So eh, what are the "modern ways" to get women these days?

[SadakoMoose]

Well, I usually find a woman I might like and ask her questions.
If I find out I might not want to be more than a friendly acquaintance, I stop.
Otherwise, I keep asking questions and get closer.

But since I do BDSM meet ups and D/S events, that's where I meet my "friends".
Share the love!

 

[HerrBobo]

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Be. Your. Self.

If they don't dig it, move on.

Its the same as it has always been.

No tricks, or secrets.

Sooner you get that into your head the sooner you score.

 

[AngelBlackChaos]

Arrogance is confidence with balls wearing a leather jacket whilst carrying a switchblade sir.

Nah, Arrogance is the cousin of confidence, the one who's painfully white but still wears his hat sideways, his pants around his knees, and knots up his fingers in painful shapes that he secretly hopes look like gang-signs.

This I like.
Most women, myself included,do not care for arrogance. Most are rather patient too. Try this: Instead of "Modern Ways to Get Women" think about being friends with some. Yes, being anti-social will make that difficult, but in order to see what you want from a woman, being around at least a couple of them on a friendly basis might show you things you want from them besides procreation. And if you don't want a woman that gives conversation, or wants to talk at least once in a while, you might be in for some difficulty.

 

[stutheninja]

my advice is to take it slow at first, you've been out of the game for seven years man, anyway you look at it thats a long ass time. what i think really works is just putting yourself out there alittle bit, get rejected, then you'll get your groove back dude. im sure once you get your confidence up alittle bit you'll be fine, seems kinda like you have an older sense of humor about you, chicks these days dont get that much, so you'll instsantly have something appealing about you that stands out from the pack. good luck

 

[ScarlettRage]

Don't be sexist and tell us to make you sandwiches, Don't treat us like dirt, Spend time with us, and have a damn sense of humour.

if you want to break us from the pack, just walk straight up to us, we love confidence.

....But this might just be me.

 

[onewheeled]

Easy: Break out the guns. You'll never be let down. Right?

...Right?

 

[Scars Unseen]

Same way as always. Beat them on the head with a club and drag them back to your cave.

Okay, well maybe not exactly the same, but I'm pretty sure that clubs are involved at some point.

 

[Shoggoth2588]

Well I normally start by following them home whilst smelling a strand of their hair lost from a week before, then when their sleeping I write "I see you " all over their walls.

It definitely gets their attention...

What?

I don't have the patients for that. I prefer the chlorophorm-N-rope method.

in all seriousness: I'm in a serious relationship which started as long distance. I met her through a vampire-freaks wanna-be site and we've been together for 3 and a half years. So, try social networking I guess.

 

[Thaluikhain]

Contrary to popular belief, we women aren't some bizarre alien lifeform. Do you have friends, OP? I would assume so. And how did you make those friends? Probably by going up and having a conversation with them. So, simply put, do the same with any potential date. Talk to her.

Thanks, I've not had a good chance to say "/thread" for ages.

 

[TheTejs]

1. less misanthropic (I mean, come on)
2. more confidence
3. start at some club or organisation where you HAVE to talk to people, force yourself to talk to people.

I started at a political organisation about 4 years ago, and my confidence is boostet way up and i'm much more social than i used to be.

And I have a girlfriend and one ex-girlfriend. and I had something going on with some other girls at other points of time (of course), and this was only through the course when i started doing politics, before that i couldn't even get close to have something going on.

And seriously, cut the misanthropic stuff out, it's not doing any good and it's NOT CONSTRUCTIVE.
And it's dumb, too.

 

[RamirezDoEverything]

You know, I gotta be honest. The more and more society, human civilization, and the rest of the world go on...the worse things get. I accepted the fact that we're going backwards as a society, are becoming less and less intimate, caring, and overall human as a species and as a race. The 1990's attitude towards the open nature of sexuality, the less courtship and traditional aspects involved...we've devolved into a bunch of whores who believe their sole purpose is to spread their genetic material. It sickens me.

