We sexualize women too much as it is, but if we are, it would be more refreshing to give fat women some more love.
LilithSlave said:
Like that makes things any better at all. In fact maybe it makes things worse.
What about all the poor fat fetishists? Oh no, instead, a sexist norm must be catered to.
I can't tell if you're joking or not. I'll assume that you are and address your other arguments as I normally would.
Yes, it is. Being against large breasts are jiggling breasts wouldn't be anything of any point but being against breasts. There's nothing sexist about chest fat.
On the other hand, most media, far oversexualizes men. Judging women by one narrow aesthetic definition of beauty. While men, on the other hand, are more often judged by things like their merit, or how "badass" they look.
If you look at fighting games, men don't have to deal with this crap. Men aren't made into sex objects like the women. And while it doesn't mean we shouldn't ever sexualize women ever, this disparity and tendency is sexist and wrong.
I knew this would come up.
Copy+pasting a rant I wrote on the Extra Credits forums because I think it applies here very well:
See, this is another problem I have with this type of internet discourse: the use of the word "objectify" to mean not "defining a character by their sexuality" but merely "portraying a character as sexual". Writing a female character as an actual 'sexual object' with no personality beyond that and with no critical intent is a *very* questionable thing and to use that word just for people giving their female characters sexy outfits is counter-productive and severely cheapens the true negative connotations of the word.
Just for the record, I'm not denying that the games industry, the comic book industry and, hell... MOST media targeted at nerds might have issues with portraying female characters because they very blatantly
do, but there are clear reasons behind it beyond just video game players being socially awkward or something - it's much, much larger than that and extends way beyond nerdy media. It's a *huge* societal issue and it can't be dealt with by just thinking "people are sexist, let's make sure to call them out on tiny things they do in everyday life and hope things will get better". Personally, I believe that the prevalence of female "fanservice" and skin-showing is a result of two obvious facts:
1. Media like video games are mainly about escapism and entertainment, and we as a species really like looking at attractive people. We also get a superiority trip from dominating morally reprehensible people and putting them in their place. That is why a mix of unrealistically idealized protagonists beating up realistically morally reprehensible thugs will provide some of the best escapist entertainment out there for many, many people. "Cool" male characters are still designed in a way that will make them traditionally attractive to women, both so female fans will be attracted to them and so that male ones will project themselves over them and feel empowered. But of course, gaming outside of specific genres is a mostly male-populated field, so female characters are more likely to be blatantly portrayed as being intentionally attractive to the audience. This is when you'll probably think... "but male characters don't commonly wear skimpy clothing! Even in media designed specifically for women they're idealized in a way that's COMPLETELY different from women! You don't see the camera focusing on Edward Cullen's ass in Twilight!" and this is what brings me to my second and perhaps most important point...
2.
Society's most commonly accepted standards of what is sexually attractive in men and women differ very greatly. Women tend to have completely different arousal patterns, both due to our brain's inherent hard-wiring and ESPECIALLY because of societal prejudice. Men are socially conditioned to have a certain kind of sexualization, feminine sexualization, push their buttons. Wearing skimpy clothes and showing off your body in a very specific way is considered an inherently feminine way of showcasing your sexuality - that's why men doing the same will prompt people to scream "HAHA HOW GAY" even if there's no trace of LITERAL homosexuality beyond the act. Or, for a game-related example, why this image is considered revolting by many a male gamer:
I'm sure that at least one of you was a bit bothered by my mere posting of this image if only on a subconscious level.
EVERYONE is fed these ideas of attractiveness from birth, and I do mean everyone. Why do you think far more women admit to being sexually attracted to members of their own gender than guys do? [http://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/2011/10/20/study-more-than-half-of-women-attracted-to-other-women_n_1021730.html] Yeah, it is perhaps in part something that can be explained away using evolutionary psychology, not to mention the obvious fact that same-sex attraction towards women is more socially acceptable than same-sex attraction towards men. But I also believe that there's a massive societal reason for it, including the fact that women are bombarded with sexual imagery of other women from birth. The covers of men's "how to be an alpha man and get women

" magazines and women's "how to be glamorous and attract men

" magazines aren't actually different at all - both tend to give the reader a female to gaze sexually at. Men are portrayed as "hot" in a different way which is mostly a mix of just being physically attractive (though not necessarily showing off much skin) while having a certain set of attitudes and interests ("manly" ones). This type of "slutty" sexualization is simply not associated with male attractiveness by most of society - I mean, even gay male culture has some groups that look down on it and stress manliness.
Male and female sexual attractiveness are showcased in completely different ways in modern society, and this is
particularly obvious in the simple, escapist word of videogames that tends to strip away attempts at elegance and maturity and attempts to exploit our most primal urges like no other medium. And really, I'm not even sure if this is necessarily even a bad thing.