Poll: Is skinniness attractive?

[Burningsok]

It's personal taste. I'm male, and I'm semi-skinny. I've got a little bit of a gut and some fat here and there on my legs.

I think it's looks that jump start attraction, but if you can't back it up with a good personality then you have little to no chance being in a lasting relationship.

Really I don't know how much looks means to a women compared to how much looks mean to a man.

 

[geldonyetich]

Can't answer "yes" or "no" on this poll because it's honestly not that simple.

Ladies aren't after skinniness, they're after security, and this generally means earning potential. This is because, if their relationship ultimately sees them pregnant, they're going to need someone to see them through that. It makes a whole lot of sense that this would be an instinctively ingrained thing, because ladies who go out and get themselves knocked up by people who leave them to fend for themselves are likely to be an evolutionary dead end.

If you're flabby, the popular prejudice in that regard is that you're lazy. If you're lazy, you're not a very good provider. Thus, the ladies will tend to spurn you in that regard. Cave girl sees flabby layabout, she's not going to be all that interested in him.

However, lets say you're flabby but are in possession of significant earning potential? For example, you're a prominent politician, a rock star, a Nobel prize winner, or are simply raking in the dough somehow? Ladies will beat a path to your door, no lie. Cave girl sees village chieftain - yeah, that's an extremely lucrative platform for evolution, lets horn in on that action.

On the other hand, lets say you don't have significant earning potential, but you're not too flabby, not too emaciated, just have a reasonably capable looking body, and a good positive attitude to go with it? That works, because you've got good earning potential by virtue of having the physical and mental means to bring it about. Cave girl sees capable worker - that'll do.

Having big muscles can be repulsive if you don't seem to do anything particularly useful with them. Many bodybuilders can't move furniture, or so I hear, because they way they built their muscles is mostly for show. It doesn't speak "earning potential" if you spend most of your time pumping up when there's bills to pay. Cave girl sees as much a lout in muscle freak as she does chubby layabout.

Skinniness emerges as a moot point in the larger picture. I'm no lady, but I think I got it figured out well enough.

Now, as to why the Twiggy look caught on in women, that's a trickier question [http://correct-weight-loss.net/2009/07/27/women-starting-to-realize-that-skinny-bodies-are-not-attractive-shapely-bodies-are-beautiful/].

 

[Nehari]

well comming from a girl who's sat and listened to all of her girlfriends and many other girls who are not my friends droll on about what thier dream guy is like, I can tell you that being skinny isn't really an attractive quality only because it makes you look weak. really what girls wanna see in a guy is they wanna see some muscle, some bulk on him. but also, understand that everything needs to come in moderation. a guy who goes to the gym 14 hours every day and could crush a kitten with his pinky finger and has a tan that ensures he'll have skin cancer by the age of 30 is not attractive. but a guy who has arms resemblent a skeleton and skin so white he can get a sunburn from a reflection, isn't attractive. they're looking for a midrange, someone who's buff but not too much, and has a bit of color to his skin. but the truth of the matter is, looks only get you so far. my friend rose met a guy, who's kinda skinny, a little pale, but the sweetest guy she ever met, one moment she'd be angry at him for something, then he'd turn around appologise, say two or three words and she was in tears. she's had the guys who are hunkey and hot, but none of them stuck around like this one, and that's what matters. so take my advice guys, sensitivity and passion are the keys to a girl's heart.

 

[Slaanax]

Not looking good for us skinny guys, and probably a good portion of the yes votes are skinny dudes hoping!

 

[Victoriaa]

It seems like things have turned quite a bit ( or maybe it was always like this? ). Being skinny is almost worse than being fat nowadays, maybe cause there are more chubby/fat/whatever people now than before.

Imo, a natural body is the thing. If you get that skinny from a eating disorder.. yeah, no.
A few pounds too much/little is fine. Shouldn't really matter, you can look good either way. =p

 

[Billion Backs]

. One of my friends is actually only into large, hairy men (a.k.a, bears. To each their own).
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really? whats her name

I don't give out my friend's names over the internet, nor am I a personals site... I think this post was seriously uncalled for.

Not to mention that "bears" are generally a gay culture. So it probably wouldn't be a "she".

Seriously, I've been around and have never heard of straight "bears". Sure, some people are just hairy but they never make a big deal out of it.

