Katatori-kun said:
He did. He kept slipping in "Is he attracted to you?"/"Are you attracted to her?" as though that had anything whatsoever to do with whether or not they were friends. The two are entirely separate concepts. Let's face it, the smug bastard just likes being on camera. He's got no interest in uncovering any truths.
Slipping in? It makes it sound dirty.
Asking if someone is attracted to another prior to 'would you slip it in given the chance' would seem like a natural first step from 'are you just friends'. But that's just me.
I mean, the entire point was to ascertain the level of physical/sexual attraction between the genders determining if their was something other than platonic kinship between them.
But sure... that guys a sneaky bastard. Editing those responses to show that women maintained friendships with men they knew had more feelings for them than they reciprocated; he's obviously the bad guy!
Vault101 said:
DevilWithaHalo said:
my point is I hardly find one video where a guy runs around a campus asking questions "proof" and I'm not saying the guy who made the video DID skew things to a certain veiwpoint, I'm saying he very easyly could have...if somthing is to be taken as reliable proof then such variables should be considerd
studies or not I find the very Idea that men and women cant be freinds at all...baffling really
He very well could have; after all, it seems more comedic than anything else, so perhaps his motivations were purely comedic in nature. But I find people's responses to it more interesting that I do the actual content of the video in question. Perhaps we should chalk it up to confirmation bias eh?
I wouldn't argue against being skeptical about someone's research, especially if they have a vested interest in it's outcome. But while we accept that, so too must we accept the possibility of its legitimacy. So we continue to research the subject, and if continued findings tend to trend toward a certain outcome... well... what would you think?
Vault101 said:
[quote/]perhaps the existance of this thread and those like it (of which there are many) is probably evidence that there is a certain level of confusion regarding friendships with the opposite sex and our social and individual perceptions to the concept
what the hell does that even mean? if we are freinds with the oposite gender its actually....not true? or somthing?[/quote]
Take the second video as an example that the genders see the friendships between the sexes differently than the opposing gender. The two blonde females as a prime example; why did they think it was OK for them to see male friends on a one on one basis but didn't think it was OK for their boyfriends to spend time with female friends on a one on one basis? Why did several of the females in the first video admit to maintaining a friendship with men they knew had more interest in them?
Some people have already provided some links to psychological studies surrounding these kinds of questions, but I imagine sharing more and going into it would result in similar responses regarding people's individual triumphs over the status-quo; whether or not they even realize they may be guilty of perpetuating the generalizations.
Perhaps you would be willing to perform some personal experimentation with the idea. Offer yourself sexually to your male friends and see which ones accept the offer; then you could determine whether or not the change in behavior is merely an evolutionary step in your relationship developments with these individuals or they were merely hoping for the chance to bone you while waiting in the "Friend Zone". There may be other ideas to; they feel that a sexual connection would strengthen the friendship or they want to better the friendship by releasing pent up sexual tension between you to. I certainly don't know what the outcome or findings of your research will be, but I'm curious to read it when you gather your conclusions.
