Trauma isn't always instantaneous.DustyDrB said:Probably because we enjoyed the myth when we were kids, and it wasn't some traumatic event when we found it wasn't real.
You have to be fair though, its really only a handful of "dark and edgy" people here. The rest are calling them out on it.SmashLovesTitanQuest said:What is it with this website and its members? I have never seen so many stuck up, emotionless, no-fun-allowed kinda people in the same place.
At least, I have never seen so many "so dark and edgy" teenagers pretending to be like that.
Why do we need Santa for kids to be kids. Kids have awesome imaginations and create their own interesting fun games every day. They don't need their parents to lie to them for that to happen.DeadFOAM said:OT: It's harmless fun. The OP is still surly about a little white lie. Can we just move on and let kids be kids?
DalekJaas said:Same reason parents force their kids to believe in Jesus, because they can be manipulated into believing stupid crap at a young age.
Woah, woah, woah, guys, I specifically said not to turn this topic into a debate about God.TomLikesGuitar said:*snip*
Remember reading this? Or did you even bother to read? Please guys, none of that in this thread, because, as I said, debates about God never turn into anything more than flame war.The Virgo said:Also, no, you may not turn this into a religious debate comparing it to God/Jesus/Moses/Mohammad/etc. We're talking about Santa, not God. Debates between atheists and believers never become more than flame-wars. Thank you for keeping it nice.
XD No, dude, BEST father ever! XD Or at least, best father until they find out it was all bullshit. ;-) I got a book called "Loads More Lies to Tell Small Kids" that was great, like if you change the channel, the person who was on TV dies or that or that the reason there are so many beer cans on beaches is because starfish are always drunk. That's why they're always laying down. XD Best one, though: If they name a hurricane after you, you have to pay for all the damage! >kouriichi said:When i have a son or daughter, im going to trick him/her into thinking im Santa. Say "I'll be back in the morning" and go out the door with a big sack on christmas eve night. ((And then climb in through my bedroom window and go to bed.))
Show up in the morning with snow on my boots, the smell of deer on my clothes and the last few presents in my bag. Then when they think im Santa, i'll tell them you, "cant tell anyone, not even your mother"
Childhood is about fantasy and whimsy. You have to build up all that happiness, so when the soul crushing depression that is High School bares down on you, you have a nice little reserve to fall on. Besides, whats more fun then saying the stupidest thing you can think of to a child and they believe it. "Yeah, People in China have to walk on their hands. If they let go, they fall into space! D: See, the world is a Dodecaoctahedron. And babies come from space! Theyre hidden inside Meteorites!" /worst father ever
And here we come to the crux of it. You sir, hate children. That does not make you a bad person. My first girlfriend despised children. There is no manual that says "Raising Kids for Dummies". However, it is not incredibly difficult to know how to raise a child. You have to be dedicated, you have to be patient, you have to be strong. You make these points about incredibly traumatic events, and bombs, and child abuse. THIS IS FUCKING SANTA CLAUS. Yes, it is a lie. But you know what? WE LIE EVERY DAY. Actors lie as part of their profession! Being traumatised because of the Santa lie is like being traumatised by learning that James Bond is a fictional character. Santa is a harmless, fun thing for parents. As a parent, I know this. You are not a parent. You do not know. You also, as I predict, find children repulsive. Santa claus is NOT FOR YOU. IT IS FOR US. STOP TRYING TO BE A SMARTARSE, AND LET US GO ABOUT OUR BUSINESS.The Virgo said:I see Santa didn't give you any punctuation marks for Christmas.Capricious said:Look this does not matter if it is truth fiction real or fake this santa clause was once adopted as a story of old saint nick from germany where the parents were to poor to promote such an idea where saint nick was an old toy maker that whittled in his free time he gave his creations to kids when he passed by nothing more he became over glorified by being dubbed a saint after his death and renamed santa clause when translated is saintly cause. now it is used to promote consumerism on winter solstice pagan holiday later made to be hedonistic then was made to be christian based giving underlying "tones." Anger is unnecessary in this I personally do not celebrate any holiday due to my religious beliefs saying why have festivities on one given day why can it not be every day what make this day different and don't say christmas cheer or some nonsense like that.
No, I wasn't harmed by it, but I'm a bit disappointed in my parents who, when I confronted them and told them to tell me the truth about Santa many, many years ago, still lied to me. Bastards.JoesshittyOs said:Hating and questioning every pointless tradition, holiday, and mythical creatures just to prove that you're somehow smarter for pointing out why simple fun things that have never harmed anyone (except you, from the sounds of it) is a laughably pointless way to lead your life.The Virgo said:I am, actually. What about it? And if it weren't for us cynics, there would be 50 suckers every minute born and 232 to take them.JoesshittyOs said:Haha, What? Really, you pity the guy that finds joy in the little things while you're over there thinking that being a cynical egotistical "realist" on every small children's fairytale is the proper way to live a life?
Yeah, I'm envious of you. Sounds like you really are living large over there bud.
Well hello, JoJo, we meet again.JoJoDeathunter said:*snip*
Hmmm, that's a pretty interesting quote you have there. Of course, I have to wonder, won't the child feel even more bitter after seeing Santa proven to exist in that quote? Maybe she will, maybe she won't. How long ago was that from?