With that being said, the dating scale has tipped so drastically and in a direction that "some people", myself namely, just don't fucking know what to do anymore. It's been...roughly the span of about seven years since I have last dated. This could be the offset of several key indicators and the knowledge that I am either ridiculously judgemental of other human beings, or in the end, am just a very unorthodox, authoritarian minded individual with an outsider's perspective on a multitude of issues and problems.

Now, before we all jump on the bandwagon and feed each other a bunch of meaningless drivel, overstated facts, and exaggerations of the "alpha male" stereotype to "win and fuck the *****", allow me to just simply state that...I really don't even know what the hell I want. I refuse to go through with the embarrassment stage of life again, don't know the damned script to it all, and am quite possibly one of the most vehement, vindictive, wrathful fucking people on the face of the earth because of how things have gone sour for me in the past with this. Let me just say I was in the military, it was a bad time...and oh dear God did things not end well.

Now, just a few basic facts about myself:

- Basic, thin, runner's build.
- Not a 10 out of 10, not a 6 out of 10 either.
- I am not one who gives a shit about getting deeply involved with another until I feel they are of merit and worth.
- My basic problem is "talking" to people. I just...can't fucking stand people.
- The last part comes with a very simple flaw: Those I seemingly wish to date or have an interest in dating (upon physical appearance, minut interaction at a cash register generally) seem to be the one's which are "out of my league" in the sense that they mentally view as someone of a lower standing...however I have the mental, insightful, deep, and otherwise "intellectual" skillset, plus that "dark, brooding" outsider appearance. No. Not the threatening type. More along the lines of just...being a bit closed off to people.
- In the end, my entire opinions and worldviews are shaped by the hellish, grueling, empirical experiences I have had.

Now. Without changing a single thing about myself or my social nature, and just "adding" a few things...tell me videogame nerds of the internet, what the hell should a nearly 26 year old virgin do? I am very open to comments, criticisms, judgements...but let's be CONSTRUCTIVE about it. That is my one condition.

Go ahead.
Ready, aim, fire.

You're like me.. in ten years... It's eerie.

Runner, hate people, can't figure out hot to get women.

From what I've seen, be an asshole... that seems to work.

 

[DracoSuave]

Buddy. No one here has the courage to say this, but I will.

Women don't want to date you because you're an abusive misogynistic prick. When they were seven years younger, they didn't understand or see the signs... so they'd put up with your shit. Women in their late 20s, early 30s... they've grown up. They've dated pricks. They've lived with pricks. They've had long and horrible relationships with pricks. And they see you, and the first thing they're going to think is... 'Oh fuck. Another bitter, self-absorbed, judgemental prick.'

Your opening paragraph isn't describing your problem of feeling lonely... it's blaming society for it. It's not society's fault you immediately think that everyone is whoring around. Who the fuck wants to date anyone who's willing to date them, and then thinks they're a whore for saying yes?

You need a modicum of empathy.

With that being said, the dating scale has tipped so drastically and in a direction that "some people", myself namely, just don't fucking know what to do anymore.

Grow the fuck up. That's what you do. The problem isn't that 'things changed.' It's that you didn't bother to learn fuck all.

It's been...roughly the span of about seven years since I have last dated. This could be the offset of several key indicators and the knowledge that I am either ridiculously judgemental of other human beings, or in the end, am just a very unorthodox, authoritarian minded individual with an outsider's perspective on a multitude of issues and problems.

Your outsider's perspective is like watching a building with blacked out windows trying to tell others what he thinks is going on inside. You are clueless.

I really don't even know what the hell I want. I refuse to go through with the embarrassment stage of life again, don't know the damned script to it all, and am quite possibly one of the most vehement, vindictive, wrathful fucking people on the face of the earth because of how things have gone sour for me in the past with this.

