Poll: Sex And You. Let's keep this mature.

[jakeEHTlovless]

What are your views on 'casual sex'? I view it as a tad childish. For me, sex without love feels empty, and I have done it casually.

i agree with this 270%

 

[gillebro]

Yeah, all right. I'll answer this one.

Nope.
Nope.
N/A
N/A
N/A
I think it's fine, but I don't reckon I'm the sort of person that would do that, myself. Honestly, nothing against it. I'm told it's fun and everything, and that's great. But personally I don't think I would do it.
Err, well, if I was hoping to get pregnant, of course I would. Otherwise... I dunno.
It's fine. It doesn't repulse me at all. It may be better than normal sex. And I'm a girl, so with oral I'd imagine more care would be taken to get me off, or whatever.
Yep.
It sounds painful, but if you like it, good on ya.
Erm, well considering how I'd feel about engaging in casual sex... if the opportunity presented itself to me I wouldn't be against it at all. Having another girl there is something I'd be fine with.

 

[game-lover]

All right... let's see if I can answer this in total order:

I have had a sexual encounter in my childhood with one of my step brothers. It's debatable whether it was abuse or not based on other internet places I've mentioned it.

I haven't had sex yet.

The encounter started when I was around 10, went on sporadically and ended when I was about 14.

No way, my parents know about that one. I'll probably mention it when I do have sexual intercourse though.

I don't understand casual sex. I can't entirely explain why except that recently it's occurred to me that I might be a bit of a prude. People can have as much casual sex as they please of course. It doesn't exactly bother me. But... I just don't get it. The whole casual aspect if you will. People call it fun and think of sex as recreation but sex has always seemed serious to me. I can't connect the two together. My mind won't let it click. Like my brain just farts whenever I try. Maybe one day I'll get it, maybe I never will.

It would depend on how much I like the guy or trust the guy to take such a risk of just using one means of protection.

I imagine oral sex can be pleasant. The one time I did it wasn't pleasant but I didn't really want to. So that's probably why. Anyway, it's hardly gross to me. Except as far as women swallowing the semen or getting themselves sprayed with it... Yeah, no.

Yes, I masturbate. It's very enjoyable. Besides, I'm a virgin. Gotta do something with all these hormones I've got going for me.

Anal is great for everyone else. I'm not sure I'd do it. I mean, as a woman, I just don't see the appeal. At all.

I don't think I could be comfortable with a threesome. I've had tiny fantasies about it but the truth is, the appeal is lost on me. One of the many things that I don't understand.

Oh and the reason I haven't had sex? I haven't found anyone worth having sex with. So it's choice and it isn't. If even one guy came to me that I was majorly attracted to said he wanted to screw my brains out, it would be on.
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Dogging:

Don't understand it. At all. The appeal. The reason you'd even want to. I mean, unless they're sneaking around to be unfaithful in which case, there's all my hostility aimed at you right there.

Anyway, people can do what they want. The main reason it could irk me is because it's public and I just don't see why people can't seem to have the damn willpower to get a damn room instead of screwing in public. But hey, their business. At least, they're making it a point to keep hidden. As opposed to those who do the public thing for the thrill of seeing if they get caught or not.
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I think that's all from me!

 

[JemothSkarii]

Gonna answer some of the other questions that have popped up:
Thoughts on anal: I'd like to try it, but only if my girl wants to as well, and i'd be happy if she didn't want to
Do I masturbate: Yeah, probably once or twice a day...if I miss a few days, I kinda go into a frenzy...I'm quite sad of a person. Most sexual thing I've done is masturbate in front of my girlfriend: it was over a webcam and she didn't want to see my junk, I was stressed and she wanted to help out...she also noted I'm very quiet.
Threesome: No, no; I love my girl too much, I don't want to share her -_-.
BDSM?: My girl has hinted at one day tying her up and blindfolding her. I guess I could blindfold her, but I don't think I could handle tying her up, just not me.
Anything else?: When I was at one of my friend's houses (who is gay), he jokingly said that if my GF was there she'd probably bend me over and peg me. I said she probably would and later that day I asked her if she'd like to peg me at some stage (after explaining it) and she got really excited at the idea.
Good thing I'm bi...can't wait until we're ready, but still: am I weird that I want my girlfriend to well...bend me over?