Well, Ed Gein grew up being raised by a sadistic, religious mother who had him believe that all men were sex-addicts and sinners (not trying to overstep my own rules, just stating a fact). He then became a necrophile and grave robber who made furniture and other things out of skin and body parts (like a belt made of nipples and a lampshade made of skin) and killed two women. Not comparable with Santa, of course, that wasn't my intention at all, but that was a myth he grew up with and it made him insane. Also, Ted Bundy was supposedly abused by his grandfather and was told that his mother was actually his sister and, as a result, felt lied to and angry. We all know how well that worked out. Again, not even comparable with Santa and I would berate anyone who would make a comparison, but you said people who grew up with psychological problems due to believing a myth and Gein is a fine example. Psychological problems because of Santa, though? Not very likely. Bitterness or slight anger? Possible.woodaba said:But, name me one person you know who grew up with psychological problems because their parents pervaded a myth.
Really? Parents don't actually give coal? Huh. If I had a kid whom I had taught the Santa tradition to and he had been an annoying brat all year, I would put some charcoal in his stocking.woodaba said:Its just harmless fun. Its not tricking you, cause no kid ever actually gets coal. It is something magical for the children and the parent. Have you ever see a child on Christmas morning? I tell you, that sight warmed my cold, black heart. I consider myself a cynic much like you, but this is one issue where I will happily side with the masses. It is something beautiful.
And while I don't doubt that, for some like you, the sight of a magic-filled child on Christmas morning would be a heartwarming scene, I would probably sit there wondering when the hell it was going to be over so I could leave and buy games on Steam on sale for super cheap! Now that's something I believe in! GABEN CLAUS! He has a workshop in Bellevue, Washington and his helpers are programmers, mappers, hat makers and people who run Steam! And the reason he's fat is because he goes around eating all of the milk and cookies! XD
*Episode Three gets put on hold for 50,000 years*
Tonight on Jerry Springer: I got asbergers from not believing in Santa! XD Sorry, I had to do that! Please continue.woodaba said:Plus, I remember when I was a kid, one kid in our class had parents like yourself. They always told him that Santa is not real. He grew up pretty much unharmed by it, (his asbergers syndrome, I assume, is unrelated) ...
Well, he certainly was a buzz-killer. That's why I at least put the [NO KIDS ALLOWED] notice on the thread topic. That way, if they come on here and see the "awful" truth, it won't really be my fault. Nor anyone's fault who posted here.woodaba said:... but one day, he was feeling spiteful, and to a class filled with little kids who were incredibly excited for the arrival of Santa Claus, announced that he was not real. I think we all had an inkling by this stage, (I know I did) but this was the straw that broke the camels back. We were all very angry and very upset.
If your objective is to prevent this from happening, then fair enough. But always remember, if you do this, your child could end up being that jealous, vindictive, asshole that just had to spoil it for everyone.
But that's my problem with children and why I don't want any. There's no way to correctly raise one. Something that may not even remotely bother one child may turn one into a paranoid schizophrenic. Let me give you an example:
- "Acid Bath Murderer" John Haigh, as a child, ran outside after a WWII bombing at his London home. The bomb came with "a horrifying shriek, and as I staggered up, bruised and bewildered, a head rolled against my foot." Joel Peter Witkin, a well-known artist who's work is admittedly gruesome but fascinating, experienced the same event after witnessing a car accident. So what makes one person become a serial killer, and another a famous artist? -
link: http://www.trutv.com/library/crime/serial_killers/notorious/tick/events_5.html
There's just no right way to raise a child. Hence why I don't want one.
First published in 1897. I doubt she'd feel bitter, there was an article in the Christmas special edition of NewScientist on this subject a couple of years ago, debating whether it was beneficial or not to advocate the Santa myth. The general conclusion was that it's okay, since most kids when they do find out feel mature and grown-up that they are "in on the secret" too rather than disappointed by Santa's lack of existence.The Virgo said:Well hello, JoJo, we meet again.JoJoDeathunter said:*snip*
Hmmm, that's a pretty interesting quote you have there. Of course, I have to wonder, won't the child feel even more bitter after seeing Santa proven to exist in that quote? Maybe she will, maybe she won't. How long ago was that from?
It's one of those threads that everyone will want to respond to so this guy gets a shiny "OMG YOUR THREAD IS POPULAR" badge.VoidWanderer said:If I didn't know any better, I'd say this is a troll-baited trap.
I was unaware that belief in Santa was the sole criteria for kids to be kids.AhumbleKnight said:Why do we need Santa for kids to be kids. Kids have awesome imaginations and create their own interesting fun games every day. They don't need their parents to lie to them for that to happen.DeadFOAM said:OT: It's harmless fun. The OP is still surly about a little white lie. Can we just move on and let kids be kids?
Wasn't that from the gremlins (been a long time since i saw that but i think it was that).Biodeamon said:I don't think you really need to put the warning up for kids.
escapist won't let anyone in under 13 and by they've pretty found their dead dad in the chimney in a santa outfit by that age. (you can haz a cookie if you get the reference)
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yes, it was from gremlins. here's a cookieD Moness said:Wasn't that from the gremlins (been a long time since i saw that but i think it was that).Biodeamon said:I don't think you really need to put the warning up for kids.
escapist won't let anyone in under 13 and by they've pretty found their dead dad in the chimney in a santa outfit by that age. (you can haz a cookie if you get the reference)
As for santa , each parent their own (if they tell or do not tell the kids) just do not tell me what i should or should not tell my kids (if i had kids)