Poll: Losing your virginity - Overhyped?

[khaimera]

I don't think its overhyped. It was better than I ever imagined.

Oh wait, I already commented in this thread. I think I just like to talk about sex.

 

[JordanMillward_1]

Delayed ejaculation

Is the inability to ejaculate or persistent difficulty in achieving orgasm despite the presence of normal sexual desire and sexual stimulation. Normally a man can achieve orgasm within 2?4 minutes of active thrusting during sexual intercourse,[1] whereas a man with delayed ejaculation either does not have orgasms at all or can't have an orgasm until after prolonged intercourse which might last for 30?45 minutes or more. In most cases delayed ejaculation presents the condition in which the man can climax and ejaculate only during masturbation, but not during sexual intercourse

Also common during the first time as it is attributed to nerves

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/article525179.ece

Actually, the average length of time from penetration to ejaculation in the UK is around 7 minutes 40 seconds, so being under that, in the UK, is generally low.

Not that I'm complaining, I enjoyed the hell out of it, and she did too (which she was surprised about), so if having something wrong with me meant my partner also enjoyed my first time, I'd prefer having something wrong with me compared to being "normal".

 

[tassyk]

For me, Sex > Video Games, just video games tend to last longer... and can be done in front of your mother...

My first time was... decent. I had waited till I finished high school, so I wasn't under pressure to lose my virginity or anything. I just decided the guy I was with was awesome and attractive and I really wanted to do it, so I did. I was expecting pain and blood and everything but I didn't get any of that, it was just a bit uncomfortable. So I guess in a way it was better than I expected. Although my mum wouldn't talk to me for two weeks after she found out (I was 18 and everything...)

Now though, three years later (same guy too, and he's still awesome and attractive) sex is AWESOME. Especially on lazy sundays where you don't feel like getting out of bed, so you have sex and then watch TV together until you're both horny enough to go again. Then sex is great.

 

[Boba Frag]

Edit: Oops. I don't know how to embed videos.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y4kwk5jV2nU

A very funny video about how sex is not enjoyable the fist time but instead awkward and uncomfortable.

Can someone please tell me how to embed the playable videos?

Fist time??
holy crap, dude, there's your problem!!!

 

[Zwilorg]

it is if you are in a stable relationship.

you just don´t do it...you "build" the moment and etc... the main part for me was the before and after (during was a blast too ). and i had the good luck that we were both virgin at the time. ^^

cool times

 

[TheRichPoorMan]

it is overhyped,

i had a lot of peer pressure to lose mine when i was in my mid and late teens, it probably didn't help that my best friends were girls who were younger than me who had already lost theirs.

But that said, i lost mine about 6 months ago to my closest friend, i've known her since i was 13 and had already gone out with her then, were now back together and have a very comfortable relationship.

what i'm saying is i dont regret my experience at all, and i would advise anyone one who still has to lose it, to be comfortable with whoever you lose it with, and be comfortable with not having lost it, there's simply nothing wrong with that.

 

[Mercurio128]

I had a catholic upbringing, so I bout shit myself in fear when my gf at the time climbed on and we had a hell of a time. I will say that overpreparing is a horrible idea, and that the best sex EVER is always the random, spur of the moment sex in an alley with someone you like.

So what your saying is that being raised catholic made you an exhibitionist

 

[ajemas]

I don't think that it's all that it's cracked up to be. Granted, I've never had sex before, but I don't have any urge to either. Why should people make such a big deal about where you put your johnson? (Or what you had placed in any other areas.) I never quite got the appeal behind the whole thing. People that I know act like "Oh my God, I'm a man now" or "I finally managed to lose my virginity!" It doesn't mean that you're any more or less of a man, it just means that your dick has now been in one new location. Should I have a celebration because I wore a new cup to my Judo class?

 

[Mercurio128]

if you're a dude, and the girl you're with knows you're a virgin she -should- be understanding.

Dont expect to last long, or to enjoy it much beyond, "HOLY CRAP! I'm having s- oh :\ "

it's the second or third go where you'll start to get the hang of it.

-m

My now-fiancée was understanding, as she was fairly sexually experienced (being 10 years older than me), so she was patient and made sure to know that she wasn't putting any pressure on me, and all that good stuff. Since she's the only person I've slept with, and we'd been together for 6 months before we reached that stage (she'd wanted it, but as I said, she didn't want to pressurise me), it was pretty special. She said I was lucky, that most people didn't lose their virginity like that. Thinking back, I wouldn't have had it any other way.

As for "how long you last", speak for yourself I lasted a good 15 minutes my first time. The missus was understandably pretty impressed!

Delayed ejaculation

Is the inability to ejaculate or persistent difficulty in achieving orgasm despite the presence of normal sexual desire and sexual stimulation. Normally a man can achieve orgasm within 2?4 minutes of active thrusting during sexual intercourse,[1] whereas a man with delayed ejaculation either does not have orgasms at all or can't have an orgasm until after prolonged intercourse which might last for 30?45 minutes or more. In most cases delayed ejaculation presents the condition in which the man can climax and ejaculate only during masturbation, but not during sexual intercourse


Also common during the first time as it is attributed to nerves

I hope that isn't contagious, otherwise the females of the world will be deliberately infecting everyone they can!

