Poll: Is sex sacred to you?

[conflictofinterests]

Depends on the context, as with almost every goddamn thing ever. I don't think I'd be opposed to a one night stand with the right person, and depending on the mood, sex with my partner is either scratching an itch or very emotionally meaningful. So yeah.

 

[conflictofinterests]

Evolutionarily speaking, its the entire point of our existence.

Omfg, no. Evolution has nothing to say about the point of our existence. It describes a phenomena, there is nothing prescriptive about it. I am tired of people trying to use evolution to sound more educated or something, but instead saying nonsense.

I think they were trying to hit on the fact that the concept of "survival of the fittest" depends on a generation producing fertile offspring, and that production necessitates sex in all but the asexual species. It's one of the things we have in common with most of the living creatures we're familiar with.

 

[Flunk]

No, because religion is nothing but a scam. I do believe that sex is special because it can give you level of intimacy that you can't get any other way, but no. Sacred is another word for "unquestionable for no reason" so nothing is sacred.

 

[Hiroshi Mishima]

I don't really know where the religious connotations came from, but sex is something that I would consider special in that it's the physical bonding of two people who care deeply for one another. That, as has been said, is making love.

Then you have plain old sex where you and someone who are both physically attracted think hey I've got a great idea, but it's just for fun and there's nothing deeper involved. That's simply sex, and it is driven by lust.

As someone once said, love and lust are not the same thing, but if you simply love someone and don't want to be with them physically, that's not the same either.

If I were to have sex with my significant other(s), I would want us to truly enjoy it and make the most out of it. Why bother doing it if you aren't going to put your all into it? Regardless of the circumstances, you shouldn't go into sex half-cocked, no pun intended.

Would I be willing to have sex with a girl who I didn't know all that well? Sure, if it was important enough for her to ask me. It wouldn't be the same (see lust again), but I'd certainly try to enjoy it and make sure she did in return.


So yeah.. is sex something "sacred"? I dunno what you mean by that, but is it something that should be respected? Damn straight.

 

[zelda2fanboy]

I put an insane amount of importance on sex, mostly because I'm a 24 year old male and never had any. Sure would like to. With every fiber of my being. I'd go so far as to say my recent failures where I almost had sex and didn't get any hurt even worse than the many many years during which I thought it was completely unobtainable. I don't know if I see it as "sacred" or not. I want to have some and would probably have it with almost any female at this point. Whether they would see it as a quick and pointless fling or a union of body and mind wouldn't matter to me because no matter what, I would see it as the most amazing thing to ever happen to me. Living without it makes every day painful. It's my achilles heel. My secret shame. And I've seen no evidence that I'll be having sex any time soon. Now if you'll excuse me, I'm gonna go cry about it some more.

 

[conflictofinterests]

Evolutionarily speaking, its the entire point of our existence.

Omfg, no. Evolution has nothing to say about the point of our existence. It describes a phenomena, there is nothing prescriptive about it. I am tired of people trying to use evolution to sound more educated or something, but instead saying nonsense.

I think they were trying to hit on the fact that the concept of "survival of the fittest" depends on a generation producing fertile offspring, and that production necessitates sex in all but the asexual species. It's one of the things we have in common with most of the living creatures we're familiar with.

Yes, that doesn't make it the point of our existence according to evolution. That just makes it necessary for our survival, which is not the same as the point of our existence.

In creatures other than humans, the point of surviving is to live long enough to create and ensure the survival of a few fertile offspring. In humans and a few other animals, I forget what they were, there is a stage of life past female fertility during which they provide an evolutionary advantage by caring for and teaching the younger generations. Yeah sex isn't the point of life for humans, but speaking solely about survival, it's sex and care for the younger generations. Of course, not only have most of us moved past worrying about simple survival, we have developed complex cognitive capabilities that leave such simple meanings of life in the dust, necessitating the creation of our own, more fulfilling meanings. Still, were we to completely abandon that meaning, we would, as a species, die out.

Basically what I'm saying is that neither of you are right. The "purpose of life" is a wrongheaded phrase.

 

[Satosuke]

If you mean sacred as in impossible to get, then yeah, that does quite apply. At least for me.

 

[Mikeyfell]

Sex feels good, that's the point.

If it wasn't the point condoms wouldn't exist.

Don't get me wrong it feels better with a good friend or lover who gets off on getting you off.

And further more sex is not a bargaining chip! I don't want to guilt you into having sex by doing bullshit romantic stuff! If you want to have sex just woman up and say it!
I'm sorry I don't know where that came from....

Hehehe.... I'm going to wank

 

[Xanadu84]

Sex has a lot in common with the sacred. Both are very distant and so very rarely directly experienced that you have to question if it is a myth or not.

 

[mireko]

Yes and no. I figure it's generally more fun if shared with someone you actually like, but I've never had sex outside a relationship (not religious in the slightest, just catastrophically awkward) so I don't have any observations that prove this. Maybe the next time I'm single I'll test out this hypothesis. Because that will definitely happen. I definitely won't just sit in the dark and stare deeply into a bottle. Or mutter incomprehensibly to someone at a party. That won't happen. Nope.

On the other hand, it is probably a good idea to lose your virginity to someone you trust. At least if you're like me and randomly remember embarrassing things you did five years ago, causing you to grimace in public.

I can't quite envision what it would have been like if I had slept with that weird Danish girl all those years ago, but if I could I would probably look like I'd smelled something foul right now.

I'm 17 and still a virgin not because I'm ugly (I'm fairly good looking)and not because i cant get girls. I have also been laying in bed naked with a girl about to do the dead but i feel like i should save it so i can experience my first time with someone i really care for and means something to me. Also it drives girls crazy when i tell them i dont want to have sex with them because they aren't special enough

You may have diabetes.

So my question is what is your personal philosophy regarding sex? Is it a sacrosanct, perhaps even divine thing, or is it just a form of release as mundane as eating or sleeping?

You don't consider eating sacred? Or getting drunk? Dionysus would be displeased.

OT: Yes, I do. I'm a worshiper of (among other gods/goddesses) Aphrodite, Isis, and Brigid.

That doesn't mean I don't enjoy casual sex - I do, very much - but that casual sex is just as sacred to Aphrodite and Brigid. Pleasure for pleasure's sake is sort of Aphrodite's thing. ^^

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