 

[Julianking93]

This thread makes me sad <<

Me too

To answer all the questions...No...and casual sex doesn't affect me but personally I wouldn't want to do it...
I'm surprised how many people here lost their virginity when they were 15/16...and now I feel lonely.

*sigh* I know ;~;
I'm surprised at how much this thread... really brought me down today >>
I know I shouldn't let it and hell, no one's forcing me to come back and read the new responses but... goddamn it, it still upsets me. *goes off to cry in corner*

 

[Bara_no_Hime]

Anything else?: When I was at one of my friend's houses (who is gay), he jokingly said that if my GF was there she'd probably bend me over and peg me. I said she probably would and later that day I asked her if she'd like to peg me at some stage (after explaining it) and she got really excited at the idea.
Good thing I'm bi...can't wait until we're ready, but still: am I weird that I want my girlfriend to well...bend me over?

No, you're not weird at all. I've done that with boyfriends before.

Actually, anal is usually better for guys than girls (I mean, recieving). You actually have a g-spot up there (your prostate). Our g-spot is farther up front, so it's easier to reach via the front door.

 

[DefunctTheory]

*sigh* I know ;~;
I'm surprised at how much this thread... really brought me down today >>
I know I shouldn't let it and hell, no one's forcing me to come back and read the new responses but... goddamn it, it still upsets me. *goes off to cry in corner*

if it makes you feel better, most people in sexual relationships are lonely and depressed to.

We just have less bed space, and have to take showers more often (As well as the hassle of shaving. Such a pain in the ass).

Anything else?: When I was at one of my friend's houses (who is gay), he jokingly said that if my GF was there she'd probably bend me over and peg me. I said she probably would and later that day I asked her if she'd like to peg me at some stage (after explaining it) and she got really excited at the idea.
Good thing I'm bi...can't wait until we're ready, but still: am I weird that I want my girlfriend to well...bend me over?

No, you're not weird at all. I've done that with boyfriends before.

Actually, anal is usually better for guys than girls (I mean, recieving). You actually have a g-spot up there (your prostate). Our g-spot is farther up front, so it's easier to reach via the front door.

My prostate is a hot bed of cancer, not a g-spot, thank you very much.

 

[FallenRainbows]

Spoiler

As for 'kinky' to a degree, hand-cuffs? Okay. BDSM? No... really no. I'd maybe consider a middle ground if my partner was really into it, like maybe if she had some uniform fetish or something.

You're really missing out.

Yes, well being a virgin, naturally.

But like I said, I have a very romantic view of sex, for many a reason, and for me, BDSM doesn't fit that, it seems more lustful that loving. I suppose that's why it's so reportedly good.

ick, romance. Romance GETS you to sex.

Sex is just something thats fun to do. Its meaning is entirely what you want it to be. I choose to see it as something pleasurable I do with females I enjoy the company of. that being said, I have rules, like you, though just less robust.

1. One sexual partner at a time (A period of time, not at one sexual encounter)
2. If I really do love someone, then yes, only them.

But really, sex is sex. You go on dates because their fun, and you do BDSM because its fun.

See my previous post as to how I see sex, and (to an extent) why it's important to me that it is a romantic thing. Nothing wrong with seeing sex as just sex mind you, it's just that frankly I can't see myself giving a damn in the world if there isn't somebody to love, and to me love is what sex is, a incarnation of intimacy, trust, pleasure and love.

If your the sort who finds the 'hopeless romantic' type a pain in the ass, you wouldn't like me at all.

I love hopeless romantics. I usually get them drunk, drag them to titty bars, and watch them go positively wild as they lose control and forget about romance in there drunken state, helpless against the onslaught of booty gyration and exposed nipples.

Of course, I never let them make any life changing mistakes, return them to their beds at night, unmolested (Well, maybe molested, but never pantless).

You guys a re a fun bunch to be around, and I admire you. Long ago, I thought like you, and a good portion of me wishes I still did. But, alas, God plays tricks on us all, and tiny events eventually change you. It changed me into the foul mouthed, hopelessly crude individual I am.

I the opposite to you, and that whole corruption thing is mean, and it be harsh of you. I used to be a bastard, still am a bit, but like you say life sculpts you in the way you deal with it, I became more open, and more valuing of life itself. Yeah I still drink with friends (whiskey!) and even get off my face every now and again, but never so much I lose the one part of myself I'm proud of making.

