not something I'm personally interested in.
But then again, I'm still pretty young. Who knows what changes the future will bring.
For actual sex I want emotion and caring to be involved.
Without that it just seems like mutual masturbation. And if I want to masturbate I'd rather do it on my own, much less awkwardness and stress involved.
Don't take that as me judging others though. If you want to enjoy some mutual masturbation then you should really do so. It's just not something I'm personally interested in.
But then again, I'm still pretty young. Who knows what changes the future will bring.
Before the likes of Freud came along, ancient psychological thought recognized that there are different kinds of people who want and value very different things in life. Modern psychology would have us believe that every single person, 7 billion of us, are fundamentally programmed with the same desires and responses. We're now, however, recovering the lost knowledge that different people function on different "operating systems" so to speak.
SJs: These types of people value history, security, structure, and traditions. As such, they'll typically take the conservative view on sexuality in that it's a "socially limited" activity and should be engaged in a responsible manner.
SPs: These types value the "here and now" and primarily seek self-gratification. They're more likely to be very free sexually, not necessarily limiting themselves to a single partner and don't typically get too rooted in a single relationship.
NTs: These types are analytic and value logic and reason above all else. They view sexuality in a very pragmatic scope. Having a single dedicated partner would be preferable and efficient but the core purpose is reproduction. I'm an NT so I speak from personal experience on this one.
NFs: These types are emotionally connected and prefer to think towards the future. They're the most subject to romantic aspects of sexuality and view it not purely as a biological function or a social obligation but as a means to emotionally connect with another person. My wife is an NF so I also speak from indirect personal experience on this one.
For more information on Temperament and MBTI, check www.mypersonality.info and you can see my personal profile at midknight129.mypersonality.info
SJs: These types of people value history, security, structure, and traditions. As such, they'll typically take the conservative view on sexuality in that it's a "socially limited" activity and should be engaged in a responsible manner.
SPs: These types value the "here and now" and primarily seek self-gratification. They're more likely to be very free sexually, not necessarily limiting themselves to a single partner and don't typically get too rooted in a single relationship.
NTs: These types are analytic and value logic and reason above all else. They view sexuality in a very pragmatic scope. Having a single dedicated partner would be preferable and efficient but the core purpose is reproduction. I'm an NT so I speak from personal experience on this one.
NFs: These types are emotionally connected and prefer to think towards the future. They're the most subject to romantic aspects of sexuality and view it not purely as a biological function or a social obligation but as a means to emotionally connect with another person. My wife is an NF so I also speak from indirect personal experience on this one.
For more information on Temperament and MBTI, check www.mypersonality.info and you can see my personal profile at midknight129.mypersonality.info
I view sex as an act of love, so I'm willing to wait. Due to physical limitations, it kinda scares me due to the whole pressure to do well, and I don't exactly want to leave my partner unsatisfied. I also have to be close to them to be willing to do it anyways, sooo...Demisexual I guess.
im also of the feeling that it shouldnt be saved for marriage but for someone special definately... those extra romantic feelings in the end i feel add to the end product which makes it better!