 

[geldonyetich]

Not looking good for us skinny guys, and probably a good portion of the yes votes are skinny dudes hoping!

Betcha a lot of it is guys who didn't bother to read the message and are voting for how they prefer their ladies, opting for the stereotypical social norm fashion.

 

[cheese_wizington]

I'd much rather have a thinner guy.

 

[Andalusa]

On guys? I don't really know. Being skinny suits some guys, a bit* of muscle suits others and some guys suit a more filled out body. Besides, I'm one for a nice face rather than a nice body. Some one with a nice small, nice eyes and good hair is key. Doesn't matter if he's big or small.

Same with girls, although I find girls with a bit more to them than skin and bone more attractive than ones that look like stick insects.

*[sub]A bit not a lot, huge muscles are ick [sub]although, Taylor Launter is nice to looks at /drool[/sub][/sub]

 

[AugustFall]

No, healthiness is attractive. Everyone has a healthy body weight that is neither malnourished nor overweight, if they stick to that then they are in their most attractive state.

 

[RandomWords]

...I'm straight so...I guess I'd rather see skinny people walking the street other than fat ones.

 

[dex-dex]

i prefer guys who are either really skinny or really chubby.
nothing in the middle.
chubby guys have such cute faces and skinny guys usually have butts that fit into my hand.

 

[silasbufu]

Well skinny is better than fat.
My opinion.

 

[crouchingtigress01]

I wish their was a middle ground because I don't mind if my guy has a small gut but if they they look like their 9 months along and their chest is bigger then my own then (b cup) that seems a little weird. As long as you are at a healthy weight and BMI for your body type, thats all that should matter in the end

 

[amucha98]

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[FailingwithStyle]

I prefer skinny over heavyset guys (that includes "ripped" guys). In the end though, as long as you take care of yourself (and not be a douchebag while you're doing it), nothing is more attractive.

 

[ThePurpleStuff]

I don't look at a guy or friends for their appearance, I look for the personality type. If you have a great personality, enjoy some of the things I do and introduce me to new things to like, also like yourself just for yourself and not your appearance, then yes, you and I will get along great. Also, if you're a gamer type as well, that adds 10 more bonus points. But, to truly be honest, I don't have a type, as long as you're not a complete jerk, you're alright in my book.

 

[Kanlic]

First of all, I'd like to clarify that I'm completely happy with my appearance and wouldn't have it any other way. In fact, I consider myself lucky being really thin. I plan to never take up drinking, partly so I don't get a beer gut like many of my relatives. However, I've never really had "game" as they call it and never had any success with "the ladies" so to speak. Again, don't really care and I don't judge myself on those terms (anymore). I mean I know the look of being checked out and I've seen it a few times, but not really often.

So here's my main question. Do women think skinny guys are good looking? Would they rather have a fat, or somewhat chunky guy? Someone with "meat on his bones" so to speak. I swear I get way more (direct) shit from people about being thin than anyone ever gets for being fat. Strangers seem to think I'm 14 when I'm actually 23. Whenever a benchmark is needed to discuss how a person looks, it's always, "they're skinnier than (insert my name here)." When I was in school, I would get picked on by fat guys, whereas most fat guys wouldn't be bothered because of their weight. Really confuses me, considering how much importance society attaches to weight and weight loss.

It's all about presence. I know plenty of skinny guys, usually a skateboarder or some kind of douchebag, who get massive amounts of pussy. I also have plenty of rather big friends who get women by the truckload, but they are actually big meat heads who probably crave fighting more than fucking. So what I am trying to say is that if you want to go on a John Mayer Fuck-a-Thon, be a massive douchebag, pick up the guitar and buy some condoms.

In all seriousness though, you are 23, and you are around the age when people grow out of a pure shallow mindset and start thinking about other factors. If you are (or were) a college student and are looking for a rather decent job, that's attractive. If you don't spend your day whining and complaining, that's attractive. If you are reasonable on most aspects in life i.e. not making mountains out of molehills while still not letting people push you around, that is attractive.

Although there is something to be said about being too skinny. If someone is so skinny that they are constantly being compared to a boy just hitting puberty, well then you might have a problem. Check your BMI (Body Mass Index) see if you are at a healthy level (between 18 and 25) and figure it out from there. Or you could just start dating 14 year old girls and have a leg up because you drive, and if they are like the 14 year old girls I know, you won't have trouble getting laid