Sexual Relationships

[CargoHold]

Once you find someone that you love, you feel a sense of ownership, for lack of a better word. There's no way I'd be able to function if my significant other slept around- I'd feel that with every other sexual partner, they'd become less 'mine.'

Open relationships also create the idea that you aren't enough of a man/woman to satisfy your partner on your own. Complex much? If it genuinely goes both ways, it sounds like both partners are more focused on sex than love/intimacy, and therefore should probably just stay swingin' singles anyway.

Sex with intimacy is far more fulfilling in the long run than a one night stand. Like someone up there said, if your partner isnt comfortable with 'spicing things up,' you aren't sexually compatible and should review your relationship.

 

[dantheman931]

And what happens if you get a girl pregnant and she decides to keep it? You can't force her to have an abortion;

I think that's a massive inequality of the whole topic. Girls can decide if they are ready to be a parent, yet for boys there's no choice its just "Suck it up" if she decides to keep it.

But there is a choice for guys: If you're not ready to accept the consequences, don't have sex. It's the same choice for women, except that biology saw fit to give them a bit more leverage in this instance. Fair or not, until medical science finds away to allow men to bear children, there's nothing you can do to change it.

 

[Mark067]

ITT: Pretty much everything I find contemptible about your race.

If you'll excuse me, I have to sit my high horse and contemplate how much better than you I am - an activity, incidentally, that I find far preferable to spending time in the presence of your kind.

You're not one of us huh?
Well then, the people here are talking about people matters, if you're not one of our species then piss off and hang out with your own, you detached arrogant alienating waste of space scum.

 

[DP155ToneZone]

And what happens if you get a girl pregnant and she decides to keep it? You can't force her to have an abortion;

I think that's a massive inequality of the whole topic. Girls can decide if they are ready to be a parent, yet for boys there's no choice its just "Suck it up" if she decides to keep it.

But there is a choice for guys: If you're not ready to accept the consequences, don't have sex. It's the same choice for women, except that biology saw fit to give them a bit more leverage in this instance. Fair or not, until medical science finds away to allow men to bear children, there's nothing you can do to change it.

I guess you're right. Kinda sad though.

 

[dantheman931]

And what happens if you get a girl pregnant and she decides to keep it? You can't force her to have an abortion;

I think that's a massive inequality of the whole topic. Girls can decide if they are ready to be a parent, yet for boys there's no choice its just "Suck it up" if she decides to keep it.

But there is a choice for guys: If you're not ready to accept the consequences, don't have sex. It's the same choice for women, except that biology saw fit to give them a bit more leverage in this instance. Fair or not, until medical science finds away to allow men to bear children, there's nothing you can do to change it.

I guess you're right. Kinda sad though.

Damn straight I'm right. ;-)

But think about it this way: How bad would it suck for women if men had the legal right to force them to get abortions? I can pretty much guarantee that the only men who took advantage of such a law would be the kind of abusive fuckwads who would just do it for the lulz. Or they'd do it to prove they could, and to hell with what their wives/girlfriends want. The point is, I think (hope) you'll agree we're still better off the way things are now.

 

[DP155ToneZone]

And what happens if you get a girl pregnant and she decides to keep it? You can't force her to have an abortion;

I think that's a massive inequality of the whole topic. Girls can decide if they are ready to be a parent, yet for boys there's no choice its just "Suck it up" if she decides to keep it.

But there is a choice for guys: If you're not ready to accept the consequences, don't have sex. It's the same choice for women, except that biology saw fit to give them a bit more leverage in this instance. Fair or not, until medical science finds away to allow men to bear children, there's nothing you can do to change it.

I guess you're right. Kinda sad though.

Damn straight I'm right. ;-)

But think about it this way: How bad would it suck for women if men had the legal right to force them to get abortions? I can pretty much guarantee that the only men who took advantage of such a law would be the kind of abusive fuckwads who would just do it for the lulz. Or they'd do it to prove they could, and to hell with what their wives/girlfriends want. The point is, I think (hope) you'll agree we're still better off the way things are now.

If only there was some sort of internal contraceptive whereby people only become pregnant when the parents WANT it and WANT to be good parents. But that's fantasy poppycock.

 

[Thaius]

No offense, but this is what I think is a problem with modern culture: sex is nothing more than entertainment to us.