Seek therapy. You're not even comfortable with yourself, and you have the potential to take this clear self-abuse you're imposing on yourself... and turning it on to your woman. That's not good, mate. Smart women... women who respect themselves... women you CLAIM to want to be with... can see through this shit and avoid it because they give a shit about themselves. They KNOW you'll hurt them and in a very bad way.

Seek. Help.

 

[barbzilla]

Don't be sexist and tell us to make you sandwiches, Don't treat us like dirt, Spend time with us, and have a damn sense of humour.

if you want to break us from the pack, just walk straight up to us, we love confidence.

....But this might just be me.

This

OT: You may have confidence in some aspects of life, but you don't seem to have any social confidence. You may want to work on just making some female friends for now and work on how abrasive you are. Try to remember that the female half of our species is still our species. As mystical as they may seem, they have the same basic needs that you do.

 

[MzRie]

People cannot read other people's thoughts, and while being a well-adjusted person requires reading social cues and having some manner of understanding that different people are in fact different, humans have a tendency to project ourselves onto others. This is the reason why, for example, dictators who gained power through coups tend to become paranoid about security as their desire for power led to their predecessor being overthrown. The fact is, while you view other people as "lacking" somehow, be it in culture or intelligence or what have you, you actually come across as the kind of person who devalues traditional romance by being so against it on principal of denying its existence. You think people aren't worth talking to, but you claim that you don't want to go through your "embarrassment stage of life again", which you likely group others in. You project those parts of you that you don't accept onto others so that it is safer to despise them. You even claim that others look down on "lower classes" in the same way that you look down on them as being somehow lower. Put another way, methinks thou doth protest too much.

I taught my current girlfriend how to waltz on a rooftop underneath a full moon, and she loved it. The girls I live with would be turned off by that. It is not he "1990's attitude towards open sexuality". Sexuality and romance are concepts that have fluctuated across time periods and coexisting cultures, but people don't change. Given a certain cultural norm, people may behave differently, but people are built essentially the same as thousands of years ago. Modern conservative sexual and romantic culture was largely brought on by Western Judeo-Christian cultures. Before that, Romans and Greeks had a very different concept of sexuality and relationships, and today South American tribes likewise have very different conceptions of sex and relationships. There have always been those who tend towards confidence, shyness, intellectual pursuits, physical attributes, social interactions, withdrawn avoidance, etc. Don't think you are so high and mighty, because looking back through history, you are not original or special or advanced or privy to some secret knowledge. You are the same as countless who came before you.

At the end of the day, stop looking down on others as a defensive tactic, because it's much more constructive to find and fix faults in yourself. Stop thinking you are unique and special and above others, because your high and mightiness itself is nothing unique or special. everyone says just be you, but that clearly is getting you nowhere. Accept that you are a part of this society, not apart from this society, and maybe you will be able to interact with others in positive ways.

 

[New Frontiersman]

Maybe your just not the dating type? If you really "can't fucking stand people", maybe dating just isn't your thing. If I were you I would try a dating website, it provides a nice protective barrier between you and the people you interact with so that way it's harder to get hurt.

Now. Without changing a single thing about myself or my social nature, and just "adding" a few things.

If you don't want to change anything about your social nature, you might find it hard to get dates in the future especially since going by this post alone, and I mean no offense by this, you sound like an unpleasant person to be around. I don't mean to be rude but the way you've described yourself you sound as though you are quite surly and unapproachable. You should probably try, and I know you're going to hate this, changing the way you cat out in public. Be more friendly, go up to girls with a positive attitude, if you make a good first impression women will be more willing to open up to you, rather than if you just act angry and mean all the time. You talk about how you have the "the mental, insightful, deep, and otherwise "intellectual" skillset" but if you closed off all the time how is anybody going to see that part of you? Also you talk about the women you go after being out of you league, I hate to say it but how about lowering your standards a little, hell maybe you'll find a misanthropic closed off, intellectual girl who you can relate to.

Also you might try going to the gym. Working out improves mood, health, self confidence, and would make you more attractive to women. You might even meet somebody there. It couldn't hurt to try.

I wish you luck in your search for a companion, sir.

