Poll: Living with your parents

[War Penguin]

I just turned 20, but I still live with my mom. I do want to move out someday, but I still kind of like living here. I lived in this apartment for 17 years of my life. Holds a lot of sentimental value. Still want to move out eventually.

Don't think my mom minds. Hell, I think she likes it. Not sure, though, which means I might be wrong. <_<

 

[lumenadducere]

From my experience living at home and commuting to college/university instead of living near campus really takes a way a lot of the joys and experience. It becomes much harder to do all the random, impromptu things with friends like grabbing dinner or having friends over for a few beers and a movie. Or potluck dinner nights. Or any of the other social and fun things. It's a lot harder to invite friends an hour and a half away to your parents' house for dinner and hanging out than it is to invite them to your apartment that's 15 minutes away from campus.

I certainly understand why people do it - saves money, it's nice to spend time with your parents (if you have a good relationship with them), and it's certainly easier to not have to take care of so much on your own. But IMO it's good to be on your own and be more self-sufficient as soon as you can. And like I said, it's much more fun and enjoyable if you have good friends.

 

[TeletubbiesGolfGun]

I'm here until I'm done technical school. My parents are happy with it, as am I.

However, once I graduate and get a job, they warn me that they'll start charging me $2000 monthly rent, so I imagine we'll both want me out of there at that point.

2000 a month? sweet jesus, i'm not sure what the conversion rate is between US and canada, but there is no way in hell it's that bad, where the fuck do you live, a mansion?

Conversion rate is about flat, right now.

And it's a medium-high rate in Edmonton right about now. We have a pretty nice house that we got RIGHT before the ridiculous housing boom.

Now, if you want to live without roommates, you'll be hard pressed to find anything for less than $1000 a month that isn't "problem housing".

I'm 98% sure the point of $2000 rent is to get me the hell out of their home.

oh okay, and by 1000 a month do you mean 1000 per person or 1000 for the whole?

if so, then yes, i agree 2000 is to get you out of the house, because 2000 covers most medium(some large) sized homes in our area, and no one i know in college pays even half that by themselves.

$1000 for the apartment itself, regardless of who's in it. I'm not really a roommates person, so I'd like to get my own flat. It'll be hard to find something reasonable, though.

Now, when I want to get a mortgage, a ten-year mortgage will cost me at least $4000 a month for anything good. Edmonton's not the best place to buy homes at the moment.

jeez stubborn fellow you are, when i do move out i already have a few roomies picked out, will be payin 200-300 a month for the first year or so, until i move out again, gonna be saving up like a packrat and living in a cheap mancave for 12 months will really put a dent in my debt.

 

[Screamarie]

I currently live at home as kind of my step father's nurse and maid. Last year I graduated college in May and I was trying to find a job, but then October rolled around and my mother got a call from my grandmother who lives in a town an hour away.

My grandmother was ill so my mother went to stay with her for awhile to help her get better...that was a year ago. My grandmother is elderly and needs help so my mother has just moved in to take care of her.

Then my stepfather became ill, he's elderly (70 in Dec.) and has COPD, and I think it would be accurate to say he has a foot in the grave. So I'm taking care of him, cleaning, cooking, and taking him to Dr. appts.

So yeah, I live at home and they want me here.

Also OP, I did the same thing, except it was a 2 hour drive. People always said the same thing "You know you can get a dorm on campus for the same amount your paying to drive right?" No shit sherlock, I know, but maybe I have reasons why I don't.

 

[CpT_x_Killsteal]

I just saw "My parents are bad and they should feel bad" and just cracked up laughing.

OT:
I'm 17 so I still live at home.

 

[HellsingerAngel]

I still live with my folks, though not by choice. I can't financially afford to live by myself due to medical bills so until I find a room mate, I'm stuck. Not that it's a majorly bad thing - my parents are really good people - but I would like some space after 24 years of living with them. I still pay rent, buy my own food and keep my living space clean, as well as help with chores outside, so I'm not leeching off them, which is as acceptable as it'll probably get.

 

[Satocreed]

At 22, I still live with my parents. At least till I finish my degree in early 2014. Sometimes I wish I wasn't paying out of pocket for school and could move out, but then I remember how much that would cost me in the long run. That and I start to get very depressed if I don't have at least 3 people in the house.

