Poll: Love or Lust?

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Dancingman

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I find both beautiful in their own rights despite horrendous capability to abuse both. To love is to genuinely embrace the beauty of a person and all they are, to lust is to long for a person's body, to desire them in the most intimate of ways. There are WAY worse things that one can want than someone they find beautiful.
 

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Hassao said:
Despite being a 16 year old male, a big pessimist, and having a cold black heart I strangly put all my hope and ect. into love.
I wouldn't call it too strange, if anything I'd say it's a sign that your cold, black heart isn't as cold and black as you would think.
 

Hitokiri_Gensai

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Love. Love above all else, until the end of time.

I am a HOPELESS romantic. I believe theres a difference between "f*cking" and "making love" in that making love is passion, intertwined in someones arms, where as the previous is all about sex for the sake of pleasure.
 

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Polaris19 said:
The Beatles said it best.

"All you need is love".
Then all of them suddenly died of dehydration/oxygen deprivation/starvation/hypothermia/hyperthermia.

Apparently, we actually NEED other things than love...
 

shadyh8er

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well, without lust we wouldn't know what love was. there always has to be an opposite.
 

BoxCutter

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I would be very surprised to see anyone value lust over love. Love is something that humans are almost conditioned to desire, especially now.

On topic though. I suppose I value love over lust, in the long run love is capable of great things. I find it difficult to find interest in any type of romantic relationship though.
 

ScruffyTheJanitor

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Lust is a part of love. Love is a composition of many other things aswell but it depends on what the person values the make what "love" is to them. Some see lust as the biggest part and prefer to satisfy that above all else, however people who do this are generally not under the impression that the relationship will last long and try not to be deluded as such.
 

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Gigaguy64 said:
Love.
Lust wont last, Love will survive even the test of time.
I also believe that you can have Love without Lust.
But that's just me.
Yup pretty much this without love there wouldnt be any families.
 

MajorKris

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I don't think you can decide just to have one. You can love someone but have no physical attraction to them what-so-ever. Such as the love you have for a best friend/parents/sister/ etc.

But to be "romantically" involved with someone, you have to have at least a small amount of lust before it can develop into love. Sure...you could get picky with me and say, "That doesn't apply to blind people." But to the average person I think you can get my point.

Relationships don't work at all if you don't have at least some time of sexual aspect added to it,even if you've been together for awhile and fall in love it is still needed.
 
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I don't know if I can honestly answer that question. I've never been in a relationship that involved love. I've never been in a situation that entailed lust, like one night stands for example. Now, I can sorta see why people would prefer one over the other. I can also see why people would want both. I'd imagine there would be relationships where they'd love each other and have feelings of lust for each other as well. Hell, who knows?

It would be nice to be in love, but I honestly don't know when it will happen. I certainly don't think it will happen any time soon, but I can't predict the future, so I could be wrong.
 

War Penguin

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I'd go for love. Lust and love can coexist quite well, but if I had to sacrifice one for the other, I'd safe love.
 

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Disaster Button said:
I would never choose lust over love but sadly I've only fallen victim to the former.
I have the exact opposite conundrum.

"Yeah! I'm gonna choose looks over personality! I'm gonna-...d'awwww, they like puppies! Must...not...choose...homely...aw, heck, who am I kidding."
 

presidentjlh

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Now, just for notes, my definition of lust is the "old-school" definition, one of a more negative connotation. I have nothing against sexual desire. Sexual desire can be love or lust, it depends.

I prefer love. Partially because, as a fairly religious person, lust is considered a perversion of love by my faith, partially because love is about making life better for the one you love, lust is only about fulfilling your own selfish desires, partially because I was raised to view women not as merely sex objects but as independent, rational human beings that, besides obvious physical differences and often many differences in personality and interests, are still very similar to me.

Now, does this mean that I have not lusted, ever? No. I doubt there's a man alive that hasn't lusted once in his life. In my case, my experiences with lust is pretty much just the desire aspect. I have yet to get my first kiss, let alone ever sleep with a woman.

When it comes to romance, I have yet to experience love, and have only experienced the "desire" aspect of lust. As such, my opinions may change as I (hopefully) enter relationships in the fairly near future.
 

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Hassao said:
Despite being a 16 year old male, a big pessimist, and having a cold black heart I strangly put all my hope and ect. into love.
Mostly, it's because love is stronger than sorrow or misery. The feeling of love is one that brings meaning to a person. Love provides hope, compassion, strength, joy, bonding, and trust. To desire love is not wrong, it is what we all do. Even those that have said they are more interested in lust are really looking for love. We all want someone who's more than just a friend, someone that will be by our side through thick and thin.
 

the lapalminator

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Julianking93 said:
Disaster Button said:
I would never choose lust over love but sadly I've only fallen victim to the former.
Sadly, this.

I won't go into details here, but a few years ago, I fell victim to some fucking **** and her lustful ways as she used me as nothing more than a fucking sex toy.

So obviously, I choose love all the way.

I'm a romantic and as the OP said, I've even been called a Victoian once or twice. I consider myself to be an omni/asexual for just that reason. I love all regardless of gender or sexual preference, yet sex or lust is something that I couldn't really care less about if I tried.
hey at least you can actually get some, i cant even get a girl to look my way :(