 

[Scars Unseen]

Don't be sexist and tell us to make you sandwiches, Don't treat us like dirt, Spend time with us, and have a damn sense of humour.

if you want to break us from the pack, just walk straight up to us, we love confidence.

....But this might just be me.

This

OT: You may have confidence in some aspects of life, but you don't seem to have any social confidence. You may want to work on just making some female friends for now and work on how abrasive you are. Try to remember that the female half of our species is still our species. As mystical as they may seem, they have the same basic needs that you do.

But do they need a sandwich?

 

[uzo]

Judging from your situation, OP, your biggest problem isn't society/women, it's you. Let me summarise your points:

It's all everyone else's damned fault

So what if it is? So what if it isn't? Whichever it is there ain't a damned thing you can do about it. Shit happens and you've gotta deal with it or just lay down and give up. Life treated you bad? Damned straight it did, by the sounds of it. You've got some issues that aren't just gonna float away on a cloud, and you'll be carrying that shit with you the rest of your life. It doesn't get easier, but no girl is gonna want to talk to a guy who blames her for shit she has nothing to do with.

The simple fact is you're projecting this anger onto everyone around you, and 'simmering borderline-homicidal rage' is not gonna endear the average girl to you. It'll send them running - in fact, from what I've read you currently sound like the archetype of exactly what a girl *DOESN'T* want.

Start giving people the benefit of the doubt -- this is something that's killing your chances with a woman. You're picking out the faults and the lies and the flaws and the insecurities before you've even started talking to them.

As much as you wanna hear that you just have to add some things to suddenly become a 'winner', the simple fact is you need to cut shit out as well:

Stop being presumptuous
Stop being arrogant
Stop regarding humans like vastly inferior amphibians (although it seems like *you* think *they* think you are an amphibian as well. STOP IT! You're projecting again!!)

Start giving people the benefit of the doubt
Start a conversation with an open question and just go anywhere the conversation goes

and one more big one that people I know (who I think are similar to you) need to do:

BE PREPARED TO TALK ABOUT SHIT YOU ARE NOT INTERESTED IN

You raised 'european metal' .. why would you even raise your musical tastes unless you're one of those guys who, when talking about music, will turn your nose up at anything that doesn't fit into your 'niche', right? STOP IT. Embrace the differences between your POV and eveyone elses', and shit will get better.

Finally, as a challenge, go to a club that DOESN'T play your kind of music. Go where you WOULDN'T try to find a gal. Take yourself out of your (un)comfort zone and approach it with an open mind.

Good luck.

 

[JezebelinHell]

This could be the offset of several key indicators and the knowledge that I am either ridiculously judgemental of other human beings, or in the end, am just a very unorthodox, authoritarian minded individual with an outsider's perspective on a multitude of issues and problems.

I really don't even know what the hell I want. I refuse to go through with the embarrassment stage of life again, don't know the damned script to it all, and am quite possibly one of the most vehement, vindictive, wrathful fucking people on the face of the earth because of how things have gone sour for me in the past with this.

Do you really think that women cannot pick up on these things? You need to get through your personal problems before you involve anyone else in your life. Especially if you are looking for something to last and not be a repeat of your past. I think that if you do not deal with your issues you are most likely going to attract someone that has their own issues and it just goes downhill from there. Relationships are hard enough without all the extra baggage.

 

[snyper117]

Modern way is to go to thailand, you will be hard pressed to get home without a new wife
-If you cant afford a trip to thailand click the "Russian girl for you" banners all over the web (worked for a friend of mine, married 1 year and counting)


For normal self respecting person however
Be among friends party/beach/mall/whatever, your friend Gina brings along her friend Jennifer. Jennifer thinks you are cute and tell Gina. Gina tells you and you send Jennifer a text (if you like her that is) if she want to come along for (may take a few tries though)


beeing abit special actually helps as it seperates you from the crowd
i got my self a bunny and i scored 36hours later becouse a girl at a party thought it was cute...