Relationship Dilemma - FINAL UPDATE. IF YOU POSTED HERE BEFORE, PLEASE VIEW MY LATEST POST

[imp_spittle]

Post-update, I do say you've got yourself into a pickle, my lad.

It really depends on tone and what specifically she has been leaving in these messages. Although, I have to say, my impulse is to tell you she's bad news at this point.

If you want to play it nice, explain how her barrage of messages is freaking you out. See where that goes. But be mindful of every word you use, the tone of your voice, everything. She doesn't strike me as stable at this point, possibly living in a fantasy land of her own creation.

 

[Mromson]

I am pretty sure that I made my point pretty clear.

She.
Is.
An.
Imbecile.


Stay away from imbeciles.

 

[Julianking93]

Snippity snippity snipey

You did tell her you would be out of contact for a while right? if you dropped off the face of the earth without warning people are libel to panic abit, especially in early stages of relationships.
so to clarify are you two offically a couple now?

Yes, I told her I wouldn't get cell phone reception that day.

And no, we aren't a couple.

 

[Aztek463]

Agreed...proceed with extreme caution. If you do decide to break it off go your separate ways, and are really concerned about how she'll react, meet her in a public place and have a friend nearby as backup nearby in the event things turn ugly.

EDITED.

 

[Senial]

You obviously don't want to be with her anymore, or else you wouldn't have posted this. My advice is to try to have fun with the break-up.

 

[nolongerhere]

Ah. If she truly believes she is in love with you after so little time, then you may have a problem [http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/Yandere] walking away from it.

I admit I'm exagerating, but still, she does sound as if she's not all there, and that the bit that isn't there ran away from the crazy that is there. I would suggest letting her down gently, and keeping your doors locked at night.

Jesus Christ, that's the perfect definition of her. I'm in trouble aren't I?

It's highly unlikely that she will see any female friends as competition. [http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/MurderTheHypotenuse] It's even less likely that she'll want to be together forever. [http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/Ptitlev7j92pykrb48] Just do as I said, let her down gently and keep the doors locked. Possibly in another country.

In case you didn't realise, I do love a T.V tropes link. And for actual advice, merely follow the first step of my plan, and if worried, chuck in the second. For even better advice, actually listen to people who know what they're talking about, and are not here to simply dispense with the funny.

 

[Dr Ampersand]

Well you could try talk to her to try her to be a bit more open minded. Not exactly change her beliefs just be a bit more open minded. You have the same hobbies so you could probably do some stuff together but be warned, if you make an excuse she will probably check on it like phone your dad or something. Also you could always learn to love the crazies, I mean who else will shower you with more love and attention than a pet?

 

[Acier]

Now hold on.

What was her tone? Did she sound desperate and crazy? Because if not she just may not know proper texting manners. And also is it normal for you to talk every night? And did you let her know you would be somewhere with no service?

I'm not defending her but I'm just trying to get a grasp of the situation.

 

[Dusquad]

You could always have her move in with you IF you want to date her. If you don't, find some way of making her hate you. I suggest you point out every flaw in her belief's, religion, souffle, and so on.

 

[Nwabudike Morgan]

Smart money says the chatroom they met in is an anime chatroom.

 

[nolongerhere]

Smart money says the chatroom they met in is an anime chatroom.

May I ask what this statement has to do with the price of cheese? If your not going to offer insight, then at least link him to stuff that may freak him out, like I did.

 

[TheMadDoctorsCat]

That's like asking a bunch of suspiciously looking virgins about sex.

Ahem... LIKE asking a bunch of suspiciously-looking virgins...?

Anyway, in my extensive experience of women (and you can probably tell just how extensive when you realise that I'm including myself in the above quote), the "philosophical" questions matter a helluva lot less than the everyday mundane ones. Do you prefer to sleep with the window open, while she likes it shut? Or do both of you hog the bedclothes at night? If so, sorry, that relationship ain't gonna last.

 

[Nwabudike Morgan]

Smart money says the chatroom they met in is an anime chatroom.

May I ask what this statement has to do with the price of cheese? If your not going to offer insight, then at least link him to stuff that may freak him out, like I did.

I appear to have insulted your precious anime.

 

[Lord Mountbatten Reborn]

Could be worse. I pretend to be Pagan to people I don't want to know.

Doesn't that go out the window if they don't care about that? Not everyone thinks Pagans are satanistic ritual-practicing nutjobs you know, just the idiots.

 

[lazy_bum]

Snippity snippity snipey

You did tell her you would be out of contact for a while right? if you dropped off the face of the earth without warning people are libel to panic abit, especially in early stages of relationships.
so to clarify are you two offically a couple now?

Yes, I told her I wouldn't get cell phone reception that day.

And no, we aren't a couple.

Okay then. Now you've said that i am pretty sure i have been out with almost the exact same psychological profile in the past. You seem like a nice person so i take no pleasure in telling you this, but you're in alot of trouble if i've read this right.

any attempts to ignore/blank her will result in her hassling you for more attention.

attempting to make her sick of your by giving her too much attention/pretending to be horribly clingy will just make her love you more.

attempts to be an arsehole to her (or even just telling her its not going to work) will result in her going psychotic, either towards you or herself.

I hope i've read the situation horribly wrong because i know from experiance that you are in a no win situation. Or you can find a way of dealing with the situation i cannot see. I really really feel for you if i'm right though.

 

[Lord Mountbatten Reborn]

, let her down gently and keep the doors locked. Possibly in another country.

In case you didn't realise, I do love a T.V tropes link. And for actual advice, merely follow the first step of my plan, and if worried, chuck in the second. For even better advice, actually listen to people who know what they're talking about, and are not here to simply dispense with the funny.

Ahh TV Tropes: Providing you with all the information you need on life. There's always something else to read about, no matter how much you go through.

I'll be back in several hours.

 

[lazy_bum]

Could be worse. I pretend to be Pagan to people I don't want to know.

Doesn't that go out the window if they don't care about that? Not everyone thinks Pagans are satanistic ritual-practicing nutjobs you know, just the idiots.

Huzzah, there are others out there who know more about pagans that what 2000 years of christian propaganda has been spewing out.

 

[SantoUno]

Sad to say, it may sound like nothing, but you may just have to confess to her that you are uncomfortable with how obssessive she is over you. Seriously, avoiding her will make it worse.

 

[nolongerhere]

Smart money says the chatroom they met in is an anime chatroom.

May I ask what this statement has to do with the price of cheese? If your not going to offer insight, then at least link him to stuff that may freak him out, like I did.

I appear to have insulted your precious anime.

Not at all, I was merely interested into what bearing your previous statement had on the discussion at hand.

 

[nolongerhere]

Could be worse. I pretend to be Pagan to people I don't want to know.

Doesn't that go out the window if they don't care about that? Not everyone thinks Pagans are satanistic ritual-practicing nutjobs you know, just the idiots.

Huzzah, there are others out there who know more about pagans that what 2000 years of christian propaganda has been spewing out.

Heh. I'm sorry, I'm just imagining the guy I met at Escapist UK screaming "HUZZAH!" It's most amusing. You should try it.