Poll: Losing your virginity - Overhyped?
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I can't regret what I don't remember. It really was that unremarkable (and I really was that drunk). And I'm pretty sure I only did so because "everyone else was". If I had my time over, I'd probably choose differently, but as is, have just read a book called "What French Women Know" by Debra Ollivier. It makes a case for neither sensationalising sex nor giving it overly puritan meanings, but rather enjoying the moment. Gonna try focusing on that in future, and to hell with whatever happened before...
Still a virgin myself. I'm waiting for the right person.
And the answer is "yes" to both questions.
And the answer is "yes" to both questions.
Everyone has a different experience, but generally speaking your first time isn't going to be your best time. Like riding a bike, playing a guitar or rowing a boat, sex is something that you get better at with experience. I was glad when I lost mine, mainly from a "getting it out of the way" perspective.
I was only 15 when I lost it I'm 18 now and still with my girlfriend i had lost it to, I had been going out with her for a year and a half before it happened. It was a spontaneous thing and wasn''t anything like i expected it to be I admit i was shit then, but now i know what I'm doing lol.
Hello everyone, fellow Virgin here, heard about this sex thing and I agree that the hype for this sucks balls. Ooo, tasty....Sorry..............But, in all seriousness, I'll wait until I'm damn good and ready. Someone once told me, "All good things come to those who wait". But, I'm not gonna wait around for someone to whisk me away. I still have my hands and fingers to keep me occupied. Some call me lonely, I say self discovery is key to some good luvin'.
I don't know... I waited until 19 for it. I was at first waiting for the right girl, but I was hanging out with a girl I was interested in and one thing led to another. I don't regret a single thing that happened, and I don't regret not giving it to "The love of my life", though considering we're both really close and we've been there for one another so long, I'm starting to think there may be more to her than friendship.
I don't think I was under any peer pressure, I think people pressure themselves more than others do, they simply perceive it as their friends. Their friends lose thier virginity and speak about it, and you compel yourself to lose it sooner. Your friend isn't poking you in the side and shouting "LOSE IT GOD DAMNIT!" but you still feel compelled to do so.
There was nothing special at the end. I felt incredibly close to her in a way I couldmn't describe, but I wasn't different in any way. I was still regular old me, and I think that's an important part of it all. Having that pleasurable moment without letting it change you.
I don't think I was under any peer pressure, I think people pressure themselves more than others do, they simply perceive it as their friends. Their friends lose thier virginity and speak about it, and you compel yourself to lose it sooner. Your friend isn't poking you in the side and shouting "LOSE IT GOD DAMNIT!" but you still feel compelled to do so.
There was nothing special at the end. I felt incredibly close to her in a way I couldmn't describe, but I wasn't different in any way. I was still regular old me, and I think that's an important part of it all. Having that pleasurable moment without letting it change you.
I wonder how many virgins answered "Yes" to this one. ;-)
The First Time, like any first time, is an occasion of discovery and exploration. That inherently makes it special. The second time (which hopefully comes a minute or so later) is when you can figure out what you're really doing. And it only gets better from there, as you practice.
The First Time, like any first time, is an occasion of discovery and exploration. That inherently makes it special. The second time (which hopefully comes a minute or so later) is when you can figure out what you're really doing. And it only gets better from there, as you practice.
Seeing as to how I'm 15, I give the Escapist: My dad's opinion! (In his words.)
Sex? Yeah, I remember that. The first time was terrible - I was scared, so she did everything. Not my manliest moment. After a few more times, I got better; and that's when sex was good. But yeah, first time is always crap. /dad
Sex? Yeah, I remember that. The first time was terrible - I was scared, so she did everything. Not my manliest moment. After a few more times, I got better; and that's when sex was good. But yeah, first time is always crap. /dad
Never had sex, but I can say that, yes, it is overhyped. Unless loss of virginity triggers something, some mental change within a person, a fleeting moment of ecstasy is just that. Besides, physically there is no difference between masturbation and real sex, just less risk.
On it! *grabs knife*tellmeimaninja said:
Yeah. I was pressured heavily by a few of my friends. They basically locked me in a room with a girl and a condom and told me they would only let me out until they I showed them the condom used. That was a really weird not.
Well, I lost it to a woman who I thought took the relationship seriously. It turns out that she just saw me as a toy. Then she strung me along like a puppet so she could keep her toy. That kinda made it bite for me. It's fun, don't get me wrong, but not the mind-blowing experience that it's made out to be.
On that note, 3-ways aren't all that awesome either. Yes, you get to be with 2 women at the same time but that requires a lot of effort. You focus on taking care of them both (which I accomplished, thank you very much) and don't really get to relax and enjoy it. I've talked with other guys who've done it and they've also said the same thing.
On that note, 3-ways aren't all that awesome either. Yes, you get to be with 2 women at the same time but that requires a lot of effort. You focus on taking care of them both (which I accomplished, thank you very much) and don't really get to relax and enjoy it. I've talked with other guys who've done it and they've also said the same thing.
That first paragraph sums up the difference between having sex and making love in my opinion. The people out there who don't know the difference have never made love. My first time was tainted by an exploitative woman and was too rushed in the first place to really be enjoyable.AngloDoom said:
For some reason, some people don't count a girl sleeping with a girl as actual sex D= I do but I've had people be like IT DOESN'T COUNT so I just let other people decide. I count it as my first time though hahaFolio said:
Before it actually happened it was this big imposing thing which only made me all the more nervous. But once I was through "the first time", all I was left with was the question That's it? ringing through my head. The sex got better with time and experience, but I still find myself wondering what all the hype around sex is all about.
The actual act of losing it was OK. Pretty awkward. It's when you start learning what you're doing, that's when it becomes awesome.
Also;
Sex without is just a warm, wet wank.
Also;
Now for me, there's two kinds of sex. Sex with feelings, and sex without. Sex with feelings is the most beautiful thing there is. Sleeping with someone you love is a fantastic melding of intimacy and passion.joshuaayt said:
Sex without is just a warm, wet wank.
I'd agree, but then I've only ever had sex with love and feelings, and I reckon I'd just be disappointed with the latter kind.Lebynthos said: