Either hints or they agreed to do it. I probably won't have sex unless I'm certain this is the girl for me. This dude is only 15 so it's probably not the one.Julianking93 said:
So Let's Talk About Sex....
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For me, sex is only really enjoyable with the girl I love. Not that I've slept around. My experiences with other people came before her, and they were lackluster because I just wasn't in love with the other party.
Now, that's just my opinion. Some people think otherwise, and I'm cool with that.
As for waiting for marriage, I'm obviously not a fan of that. If you've never had sex with your fiancee, you won't know if you're physically compatible until the wedding night. That seems to me like a disaster waiting to happen.
Plus, practice makes perfect. ^_^
Now, that's just my opinion. Some people think otherwise, and I'm cool with that.
As for waiting for marriage, I'm obviously not a fan of that. If you've never had sex with your fiancee, you won't know if you're physically compatible until the wedding night. That seems to me like a disaster waiting to happen.
Plus, practice makes perfect. ^_^
No orgies here I don't think. Just one on one fucking with someone new every night.Composer said:
Pretty gross. I mean....it's gotta be like elephant ears or something down there by now >>
Sex should be reserved for marriage. End of story. Your body should be solely and eternally for your husband/wife. Nobody else. Your virginity is a priceless gift that can only be given once, and it should be given to that one person that you have decided to spend the rest of your life with, a person worthy of that gift.
Casual sex? Stupid as well as horrible. It's merely a temporary satisfaction of the body, which means that you'd rather do what your body wants instead of your mind, with disregard to your circumstances, ambitions, and reputation. Lack of self-control.
Waiting for love? If you are willing to wait for love...why not wait for marriage? It will be that much more sacred and special to the husband and wife, and the marriage will be strengthened by the trust and devotion that waiting conveys. There will be no doubt in either person's mind about their faithfulness.
As you probably guessed, yes, I am a Christian. Let the insulting commence. I happen to think that there is more to a relationship then just sex, and that sex is a fun and healthy bonus to the marriage. Sex is fun. It's proven. But if you're having sex just for sex's sake, then you're being no better then a dog in rut. There must be a foundation.
And waiting for marriage isn't unrealistic unless you want it to be unrealistic. My husband is the only man that will ever see my body. It is a decision I have made. There's nothing unrealistic about it. Unless you're implying that finding a husband of like mind is unrealistic, in which case, yeah, that's probably true, but he's out there somewhere.
Casual sex? Stupid as well as horrible. It's merely a temporary satisfaction of the body, which means that you'd rather do what your body wants instead of your mind, with disregard to your circumstances, ambitions, and reputation. Lack of self-control.
Waiting for love? If you are willing to wait for love...why not wait for marriage? It will be that much more sacred and special to the husband and wife, and the marriage will be strengthened by the trust and devotion that waiting conveys. There will be no doubt in either person's mind about their faithfulness.
As you probably guessed, yes, I am a Christian. Let the insulting commence. I happen to think that there is more to a relationship then just sex, and that sex is a fun and healthy bonus to the marriage. Sex is fun. It's proven. But if you're having sex just for sex's sake, then you're being no better then a dog in rut. There must be a foundation.
Firstly...what does "open" mean? I have an idea, but not sure.burningdragoon said:
And waiting for marriage isn't unrealistic unless you want it to be unrealistic. My husband is the only man that will ever see my body. It is a decision I have made. There's nothing unrealistic about it. Unless you're implying that finding a husband of like mind is unrealistic, in which case, yeah, that's probably true, but he's out there somewhere.
Open relationships is basically polygamy. When you have a girlfriend whom you love, but you have other people you sleep with at the same time.Lady Nilstria said:
You can either love them too or just have sex with them.
As for your opinions on the subject......I won't touch that. Your opinions, while very similar to mine, are based off of something I don't agree with and even though we share many ideals, I disagree with a lot of it as well.
Sex must be a huge bundle of fun, but I'm abstaining until marriage, and its by both personal philosophy and religion. it's definitely worth the wait and i'll never regret waiting im certain.
but yeah, i look forward to it ;D lol
but yeah, i look forward to it ;D lol
Yeah, that's what I thought. Thanks!Julianking93 said:
I only listen to the God that invented sex, marriage, and the way it should all work. (Who ever said that God isn't fun or doesn't have a sense of humor? HAH. Anyway, I digress.) Not a bad idea to me. My reasoning is simple, in the very least.
WAIT WAIT WAIT, how can you have a problem with the Pipeteer. This guys awesome ditto with his views.Pimppeter2 said:Hey look, its me! A certain user that shall not be named!
So my post is basically the in the OP, so Julian feel free to use my name. Its not a secret.
No offense, but Jesus fucking Christ, do you live in the third world country or something?Julianking93 said:
Among the peers where I live, people who go out and have sex are sometimes shunned from everyone, and out of ALL of my social circle which spans several schools I've only heard of ONE girl getting pregnant(but she ended up aborting it).
I live in America.....so yes XDHam_authority95 said:
Joking aside, that's pretty normal here for girls to go out with everyone, suck dicks for money (I'm not even joking about that, there was a girl who gave blowjobs in the back of the bus for 10 bucks) and get pregnant.
Eh. Perhaps. But then again, I don't believe in the concept of marriage to begin with, so thereLady Nilstria said:
I think you should have sex with somebody you really love and who really loves you back. Personally I think it would take a long time for me to get to the point that I would sleep with someone. I would want to be really sure that my feelings for her were well beyond just lust.
Shit, and for living in the hippie capital of the US, Oregon, you would think that all this chillaxed fuck all attitude would be focused up hereJulianking93 said:
Oh ew, way to propagate a disgusting, misogynistic misconception. For a woman, the more sex you have, the more taut everything gets down there. It's like if you regularly do weights at the gym, do your arms turn flabby and gross? No they get toned. If a woman has large labia majora or looser vagina it's probably just due to natural variation. A girl who has more sex will probably also be more familiar with her body, so sex will be easier for her because she'll be able to relax her vagina. Age and childbirth are pretty much the only natural things that are going to change the appearance of a woman's vulva. The term loose refers to morals, not genitalia.Julianking93 said:
I hate commitment and, like the overwhelming majority of people, enjoy sex. So I guess I'm all for casual sex.
That said, despite my irrational fear long term relationships, I've only had a few sexual partners and have no motivation to sleep around for the sake of doing so. In fact, I've (more than once) turned down sex with attractive (well, at the time they seemed attractive, I'm not going to pretend that most of those situations haven't come about between drunk me and an equally drunk stranger) simply because it seems like an effort. I find that I enjoy sex more with girls who have been with me before and who have some idea of how to please me, and who are willing to communicate how I can better please them. Having sex with a new partner is a lot of work, and I'm a pretty lazy guy.
That said, despite my irrational fear long term relationships, I've only had a few sexual partners and have no motivation to sleep around for the sake of doing so. In fact, I've (more than once) turned down sex with attractive (well, at the time they seemed attractive, I'm not going to pretend that most of those situations haven't come about between drunk me and an equally drunk stranger) simply because it seems like an effort. I find that I enjoy sex more with girls who have been with me before and who have some idea of how to please me, and who are willing to communicate how I can better please them. Having sex with a new partner is a lot of work, and I'm a pretty lazy guy.
I've definitely used sex as a way to feel close to someone without actually being close with them.
In all honesty I found it liberating and more than a little exciting to be inside someone within days, sometimes even hours, of meeting them. I never thought of it as a conquest or as something to brag about; They were moments. Shared moments in which two people were as honest and open and vulnerable as they could possibly be, and from which both, somehow, emerged unscathed. And that was all that we asked of each other. To me that's beautiful. It's not the way I'd want to spend my entire life, but it's something I'm glad I did.
In all honesty I found it liberating and more than a little exciting to be inside someone within days, sometimes even hours, of meeting them. I never thought of it as a conquest or as something to brag about; They were moments. Shared moments in which two people were as honest and open and vulnerable as they could possibly be, and from which both, somehow, emerged unscathed. And that was all that we asked of each other. To me that's beautiful. It's not the way I'd want to spend my entire life, but it's something I'm glad I did.
Since I'm 18 and a virgin, my opinion might seem odd here. I have no issues with casual sex. I don't see a problem because if you enjoy it and you're safe about it then it's harmless entertainment. I respect people who want to wait until they've found love, or gotten married, but I don't personally see the point in waiting. Having sex with anyone they felt like worked for a good portion of our ancestors, and I think it still works fine today.
Don't you just love retarded and fucked up double standards?Zeithri said:
"Town bicycle! Filthy whore! Don't even look at her, or you'll catch an STD!"
"Nice job man" *high five* "What's that, the 7th girl you've gotten this month?"
On topic: Pretty much the same as the OP. I couldn't really care less what other people are doing, but no casual sex for me thanks.