SEX!!!

[The Infamous Scamola]

Did you just say that every person on earth requires sex for a healthy, loving relationship?
You actually believe that? Because you can just decide what is right and wrong, correct?
WRONG.
You dont know that, get over yourself.

No, I'm just saying that sex is just as much an important part of a relationship as love is.
Sex is one of the maximum expression of love between two individuals, and if none of the two parts have desire for each other, then yes, it is doomed to fail.
Either that, or just call it friendship.

 

[Good morning blues]

Sex isn't even slighty important in a relationship...

stupid thing to say
sex improves a relationship as orgasms realease hormones that helps develop attatchement, and its when a person seems most vulnerable. Most relationships get much stronger after sex. Pre-marital is your perogative.

The bonding hormone, Oxytocin, is typically a female-thing. Males release dopamine. The women get attached while the men fall asleep. >.<
Also, it's something of a fallacy that relationships get stronger after sex. There's a strong correlate, however, between the success of a relationship and the amount of time in an abstained relationship prior to having sex. So a couple who are together for 2 years prior to sleeping together, are significantly more likely to stay together than if they sleep together almost immediately.

I'll accept the statistcal validity of this fact, but I'd suggest that people that stay together for 2 years prior to sleeping together are more likely to stay together based upon their investment and sacrifice in the relationship and based upon the same social pressures that prevented them from dancing the horizontal mambo for so long, rather than anything directly related to waiting so long to have sex.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

Of course sex is important in a relationship. I mean, it's kind of a proven thing that Men can't feel loved without having sex.

However, I do not think much of people who frequently engage in casual sex.
They are whores. Pure and simple.

 

[scotth266]

My thoughts:

1)Sex is important in a good romantic relationship
2)Sex is better when shared among people with a more mature relationship (marriage, for example)
3)Sex is not entirely necessary for a good romance, but it helps a ton
4)Sex done casually is not entirely appreciative of the act itself

That is all.

 

[hungoverbear]

You know what a priest told my uncle? He told my uncle that "If the wife or husband doesnt put out then the marriage is doomed to fail". So yes sex is important and needed in a relationship. Warning here comes some incredibly brutal honesty: I think its pretty clear that those on here that say sex is not important or needed in a relation ship are either virgins (nothing wrong with that) or the only sex they had was incredibly ackward. So goes the old saying "dont knock it until you've tried it".

One night stands on the other hand should be frowned upon. Its pretty trashy and leaves an empty feeling in you like you wouldnt believe. Thats why i gave up one night stands. Nothing worse than waking up with the biggest feeling of guilt you've ever had. (that was my 7th one night stand btw, no idea why i felt guilty but holy shit i did)

Lastly sex in a premarital couple. I am for and against in certain circumstances. If your still in high school and think your ready to have sex HELL NO!! Serously dont just fucking dont! but if your older than 18 then i guess.

 

[TheRightToArmBears]

As some wise person said in Danthebard's thread "What if you love sex?"

I don't think that a relationship without sex is doomed to fail at all. However, sex is not a bad thing. Sex outside marriage is fine, so long as you love your partner. And I deinately dislike the idea of having more than one sexual partner.

To be honest, if you're not gunning for a kid use a condom and a pill. Other than that you can screw yourself to peices and I don't give a flying turd.

 

[Nivag the Owl]

Sex is totally important in a relationship. Some people are saying a stronger romantic bond can be formed without it but seriously, nothing brings partners closer together than sex.

 

[hungoverbear]

Sex isn't even slighty important in a relationship...

Agreed with this smart person.

i think you two should start dating

EDIT: not each other!

 

[DrunkenKitty]

I think young people say things like "sex isn't important" in an effort to seem mature and morally evolved and unaffected by the shallow mainstream media.

Sex isn't important if you wanna smile at each other and drink juice and go to church together.

The real truth is romantic relationships fall apart without good sex. It's not the only thing you need to make a relationship work, but it is one of them.

 

[Wait...What]

Sex is totally important in a relationship. Some people are saying a stronger romantic bond can be formed without it but seriously, nothing brings partners closer together than sex.