 

[TWEWYFan]

I commute from home to my university, and it's about as long as yours. For me it helped ease the transition to college being able sleep in my own bed at night and since then it's been nice to focus on my studies without worrying about room and board.

 

[Quiet Stranger]

I am 22 and taking Child and Youth Care at a college very close to my house so I live with my mom (parents divorced)

 

[King of Wei]

21 and I still live with my father. I can't drive to college so it's nice having a ride. It sucks having to wake up at 4:30 in the damn morning and getting home at 7-8pm but it's still nice having a ride. I like living there since I'm still taken care of in terms of food and such but am looking forward to when I get my degree and move out.

 

[Fortunefaded]

I've got my own Flat, mortgage and all but my folks have encouraged me to move in with them again to assist me in my career change.

The reason being is I need to do a lot of volunteering/work placements to gain some credible experience and currently can't afford that with a mortgage to pay. Therefore, live with folks, rent my flat and get free food whilst I work for free.

Result.

I've been moved out for 5 years and love spending time at my folks place!

 

[AnarchistFish]

In a year's time I'll be leaving for university and will move out, and to be honest I think both sides will be happy with that. My father and I don't get on and things get pretty tense and heated sometimes

 

[Fappy]

I'm 23 and living with my parents. I could move out if I wanted to, but my parents don't mind having me around to mooch off the free rent. It doesn't bother me really. Most of my friends are close by as is my job and I get to save money up for when I do move out. When I do really depends on what ends up happening with my girlfriend. She's at the tail-end of her premed degree and isn't sure exactly what school she's going to afterwards yet.

 

[Yopaz]

21 I moved out when I was 15 and I have been on my own since then with the exception of one year where I didn't get into school and couldn't get a job.

I live away from home and I like it that way and I think my parents like it that way too. Not that they don't like having me around, it's more food expenses and that it's good to see that their kids are making it on their own.

 

[MetalMagpie]

I'm 24 and live with my boyfriend. My mother is perfectly happy with this situation... as long as I don't move too far away. (I currently live about 30 minutes drive away, and see her for at least a couple of hours every other week.)

 

[Flamezdudes]

I'm 17 nearing 18 and still living with both my parents and one of my sisters, my other two siblings have moved out at this point. I'm fine still staying here at the moment as i'm studying and trying to get a part time job but eventually of course I want to move out and perhaps even live with my best friend as we've considered.

 

[ungothicdove]

There's definitely benefits to both. Living at home saves money and keeps things more familiar, so if you have a hard time with change or really are connected with your parents it makes sense. But living on campus or in a apartment during school also gives you experiences you can't get at home. Learning to live on your own is important, but the danger is not being able to handle it yet and ending up making some pretty bad decisions that could hurt far into the future.

For me, I knew that I wanted to be out of the house as soon as it was time for higher education. No community college or going to a school close by. I went five hours away and loved every minute of it. I made a lot friends, worked a couple jobs to make rent plus have a little extra for fun, and heck, I even did some homework now and again. It was more expensive but the experiences and people I met have made it well worth it to me.

 

[Flames66]

I am currently living with my mother and grandmother and I am mostly neutral about it, but I much prefer it to not having anywhere. It can get grating having to deal with my relatives, but we have always worked through our differences.

 

[EscapeGoat_v1legacy]

I'm 19, and moved out last year when I went to university. Going home and living with my parents for three months while I waited for the lease on my house to start were probably some of the hardest months of my life. I'd just got so used to enjoying my own freedoms and having my own responsibilities, which was especially hard since my parents (quite naturally, I guess) just fell back into the routine of treating me like a child. By the end of it, while they were miserable about letting me go off again, we were all happy that I was moving out again. I got my independence back and they got their house back, I guess.

So yeah, I think sticking to visits is how it'll be now, and we're all fine with that.

 

[Chemical Alia]

I lived with my parents when I came back from the army and until I finished undergrad. Now I have my own place, but I also live in Texas, while they're in Pennsylvania. I have a really close relationship with my parents, so it's tough for me not to be able to visit more than a few times a year, so I definitely hate that about having to live down here.