Should I file a sexual harassment claim?
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You're a man, you have no chance of succeeding with this. As far as the world is concerned, men can't be sexually harassed. Seriously, this would do far more damage to you than it could help (even if it DID succeed, which it won't). There's a very high chance she'll say you were sexually harassing her, and get you fired. Seriously, watch Disclosure [http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Disclosure_(film)] , you're fucked.
That...that's sexual harassment? Really? Wow, your laws are interesting.
Talk to her at first at least. Or avoid her. Honestly, filing a claim seems a bit much for me. Then again living in a different country might as well mean different planet considering the huge legal differences.
Talk to her at first at least. Or avoid her. Honestly, filing a claim seems a bit much for me. Then again living in a different country might as well mean different planet considering the huge legal differences.
Your choice of wording is odd. You "choose" to be offended and violated?
That and this gives me the feeling that you are attempting some witty satire about how women in the workplace are all far too over-sensitive and willing to sue at the drop of a hat.Brawndo said:
LISTEN, why should I have to confront her and talk about it first? It's not fair that I get put in such a embarrassing and awkward situation, because I have done nothing wrong.
I mean, a family friend in his 60s was fired from his six-figure job for patting a female male clerk on the thigh, and she never asked him to stop. Why should I, as a male, have to act differently?
I mean, a family friend in his 60s was fired from his six-figure job for patting a female male clerk on the thigh, and she never asked him to stop. Why should I, as a male, have to act differently?
Not to sound like a prick or anything...but why is this a problem? It looks like innocent flirting to me. Flirting is an amazing and fun way to interact with people. At least that's what I think. I'd flirt back and just have fun with it.
Although I would never touch her back or do anything like that. Flirting is strictly oral for me.
Although I would never touch her back or do anything like that. Flirting is strictly oral for me.
First things first, drop the indignation.. this is a serious thing, and there's no room for you to act out of vindictive principle because you may well dump yourself in a world of trouble.Brawndo said:
Patting a female clerk of the thigh is unequivocally a sexual act. In this case, she could very easily dispute that the act was sexual if called to explain it, or even say that you've been flirting with her and are now being vindictive because of some breakdown in communication between you, and due to her history and the fact that she is a woman it is highly possible that they will believe her over you.
A close (female) friend of mine filed a sexual harassment case against a colleague (who repeatedly groped her crotch) and they believed him because they decided he would 'never do anything like that' and because he said they had had a consensual sexual relationship. Your chances are not as good as you seem to think. So much of it comes down to assessments of a person's character, and I find it very hard to believe they will fire this woman over your claim.
As I said, I wish you luck if you want to do it but if you genuinely because you genuinely believe you have been sexually harassed, not because you 'choose' to believe that or want to get some kind of 'revenge' for your friend.
You're really that uncomfortable with it? Are you in a relationship/married and is she crossing that line? Does she know you're married? Does she know you're that uncomfortable?
People flirt. It happens all the time. Take a little pride in the fact that a girl finds you attractive. But if you're really, REALLY that uncomfortable with it, ask her to stop. Explain that you don't feel that flirting in the work place is appropriate, and just explain, kindly, that you aren't interested.
Filing sexual harassment against her is such a disgusting waste of your time, her time, and the court's time, considering it's just a crush. Come on, dude.
Now, if it persists, that's when you be more stern with her and explain that you want her to stop outright. If she persists after that, or does something especially insane, THEN file for sexual harassment. That should be saved for extreme cases.
EDIT: Oh, I get it now. You're trolling or trying to make a point.
You're not really good at it.
People flirt. It happens all the time. Take a little pride in the fact that a girl finds you attractive. But if you're really, REALLY that uncomfortable with it, ask her to stop. Explain that you don't feel that flirting in the work place is appropriate, and just explain, kindly, that you aren't interested.
Filing sexual harassment against her is such a disgusting waste of your time, her time, and the court's time, considering it's just a crush. Come on, dude.
Now, if it persists, that's when you be more stern with her and explain that you want her to stop outright. If she persists after that, or does something especially insane, THEN file for sexual harassment. That should be saved for extreme cases.
EDIT: Oh, I get it now. You're trolling or trying to make a point.
You're not really good at it.
Oh for the love ofBrawndo said:
Take that chip off your shoulder and stop playing the poor male card. If the topic was to whine about your family friend then why avoid it in the original post. What is the point of this topic? Because it's certainly NOT asking advice about what you should do in the situation, you have no intention of "LISTEN"ing to anyone here.
I don't know if this is a troll thread or not, but you're certainly trying to annoy people.
You will need to have documents proof of her behavior and your insistance that she stop this behavior.
That or just view this as an oportunity to nab some old strange.
Edit: Note that you are also against a double standard and without proof your claim will be laughed away. Remember we live in a world of equal oportuninty coverd in in-equal treatment.
That or just view this as an oportunity to nab some old strange.
Edit: Note that you are also against a double standard and without proof your claim will be laughed away. Remember we live in a world of equal oportuninty coverd in in-equal treatment.
Doesn't sound like she's really doing anything that bad - and, if she's fit, then err... take advantage of the situation.
If you find it that unbearable then just tell her to stop or distance yourself from her, or talk to someone else above her about it.
If you find it that unbearable then just tell her to stop or distance yourself from her, or talk to someone else above her about it.
You might want to, as has been said, mention to her that it's making you uncomfortable. She may be continuing because she thinks you don't mind.