This, im just not as articulate as you

 

[razer17]

sex is good for people in several ways. nothing dirty about it. and a relationship without sex is basically (edit- this is an over simplification) just friendship, so sex is important to relationships.
and a relationship just based on sex can last, because that type of relationship is called being "fuck buddies", i have seen it work, as a stop-gap between actual romantic relationships.
although i dont agree with one night stands and such. sleeping with different people every other day is weird. especially because you can't figure out what your partner likes, which is very important, i find.
and sex releases dopamine, i.e increases happiness, and burns calories, and generally makes you feel good and appreciated, therefore sex = good.

 

[razer17]

Either that, or just call it friendship.

damn it, i was ninja'd.
but still i agree, it is an important part of relationships.

 

[DragunovHUN]

I don't know where I'm going with this, I just wanted to know why here sex seems to be mostly looked down upon as something "dirty" and "unpure",

You totally miss the point. No it's not that sex is wrong in any way, it's just that it's something that can be done with anyone (or even alone) so it has no significance in a serious relationship. When someone says love is more important than sex it doesn't mean they don't do it. One does not exclude the other.

 

[Erana]

Well, I really don't understand why people care about it so much, or even want to have it, for that matter. It is disgusting, in actuality. I mean, all the bodily fluids, disease, and proximity to the anus 'n what not...
I'm stayin' a virgin until I find a lifelong mate who can make that sound appealing. (among other qualities of course.)

Let's see:
It feels great/second only to hard drugs
It is intimate.
Surely if you loved someone you'd want to be intimate?
No offence, but saying it's disgusting is more telling of your age than any actual truth of the matter.

No, you cannot deny that sex is disgusting. The only thing is, you have hormones that tell you to ignore that fact and enjoy it anyway. I don't take kindly to ageism, and considering your reasons for why sex is good, I stand by the idea that maturity is more important than age.

 

[cleverlymadeup]

Sex isn't even slighty important in a relationship...

Agreed with this smart person.

well no sex in a relationship is called a friendship

I....I can't explain the amount of wrongs in that sentence.

actually there's nothing wrong with it, glad that ONLY thing you can come up with to derail me is a personal attack, what does that say about you and the truth behind my reasoning

 

[Acid Armageddon]

Sex isn't even slighty important in a relationship...

Actually it IS. In a relationship, you talk, show feelings, etc. but I can do that IN A FRIENDSHIP. The PHYSICAL part is what makes it a RELATIONSHIP.

 

[Deathsong17]

Sex isn't even slighty important in a relationship...

Unless they want kids of course.

 

[garfoldsomeoneelse]

SEX IS THAT ALL-CAPS THING YOU DO WITH SOMEONE WHEN YOU WANT THEM TO FEEL THE SAME HAPPINESS THAT THEY GIVE TO YOU.

Words can only express love to a limited extent. I still write poetry and odes and what-have-you (inb4 "LOL UR GAY"), but the bottom line is that a rip-roaring orgasm is going to make your lover feel better than listening to a semi-sincere Homer-esque epic about how you'd tear the heads from a hydra to protect her, no matter how nerdy she is.

To me, that's really all it is; sex is the concentrated, physical embodiment of the world's greatest love song.

Also, virgins need to stop presenting their baseless opinions as fact; it's like writing a serious review about a game you have no intention of ever playing, you pretentious gits.

 

[Cowabungaa]

Did you just say that every person on earth requires sex for a healthy, loving relationship?
You actually believe that? Because you can just decide what is right and wrong, correct?
WRONG.
You dont know that, get over yourself.

No, I'm just saying that sex is just as much an important part of a relationship as love is.
Sex is one of the maximum expression of love between two individuals, and if none of the two parts have desire for each other, then yes, it is doomed to fail.
Either that, or just call it friendship.

It's quite simple: people are different, therefor, what sex means to them in a relationship differs from person to person. I don't like casual sex, or sex for fun. I also don't want to haxe sex immidiatly if I would get a relationship, it's something that takes time. Marriage has nothing to do with it for me (it's just a ritual, a nice one, but a ritual nonetheless) but time does. It probably means something completely different for some of my friends, or most people here. And that's fine, lets not judge others for what sex means to them. If no one's harmed, and everyone's concenting, what's the big deal? On it's most basic level it's just a bodily function anyway, the rest is up to us to decide. Opinions aren't facts. Sex can mean a lot, sex can mean nothing, sex can mean wierd things, it's different.
PS: Yes I'm still a virgin, partially by choice, partially because I haven't found a suitable relationship yet.