Way I see it, sex is supposed to be something enjoyed by two people in a committed, loving relationship. If only people actually did this, a lot of problems would be avoided, and in this case, you wouldn't need to worry about never seeing yourself with only one person because that person would be the only one you would care to have sex with.

I disagree, sex came before love, or "relationships", at least how we know them. It the most naturally thing in the world, humans are made to want sex, it's ingrained into us, and so lots of people can't help but have sex while not dating, or some such.

Love and relationships have nothing to do with sex, sex is procreation and entertainment, a relationship is wanting to spend your time with someone else, I don't see how those two are really that similar.

Bolding was added for emphasis.

So, going off of your worldview, it would seem that humans have not evolved nearly to the extent that we seem to believe. Being unable to control instincts? Makes people sound more like a dog or something than a sentient, self-controlled human being.

Procreation also involves the responsibility of raising the child afterward. If the real purpose of sex is simply procreation, then would that not also involve staying together to raise the resulting child? Sex is only used for entertainment when birth control is used (thus negating the argument of procreation) or when a couple is already planning on having a kid (thus also planning to be together and raise the child), and the commitment of spending a lifetime with someone is a love commitment, not a sexual one.

Sex serves its biological purpose regardless of love, but not its societal one. Besides, affection for someone eventually leads to sexual activity with them: that seems like a pretty obvious connection between the two.

Though I see it all from a perspective that actually involves purpose and reason in life rather than believing that we exist solely to continue our existence, so I have reasons besides the ones I just mentioned to see it the way I do.

 

[dantheman931]

And what happens if you get a girl pregnant and she decides to keep it? You can't force her to have an abortion;

I think that's a massive inequality of the whole topic. Girls can decide if they are ready to be a parent, yet for boys there's no choice its just "Suck it up" if she decides to keep it.

But there is a choice for guys: If you're not ready to accept the consequences, don't have sex. It's the same choice for women, except that biology saw fit to give them a bit more leverage in this instance. Fair or not, until medical science finds away to allow men to bear children, there's nothing you can do to change it.

I guess you're right. Kinda sad though.

Damn straight I'm right. ;-)

But think about it this way: How bad would it suck for women if men had the legal right to force them to get abortions? I can pretty much guarantee that the only men who took advantage of such a law would be the kind of abusive fuckwads who would just do it for the lulz. Or they'd do it to prove they could, and to hell with what their wives/girlfriends want. The point is, I think (hope) you'll agree we're still better off the way things are now.

If only there was some sort of internal contraceptive whereby people only become pregnant when the parents WANT it and WANT to be good parents. But that's fantasy poppycock.

My brother once knew a guy who used condoms religiously, plus his wife was on the pill, and she still got pregnant. In other words, it's perfectly possible to take every precaution and still fail. Bottom line: The only way to be sure is to keep it in your shorts.

 

[Nomad]

sex with the one person often gets dull. (yes there are ways to 'spice things up', but most times you'll either be with a prude or find it too offensive or strange to ask)

I think the root of your thesis is that you haven't really had the right sort of relationship. If you're together with someone you're really compatible with, it won't get dull. Rather, it will get better as time goes by as you get to know eachother's preferences. And if you're really close with eachother, then there really won't be a limit for how weird the stuff you talk about can be. Because it'll be natural to share one's thoughts with the other. I know it sounds cheesy, but that's the best way I can describe it at least.

I can see where you're coming from, and I will admit to being of similar opinion a few years ago. But once you click with someone, and then spend a lot of time with that person, you're going to know eachother so well it feels like you're physical parts of eachother. And I really can't see how having sex with someone you just met and has no idea who you are could be better than having sex with someone who knows you as well as they know themselves... Because that reflects the events in the bedroom, since they know exactly how you like things - just as well as you know it yourself.

And there's (semi-)scientific evidence, too! Surveys have shown that the longer a couple has been together, the better they say their sex-life is (anonymously, mind you, so it's not because their significant other might take offense otherwise). Singles have actually consistently been shown to have the least satisfactory sex-lives, while the peak is after having been together for about 30 years, if I remember correctly. The whole thing that says people in committed relationships have poor sex-lives is largely a myth.

 

[Timotei]

You insist every sexual relationship goes stale.

Mine has been going on for a while now and it shows no signs of slowing down. Sure pressure from school and a whole bunch of other things have made it less frequent, but that doesn't mean we're getting bored or anything.

I'm still on the ball over the openness of our relationship. For the moment, it will just remain me and Michel.