 

[Julianking93]

*sigh* I know ;~;
I'm surprised at how much this thread... really brought me down today >>
I know I shouldn't let it and hell, no one's forcing me to come back and read the new responses but... goddamn it, it still upsets me. *goes off to cry in corner*

if it makes you feel better, most people in sexual relationships are lonely and depressed to.

We just have less bed space, and have to take showers more often (As well as the hassle of shaving. Such a pain in the ass).

So I've heard, but I'd rather be depressed with someone by my side rather than depressed and completely alone.
Plus, you get the benefit of having sex, which I'm sure would soften the loneliness at least a little bit.

 

[Kiju]

Just 'cause I'm boring, and bored, I'll put it in list form.

1) Yes
2) Yes
3) 14, and when I was out alone with an older friend
4) No
5) Total of 3 (once as mentioned above, once with my ex, and haven't "done it" with my current boyfriend...yet)
6) Perfectly fine, in my opinion. What with all the types of contraceptives and stuff, nothing wrong with it in my book
7) Probably, yeah. Might not if she asked, but she damn well better prove she took a pill. I hate the concept of becoming a father :\
8) I love giving and receiving it
9) Yes. Not many people I know that don't
10) I'm bisexual...I better damn well feel ok about it xD
11) Yes, and yes. Kinda hoping it happens in my lifetime...orgy would be fine too.

 

[FallenRainbows]

Not that I'd ever would, but I'm curious. What are the politics of three(or more)somes? How does the opportunity arise? Do you know everyone? Are you in a longer term relationship with a single partner, is it recurring? (if so is it the same people). Just something I seek to cure my ignorance on.

No problem.

First time: 3 some. I had been dating this guy for a few months. We were hanging out with a female friend and a male friend. Someone asked "so, what shall we do now?" and the female friend said "we could all have sex" - which everyone laughed at and that was that. Later, my boyfriend and I were alone with the girl and (having talked it over) I said "earlier, when you made that joke... if the other person hadn't been in the room, we'd have said "yes". She said "oh" and a few minutes later we went for it. This was a dorm room, so the bed was easily at hand.

It was really fun. Unfortunately, afterwards she started stalking me. Later she told me she loved me and it was really awkward cause I had absoutely no feelings for her. So that went bad long-term, but it was great at the time.

My only other experience was more recently, and much more positive.

My partner and I were friends with another couple of fairly open sexuality. One day, they came up to both of us and said "we're not sure how to ask this, so we're just going to do this" and my partner and I got kissed by both of them. We said "oh, that was nice" and a week later we arranged to all get together. It was good, and we repeated the arrangement four or five other times before everyone sort of got bored with it. My partner and I are still friends with that couple - we game with them on the weekends. Haven't had sex with them in several years, though, and aren't really interested in them again. We've "had" them - my partner and I are interested in trying someone else now. Either another mutual friend or another couple, whichever.

Doesn't that spawn a rift between you and your partner, jealousy or anything? It'd drive me mad...

 

[DefunctTheory]

*sigh* I know ;~;
I'm surprised at how much this thread... really brought me down today >>
I know I shouldn't let it and hell, no one's forcing me to come back and read the new responses but... goddamn it, it still upsets me. *goes off to cry in corner*

if it makes you feel better, most people in sexual relationships are lonely and depressed to.

We just have less bed space, and have to take showers more often (As well as the hassle of shaving. Such a pain in the ass).

So I've heard, but I'd rather be depressed with someone by my side rather than depressed and completely alone.
Plus, you get the benefit of having sex, which I'm sure would soften the loneliness at least a little bit.

Nothing is more lonely than being alone with company. And sex, while great, is not as vital as some would have you think.

I'm going to be honest: There have been many times where sex has actually been a choir (And I'm a guy); times where a nice cigar and good rock n' roll have been prefered, and times when I actively avoided sex. Sex, like all other things, is situational.

What I'm trying to say is... fuck it all. Its a Saturday night. Sex is for weekdays anyway, mope about something else.

Spoiler

Spoiler

As for 'kinky' to a degree, hand-cuffs? Okay. BDSM? No... really no. I'd maybe consider a middle ground if my partner was really into it, like maybe if she had some uniform fetish or something.

You're really missing out.

Yes, well being a virgin, naturally.

But like I said, I have a very romantic view of sex, for many a reason, and for me, BDSM doesn't fit that, it seems more lustful that loving. I suppose that's why it's so reportedly good.

ick, romance. Romance GETS you to sex.