 

[nightwolf667]

Well, from a girl's perspective we're always told that our first time isn't going to be fun at all, breaking the hymen and all that... There's blood and it hurts but they tell you it's supposed to get better after that.

So no angels. No nothing really, just a lot of ouch.

Did it actually hurt for you though? Like, you'd never used tampons and stuff before? Or wanked or anything?

It didn't hurt me in the slightest. I was just wondering if it actually does hurt like people say because no girl I've talked to has admitted it.

Well my best friend did but she's the biggest wimp in the world haha

Well, I'm also rather tight, so depending on a guy's size it can still be very uncomfortable. But yeah it did hurt for me and then the second time it was more meh than anything else. I don't know, sometimes having sex as a girl can be really awesome and other times it's really, really, really HORRIBLE lol.

Nah, I'm a third degree black belt so I understand pain. The embarrassment that comes with telling a guy you really like that he's hurting you and seeing the disappointment on his face? That not so much.

 

[syndicated44]

The girl I first had sex with I am still with. I will never forget my first time mostly for the fact I remember how collosally bad I was at sex. I am still with the girl I lost it too and she lost hers to me. So it was two extreme newbies gettin it on. It was about as exciting as you would expect two nervous teenage virgins to have sex for the first time. Most of it was just trying to work out the mechanics.

However we got A LOT of practice in over the next few months and well now sex is awesome. So to me having sex for the first time was really important. Its not really something to rush. I wouldnt judge anyone who just decided to go out and get laid one night for the first time either. God only knows how many people I knew who did that.

So really sex is sex. Getting that cherry popped is a very important step in life and to be honest it really does change your outlook on life. It changes a whole lot of things. Probably because so much pressure is put on people to have sex. But I also think people should be really comortable with whoever they do it with for the first time. Because from my experiance its fucking nerve wracking and I would much prefer someone who made me feel comfortable over that one girl who just puts out. Because honestly I would prefer the story of the two childhood friends that just decided to experiment one day over some comedy where a bunch of guys try to get the new guy laid.

 

[Supernatural Girl]

I had realistic expectations of it hurting me and me not finding immense pleasure in it. While the hymen thing was no problem (I reckon I wrecked that at an earlier point in life) the fact the guy I am with is not an average 5 inches, and I am a small person.

I think because I am a fact freak and went around looking for all the information on sex that I could find, adequately prepared me. Also, I was the last of my friends and they told me what they experienced in an amount of detail.

P.S. I was 19.

 

[Daipire]

Hopefully on friday I'll find out!

 

[MagnetoHydroDynamics]

Meh, sex is not the greatest thing in my life...

I am more of your regular mad scientist, I fulfil my needs for sexual pleasure in order to pursue the cognitive pleasure of science and creativity...

And my current girlfriend is kind of a once-a-weeker anyway so, win-win.

 

[link141]

I hope not.

 

[Wolvaroo]

Sex in general is over-rated I would say. But I must admit my first time was probably my best time =D Probably because it was with the woman I've loved for 8 years and lasted about 4 hours. Picked a bad day as we were supposed to be going for dinner with some out of town friends

 

[Eggsnham]

It wasn't that amazing, but it was still pretty fun.

 

[Tomster595]

As a very horny 17 year old who hasn't even kissed a girl, there are few things higher on my list then having sex. I know it wont be all that great and after having sex it will drop down the list, but I still really want to lose my virginity >.>

I'm with you. lol. I know it probably won't be that great, but I just want to see what its like. btw I'm kinda just like you lol. I'm 16 and kissed a girl for the first time last Friday.

 

[jamesworkshop]

Delayed ejaculation

Is the inability to ejaculate or persistent difficulty in achieving orgasm despite the presence of normal sexual desire and sexual stimulation. Normally a man can achieve orgasm within 2?4 minutes of active thrusting during sexual intercourse,[1] whereas a man with delayed ejaculation either does not have orgasms at all or can't have an orgasm until after prolonged intercourse which might last for 30?45 minutes or more. In most cases delayed ejaculation presents the condition in which the man can climax and ejaculate only during masturbation, but not during sexual intercourse

Also common during the first time as it is attributed to nerves

http://www.timesonline.co.uk/tol/news/uk/article525179.ece

Actually, the average length of time from penetration to ejaculation in the UK is around 7 minutes 40 seconds, so being under that, in the UK, is generally low.

Not that I'm complaining, I enjoyed the hell out of it, and she did too (which she was surprised about), so if having something wrong with me meant my partner also enjoyed my first time, I'd prefer having something wrong with me compared to being "normal".

I see your Times and raise you

http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/001954.htm