WrongSprite said:
Sex isn't even slighty important in a relationship...
Somebody's never been in a healthy relationship, then. Sex isn't just fun, it's also healthy for you. Regular sexual activity is proven to reduce the risk of heart attack and stroke and increase self-confidence. Aside from the physical pleasure, emotionally pleasurable chemicals are also released in the brain during sexual stimulation and orgasm.
If you are sexually active with a partner or partners who get checked and use protection, it is highly unlikely that you will be infected with an STD or HIV and just as unlikely that pregnancy will occur. You just have to be smart. Sex is not some scary, vile, dangerous thing like they teach you in the 8th grade.
To any virgins opposing the OP or myself; how can you possibly have an accurate understanding of something you have never experienced? You are not, I repeat,
not going to meet someone you find suitable to form a relationship with, sleep with and then stay with for the rest of your life. It just doesn't happen like that. Most virgins here are probably pretty young, still in high school or possibly college, and in the time from this moment until the end of your life you are going to meet a
lot of people you find romantically and sexually desirable. You're not going to be with the first one forever.
The "first time" is best gone over as a learning experience. It probably won't be that great. Girls will more than likely get to look forward to a popped cherry, which can be pretty painful as I understand, and guys who are virgins probably won't be able to hold themselves back for very long, so it'll be over quickly. As you become more experienced with sex the experience becomes better and better, just like anything else improves with increasing experience.
A relationship lasting more than a year is serious, and more than three years is long term in my book, but this varies from person to person. The point is that in a year's time, anyone can change very drastically as a person, and that includes either party in a relationship. You don't really know someone until you've known them for years, so I don't know who anyone is kidding when they think they'll have a magical storybook romance fall into their lap and the first person they fall for and make love to will be the only person they have sex with for the rest of their life. It's absolutely childish and ridiculous.
urprobablyright said:
I think the majority of escapists think sex is not important in a relationship because the majority of escapists are unsuccesful on the relationship front (constant gaming - I'm not exaggerating; constant gaming ruins a person's libido and, well, magnetism, for lack of a better word) and therefore turn to excuses like chivalry to explain why they do not pursue women. Before it counted for gamers, it counted for socially inable men of the upper classes, etc.
I think sex is naturally going to be an integral part of all relationships since, as per human nature, sex is the intended end of all non-gene-relative relationships.
This. This. A thousand times this. I know from experience. I was the stereotypical gamer in high school. I didn't pursue girls, even had girls who were interested in me who I probably could have been a typical HS age guy with and slept with them, and learned a lot of things at an earlier age. I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18, which I suppose is a good median age, but most of the people I know lost it much younger than that. I was sheltered and antisocial and had no interest in things that I had convinced myself were "wrong" or "unclean."