Sex is just something thats fun to do. Its meaning is entirely what you want it to be. I choose to see it as something pleasurable I do with females I enjoy the company of. that being said, I have rules, like you, though just less robust.

1. One sexual partner at a time (A period of time, not at one sexual encounter)
2. If I really do love someone, then yes, only them.

But really, sex is sex. You go on dates because their fun, and you do BDSM because its fun.

See my previous post as to how I see sex, and (to an extent) why it's important to me that it is a romantic thing. Nothing wrong with seeing sex as just sex mind you, it's just that frankly I can't see myself giving a damn in the world if there isn't somebody to love, and to me love is what sex is, a incarnation of intimacy, trust, pleasure and love.

If your the sort who finds the 'hopeless romantic' type a pain in the ass, you wouldn't like me at all.

I love hopeless romantics. I usually get them drunk, drag them to titty bars, and watch them go positively wild as they lose control and forget about romance in there drunken state, helpless against the onslaught of booty gyration and exposed nipples.

Of course, I never let them make any life changing mistakes, return them to their beds at night, unmolested (Well, maybe molested, but never pantless).

You guys a re a fun bunch to be around, and I admire you. Long ago, I thought like you, and a good portion of me wishes I still did. But, alas, God plays tricks on us all, and tiny events eventually change you. It changed me into the foul mouthed, hopelessly crude individual I am.

I the opposite to you, and that whole corruption thing is mean, and it be harsh of you. I used to be a bastard, still am a bit, but like you say life sculpts you in the way you deal with it, I became more open, and more valuing of life itself. Yeah I still drink with friends (whiskey!) and even get off my face every now and again, but never so much I lose the one part of myself I'm proud of making.

I prefer 'arguing the other side of the issue.'

Honestly, its not like I hire hookers to blow them. And to be perfectly fair, everyone I've done it to has been in the Army. They should have been doing that stuff anyway.

 

[Xan Krieger]

1.Have you had a 'sexual encounter' (eg. oral sex and whatnot.)
2.Have you had sex?
3.How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience?
4.Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.)
5.How many people have you slept with?
6.What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)?
7.Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill)
8.What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why?
9.Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not?
10.What're your views on anal sex?
11.Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved?
12. ...Anything else you'd like to talk about?

1. no, haven't even been kissed
2. no
3. n/a
4. n/a
5. n/a
6. Against it
7. no, too much chance of pregnancy
8.
9. yes because I'm lonely and it feels good
10. I think it's disgusting to shove it up a girl's crapper
11. no because I hate the sight of another mans...you know what
12. virgin for life, no girl would ever find me attractive.

 

[Kargathia]

*sigh* I know ;~;
I'm surprised at how much this thread... really brought me down today >>
I know I shouldn't let it and hell, no one's forcing me to come back and read the new responses but... goddamn it, it still upsets me. *goes off to cry in corner*

if it makes you feel better, most people in sexual relationships are lonely and depressed to.

We just have less bed space, and have to take showers more often (As well as the hassle of shaving. Such a pain in the ass).

So I've heard, but I'd rather be depressed with someone by my side rather than depressed and completely alone.
Plus, you get the benefit of having sex, which I'm sure would soften the loneliness at least a little bit.

Possibly. Having sex also is rather double-edged, as (especially males) really easily start questioning our sexual capabilities if we're depressed anyway.

 

[FallenRainbows]

*sigh* I know ;~;
I'm surprised at how much this thread... really brought me down today >>
I know I shouldn't let it and hell, no one's forcing me to come back and read the new responses but... goddamn it, it still upsets me. *goes off to cry in corner*

if it makes you feel better, most people in sexual relationships are lonely and depressed to.

We just have less bed space, and have to take showers more often (As well as the hassle of shaving. Such a pain in the ass).

So I've heard, but I'd rather be depressed with someone by my side rather than depressed and completely alone.
Plus, you get the benefit of having sex, which I'm sure would soften the loneliness at least a little bit.

It'll come along. I promise

'sides could be worse, could have loved and had a relationship for someone for two years essentially admit they were bored. Then get back together because she was interested again six months later as you finally started to move on, only to be dumped six months later because 'we are better as friends' then be expected to be fine with it, missing a few days of 6th form due to crying your heart out, going back saying 'I'm fine' then to spend every-day since feeling so empty, so devoid of any purpose at all then typing out all this on an internet post and realising once again, that you have reminded yourself how lonely you are, with a little tear on your cheek.

