Does your college have a student counselling service? You might want to see if you can talk your gender-identity issues over with a counseller to get some professional advise. Should be a free service if your a student there, take advantage of it.Glass Joe the Champ said:I live in the state of Texas in the US, which if you're unfamiliar with is the largest concentration of social conservatives in an already very conservative nation. Unfortunately, I still have to stay here for college, but at least I'm going to Austin which is about the only slightly LGBT friendly place around here.BeeGeenie said:Cool, cool. I see where you're coming from.Glass Joe the Champ said:I see your point, but for me at least, it's a little of both. I want to be female in regard to my own self image, but I also want to be "normal" in society's eyes (however conformist that may sound); and it may be because I live in such a conservative place, but it seems conventional gender roles are pretty set in stone.BeeGeenie said:Could be interesting to try for a few days, in the name of curiosity.
As far as sex reassignment surgery and gene therapy etc. Ah heck no. You might "feel" like a woman, but your body obviously disagrees with you, and mutilating it just to have the outward appearance of a woman has always seemed a bit drastic to me.
Why not just behave the way you feel and let your body be what it is.
Maybe even effect some social change by questioning existing gender roles.
I may be wrong, but I can't help but feel that trans-gender people have more of a problem with social conventions and gender roles than with their own plumbing.
You can change your body, you can change your self-image, or you can just learn to love yourself, including your body, just the way you are.
So, for example, I hate that I can't wear pretty clothes or makeup, cry at movies, or show a preference towards girly things without being thought of as "weird", but I also hate that I have a penis, broad shoulders, a low voice, masculine features, and short, mannish hair. It's a little bit of both.
I sing high tenor. (I sometimes joke that Basses are just tenors that are insecure in their masculinity.) I'm a brony, so... you know, show for girls. I've always wanted to grow out my hair, but unfortunately, it's frizzy and a white man with a frizzy afro is just not sexy. I cry at movies all the time. (Men are also statistically much more likely to cry while listening to music than women.)
Also, I think American football is just about the gayest thing ever. (Think about it: Big hairy men, reaching between each other's legs, massive group hugs, and getting a pat on the butt every time they do something good.)
So while I may not be in your shoes, I am not what people would generally consider "masculine" in the traditional sense, but I'm still a heterosexual male.
And yes, I think we can all agree that a man's "junk" is not the most aesthetically pleasing thing... but I still enjoy having one.
Also, here's this:
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Now that is a VERY pretty man. His name is Bill Kaulitz, of Tokio Hotel. He is proof that you can be pretty without having to cut your balls off.
Incidentally, what region are you from that is so conservative, and if you don't mind me asking, what is your sexual preference?
As for orientation, I've been attracted to people of both genders, but publicly I'm straight and I actually have a girlfriend (who doesn't know anything about this, don't judge). I find the idea of sex with a man as a man very unappealing though. If I were to change genders, I'd probably be bisexual in practice.
But again, sexuality isn't really the issue here; it's more about self identity than anything. Even if society was totally accepting of it, I'm not sure if it'd be enough to simply be a super feminine guy. I don't feel like a feminine guy as much as a fairly conventional girl, if that makes sense.
Worse for YOU maybe, not so bad for me! (presuming I had chosen the Nazi lifestyle)Colour-Scientist said:Nah, it'd be way worse if you were a regular Nazi with superpowers.Snowbell said:This is seriously the worst superpower ever :|
What I genuinely talk about with my friends is who has which imaginary genetalia, who has been imaginarily having sex with whom and which celebrity/fictional men we would sex up, and assign each other nicknames based on drugs and STDs (mine is Krokodil Chlamydia)JokerCrowe said:What I would do? Well, the usual, go to the gym and shower with the ladies, listen to what girls talk about when they think guys aren't listening. Maybe I'll even go to a gay club to try to find some lesbians and... *wink*[footnote]Have deep meaningful discussions about sexuality and feminism[/footnote]
Completely amateur-hour advice here, but I'd suggest waiting a bit. I'm sure the technology to do better surgeries of that sort will come in time, and get cheaper. Maybe in 2025 you'll be able to buy yourself a Megan Fox body, eh? Eh?Glass Joe the Champ said:one day I'll be able to make the change provided the technology is there and society learns to be accepting.
Pfff, you think he's pretty?BeeGeenie said:Also, here's this:
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Now that is a VERY pretty man.
Urgh, I knew this comment was gonna come. I even considered putting in a disclaimer there.Elect G-Max said:You know you can be female without putting up with any of that crap, right?Jonluw said:Periods?
Childbirth?
Makeup?
Dieting?
No thanks.
I recall having a similar discussion with a friend of mine and concluding if we were men, we would be horrible. Manwhores, horrible boyfriends, and basically douches.Shotgun Guy said:We had a conversation like this with one of my friends once, we decided that if he was a girl, he'd be a total whore and try to have sex with my friend and me all the time. Which seems good at first but she'd branch out and end up giving herself and the two of us really bad STD's and we'd all die...so moral of the story, be glad your friends aren't chicks, you can take that one home with you.