Shouldn't have made a sex joke, looks like you've caused quite a lot of damage. Although, it seems like the boyfriend acted a bit over the top.
So I ruined someone's life.
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Your words seen very literal. Don't plainly say you want sex because that is the serious none funny way to ask and wouldn't seem like a joke at all. Instead, say something in the line of "let's get together for some sexy time..." and then add something that will make it look completely none-serious like a XD at the end.Chesterfield Snapdragon McFisticuffs said:Let me start by saying I'm a typical 17 year old boy. I go to school, I play video games, I go out and muck around with my mates in the weekends, and I make constant sex jokes to the opposite sex.
I was friends with a girl last year who was never very bright, and everyone knew was a bit of a slut (we're talking >100 guys and shes only just 18), but she was nice, and since I hadn't chatted to her in a while, when I saw her on facebook chat I decided to strike up a conversation. Turns out she's in Melbourne, Australia (I live in New Zealand). Now, I'm planning on going to Melbourne next year for university and so I jokingly said "maybe I can stay with you and hit you up for some excellent sex" thinking that I was nothing if not absurdly witty.
Anyways, fast forward a couple of days and I'm on steam chat with a mate. Guess what, this girl is back in Auckland and she wants to meet up with you, what's your address? Naturally since we were friends I give my mate my address and we joke about whether she is actually going to hit me up for free sex.
In actual fact, her boyfriend that shes been living with for SEVEN months read the comment, and as a natural psychopath couldn't understand that it was a joke, they broke up, she moved back to nz and is now living at home $3000 in debt, and she's coming for me.
TLR I inadvertently broke up an acquaintance and her psychotic boyfriend, semi-ruined her life and now I'm really at a loss of what to do.
Also, does this mean I'm no longer getting any excellent sex?
EDIT: I should probably make this clear, I don't actually want to sleep with her. Obviously I'm doing very poorly with people taking my words seriously tonight.
Other than that, I think this should be a lesson, no more silly sex jokes... It isn't witty. It's childish and uncreative. Be funny in a sharp way.
No offense man, but unless you know somebody pretty well that isn't the sort of joke you should be making. It's dirty, crude and not that funny at all.
I don't think you can take credit for that idiocy, even if your joke was unfunny.
If your relationship is so fragile that it can be annhialated by a single comment on a shitty website, that's just...fuck, that's just ridiculous.
If your relationship is so fragile that it can be annhialated by a single comment on a shitty website, that's just...fuck, that's just ridiculous.
Haha I don't think her coming to you will help her case in any way of assuring that guy that he was over reacting. She's not helping the situation.Chesterfield Snapdragon McFisticuffs said:
I don't think it was your fault because he must have some problems with trust, but if that were me I probably would have assumed the worst too, though I probably would talked about it first lol.
Just explain what happened and that it was a joke. If she doesn't think it's funny and cannot take a bloody wise crack joke then tell her that she's aging way to fast.
Your a 17 y.o. boy, of course your ruining someone's life. For once it isn't your own.Chesterfield Snapdragon McFisticuffs said:Let me start by saying I'm a typical 17 year old boy. I go to school, I play video games, I go out and muck around with my mates in the weekends, and I make constant sex jokes to the opposite sex.
I was friends with a girl last year who was never very bright, and everyone knew was a bit of a slut (we're talking >100 guys and shes only just 18), but she was nice, and since I hadn't chatted to her in a while, when I saw her on facebook chat I decided to strike up a conversation. Turns out she's in Melbourne, Australia (I live in New Zealand). Now, I'm planning on going to Melbourne next year for university and so I jokingly said "maybe I can stay with you and hit you up for some excellent sex" thinking that I was nothing if not absurdly witty.
Anyways, fast forward a couple of days and I'm on steam chat with a mate. Guess what, this girl is back in Auckland and she wants to meet up with you, what's your address? Naturally since we were friends I give my mate my address and we joke about whether she is actually going to hit me up for free sex.
In actual fact, her boyfriend that shes been living with for SEVEN months read the comment, and as a natural psychopath couldn't understand that it was a joke, they broke up, she moved back to nz and is now living at home $3000 in debt, and she's coming for me.
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Also, does this mean I'm no longer getting any excellent sex?
EDIT: I should probably make this clear, I don't actually want to sleep with her. Obviously I'm doing very poorly with people taking my words seriously tonight.
who knows, this could be a growing experience for you, you'll finally stop telling tasteless jokes that are just kind of annoying!
But that might take you a few years yet.
The thumbs up of your avatar makes your statement that much more funnier.Elemorea said:
OT: Where about's in NZ do you live?
Don't be hard on yourself. You just made a joke, one that she was dumb enough to take seriously and was fucked over for it. Obviously, you should still apologize, but try not to blame yourself too much, the odds of this kinda shit happening over a little joke like that is ridiculous.
I don't think it's entirely your fault, but I will say this: You're not very good with words. This isn't an insult or anything, but from reading your post, I got two impressions: One first impression and one second impression, the second being the correct one.
For example:
First impression: Her boyfriend is a real, legitimate psychopath
Second impression: Her boyfriend is not a psycho, you're just saying he's LIKE a psycho for reacting the way he did to a trivial joke
Not to mention how horribly you said the "excellent sex" joke to her. There is not a single indication in that sentence that hints at it being a joke, no smiley, no using words several times to create a sarcastic tone, nothing. I'm not surprised someone took it seriously.
For example:
First impression: Her boyfriend is a real, legitimate psychopath
Second impression: Her boyfriend is not a psycho, you're just saying he's LIKE a psycho for reacting the way he did to a trivial joke
Not to mention how horribly you said the "excellent sex" joke to her. There is not a single indication in that sentence that hints at it being a joke, no smiley, no using words several times to create a sarcastic tone, nothing. I'm not surprised someone took it seriously.
"Real" answer: There's really nothing you can do. You're not responsible for her boyfriend being an idiot. The polite thing to do would be to apologize, but you're not in the wrong so that's kinda iffy.Chesterfield Snapdragon McFisticuffs said:
What I would probably do answer: Go hit that. Then get tested for STDs.
Sod it. If she's a slut like you said it was only a matter of time before she cheated on him anyway. You just saved him some time that's all. He should be thanking you for getting him away from that trainwreck.
You said something stupid. Meaning can be hard to get across over the internet, maybe be a bit more careful with how you phrase things in future.
Don?t blame yourself so much, if they broke up over this then it would have happened eventually. You where just the unfortunate person who acted as the catalyst.
She?ll get on with life it?s hardly over.
Don?t blame yourself so much, if they broke up over this then it would have happened eventually. You where just the unfortunate person who acted as the catalyst.
She?ll get on with life it?s hardly over.