Why in the blazing hell did I click post? I went through the trouble of rage typing it didn't I?

 

[spartan1077]

To answer all the questions...No...and casual sex doesn't affect me but personally I wouldn't want to do it...
I'm surprised how many people here lost their virginity when they were 15/16...and now I feel lonely.

*sigh* I know ;~;
I'm surprised at how much this thread... really brought me down today >>
I know I shouldn't let it and hell, no one's forcing me to come back and read the new responses but... goddamn it, it still upsets me. *goes off to cry in corner*[/quote]

D'awwww I did the same thing. I clicked on the thread, read the first response and felt really sad. Then I read through the rest of them. Mainly to see if anyone I know responded...and then I saw your post and felt the same way...
*goes to opposite corner and cries*
12 pages of being lonely on our part...

 

[Julianking93]

D'awwww I did the same thing. I clicked on the thread, read the first response and felt really sad. Then I read through the rest of them. Mainly to see if anyone I know responded...and then I saw your post and felt the same way...
*goes to opposite corner and cries*
12 pages of being lonely on our part...

Same reason here. Wanted to see if anyone I knew posted.
Surprisingly, only a few did but... I've only read the first 6 pages. I'm afraid to continue <<
I really shouldn't have read those 6 pages ;~;
It shouldn't get me (or anyone for that matter) down though. I... can't really think of a reason why it shouldn't, but it shouldn't :3
*moves to your corner and hugs*

 

[warprincenataku]

Have you had a 'sexual encounter' (eg. oral sex and whatnot.) YES

Have you had sex? YES

How old were you when you first did? Wanna tell us about your first experience? 16, with my first girlfriend.

Do your parents know? (Only really applicable for under 18's.) I'm sure they could hear the noise.

How many people have you slept with? 5

What are your views on 'casual sex' (sex outside of a relationship, with no desires to be in a relationship)? It's not for me.

Would you have sex without a condom if the girl, was on the pill? (or would you, if you were on the pill) I'm married, sure!

What do you think of oral sex? Better than normal sex? Does it repulse you? Why? Well, I enjoy it, but it's not my favorite.

Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not? Sure, in fact I'm typing this with my left hand. (jk)

What're your views on anal sex? If you want to do it and it's consensual, go for it.

Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved? Nope, never have, never will. As far as the same sex goes, I'm not really sure as I've given no thought to an actual threesome.

...Anything else you'd like to talk about? I think fetishes are fun. I have a friend whose fetish is furries. I... don't see the appeal.

And hey, if you haven't, why not? Is it out of choice? Why? Does not apply.

 

[spartan1077]

Same reason here. Wanted to see if anyone I knew posted.
Surprisingly, only a few did but... I've only read the first 6 pages. I'm afraid to continue <<
I really shouldn't have read those 6 pages ;~;
It shouldn't get me (or anyone for that matter) down though. I... can't really think of a reason why it shouldn't, but it shouldn't :3
*moves to your corner and hugs*

I'm glad no one I knew, knew posted here...At least no one I'm attracted to That's why it gets to me. Also, because I'm lonely and hate any sort of "PDA"...can't even stand when I see people holding hands
*hugs*

Might as well answer the rest of the questions...
Also, do you masturbate? If not, why not? I'm single...and male...that sufficient enough?
What're your views on anal sex? I also like men way more than women...
Could you ever have a 3some (or more)? Would you be comfortable with someone of the same sex being involved? I like men way more than women but I still like both(all three ^.^) but I don't think I could handle a 3some...that being said I don't know if I could handle one on one...

 

[Dango]

1. No, I have not had a 'sexual encounter'.
2. No, I have not had sex.
3. I generally associate sex with love, and would only have sex with someone I love, but don't necessarily oppose casual sex, as long as your not around my age (15), in which case I just view it as stupid.
4. No, I do masturbate... I kinda feel like it contradicts the rest of my mindset.

Those are the questions I'll answer.

EDIT: Also, despite being a single 15 year old boy, I'm not particular eager to have sex.

This thread makes me sad <<

Me too

To answer all the questions...No...and casual sex doesn't affect me but personally I wouldn't want to do it...
I'm surprised how many people here lost their virginity when they were 15/16...and now I feel lonely.

Me too, especially since I'm the definitely more of the "pure-hearted love" type... and can I move in that corner with you and Julian?