 

[teisjm]

I think the firts few times with a new partner is kidna awkward, that plus i wouldn't trust a one night stand enough to not use a condom, cause if she's willing to trust that I don't have any VD's just cause i say it, she might have just taken the last guys word for it as well, and he may have lied.
my GF is on the pills, and i trust her, so thats not a problem. and sex withouit a condom is just a lot better, sorry safety adds, but thats what i think.

Knowing each other sexually also makes a huge difference, so if i was to sleep with someone else, it would prolly be nowhere near as good as it is with my girlfriend.

I don't belive in "the one" (not talking bout Neo) either, but i belive in "one at a time" (unless ofc my girlfriend wanted a 3some, it would be different if we we're both participating.

I don't think i would be able to cope an open relationship witha girl i liked/loved, then it would have to be a bed-buddie kinda relationship based solely on sex in the first place.

And as for the hooker... I would feel like i've hit a new low if i ever paid for sex. thats mroe pityfull than a pity-fuck, which is bad enough, IMO.
I think hookers have every right to do what they want with their bodies, and hey, if i was single and some woman offered me money for sex i would prolly do it as well, but i would NEVER pay someone for sex, i would feel totally pathetic if i did so.

 

[Canadamus Prime]

I think what you're suggesting is for people whose intellect can be measured with one of those stir spoons from McDonalds.

 

[Caligulove]

I think monogamy is right for some people. Some people can be alright (and I'm sure have) been ok with having sex with one person for the rest of their life, or that person being the only one they have had sex with.

Other people have a lot of trouble with that. It fits with a feeling of being young and feeling great with your sexuality and freely exploring it in many ways and with many people.

At the same time, relationships are for the emotional and bonding that comes from it all. One night stands or short relationships are good for the physical part of it. But I do think that people need someone close to confide in their feelings or their workings on a day-to-day basis. That being said- for some people friends can fill that niche fine and they can go on being essentially single through life.

But as for me... like EVERYONE (dont lie) I love having sex. So that means if I am in a relationship and committed, yes I am just with them sexually. But when I am single... that is different.

The one thing that I do know is that in marriage, I do not care what your opinion is, there needs to be Sex. a constant flow of sex (amusing image) through it. Whether that means that you have to force yourself to spice things up and enjoy sex again after being with someone for years- its key to KEEPING that relationship. At least that's my opinion

And I will work that into my GODDAMN marriage vows! In the most tasteful manner as possible. When I want to get married- that is probably my only ground rule. Is that there is none of this No Sex After Marriage bullshit. I will not have it. And if you can't do that... than no marriage. I am absolutely serious about that. Not like an every day or week kind of deal. But there has to be a sexual attraction maintained between the two in a couple. It is less for my needs but for the needs of keeping things sane and well

 

[Kimjira19]

if you think that sex with one person gets boring, maybe it's because your not as great of a lay as you think you are. as for spicing stuff up and there being issues with it, maybe it's the people you are having sex with or it's you that's the problem.

I have to agree. Although I have never had sex... But still there should be an open dialogue between you and your lover. One that includes discussion of sexual experimentation. I have a friend in an open relationship with his significant other and it seems to work fine for them. But personally I am more inclined to be monogamous.

 

[Inverse Skies]

I'd feel waaaaaaaaayyyy to guilty to ever sleep with someone outside of my own relationship. I remember with the ex, it didn't matter how bad the relationship was, I couldn't contemplate the idea of cheating. It seems wrong somehow. So no basically, I wouldn't be looking to do anything along those lines at all.

 

[BaldursBananaSoap]

Sex gets boring? You know what to do, and you're good at it ... right?

 

[Raven's Nest]

I'm going to put this in short understandable terms, and a colored word if you get the referance; it's fun and it serves a pourpose.

yes a pourpose

Spoiler

it does serve. I'm sorry i had to. OT: relationships are fun and fill a certain void we all feel in our lives at one time or another.

You mean a porpoise?

Spoiler

Because Sonic's riding a bottlenose dolphin in your picture...

[small]Sorry... I had to as well...[/small]

 

[similar.squirrel]

It's difficult to ponder this as a virgin. But I've never felt compelled to be 'disloyal' to a girl I've actually liked in any other matters.

 

[ottenni]

but sex with the one person often gets dull.

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I think you are having sex with the wrong people then. After time it just gets better as you learn what 'works'. Otherwise its really bland and allot more awkward as with someone you know so well that you know what they like etc etc.