So my girlfriend...

[Kenbo Slice]

Wants me to spend every waking moment with her, when that's impossible, considering we don't live together, and that we have school and I have a job. But I make as much time for her as I can, but she doesn't think it's enough and I have no fucking idea what to do. Help?

 

[Sacman]

Quit your job...simple...

 

[Tautimona]

tell her you're doing the best you can, and if that isn't good enough for her than maybe she should reassess her priorities

 

[Kenbo Slice]

tell her you're doing the best you can, and if that isn't good enough for her than maybe she should reassess her priorities

I've told her that, more than once. I also struggle in school a little so I need a lot of extra time to study and get my homework done. And she also gets mad when I hang out with the guys, I invite her to come along but she never wants to. We've been dating for almost a year, and she's only met my friends ONCE!

 

[manic_depressive13]

Do you like her? Your description makes her seem clingy and annoying, which is obviously how you percieve her, otherwise you would have written a more balanced OP. Just dump her.

Edit: minor clarification.

 

[Kenbo Slice]

............


are you complaining about having to spend time with your girlfriend?

No, just the amount of time that she wants me to. Which gets in the way or work and school.

 

[child of lileth]

Tell her to stop being clingy. No one likes clingy people anyway, and she needs to learn that. It's seriously that simple.

 

[Kenbo Slice]

Do you like her? Your description makes her seem clingy and annoying, which is obviously how you percieve her. Just dump her.

Yeah I like her. I know her ex boyfriend before me spent every waking moment with her. Which is something I'm not able to do. And she needs to understand that I care about school and my job too.

 

[Treefingers]

Tell her to quit her whining.

 

[Ristle]

tell her you're doing the best you can, and if that isn't good enough for her than maybe she should reassess her priorities

I've told her that, more than once. I also struggle in school a little so I need a lot of extra time to study and get my homework done. And she also gets mad when I hang out with the guys, I invite her to come along but she never wants to. We've been dating for almost a year, and she's only met my friends ONCE!

Your life is more important, concentrate on school, you'll find other less clingy women etc etc

I couldn't deal with it I'm afraid.

 

[Kurokami]

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are you complaining about having to spend time with your girlfriend?

He's complaining about her not thinking the time he has to spend with her is enough.

And I don't see anything wrong with wanting some time to yourself either.

 

[theSovietConnection]

Do you like her? Your description makes her seem clingy and annoying, which is obviously how you percieve her. Just dump her.

Agree with this. She seems clingy, obsessive, and borderline controlling, which doesn't make a good combination in my books.

 

[Asturiel]

You need your space man, she needs to accept that she isn't the only part of your life that needs your attention. Talk to her about it, I hear it's part of a healthy relationship or something.

 

[Keepitclean]

Do you like her? Your description makes her seem clingy and annoying, which is obviously how you percieve her. Just dump her.

Agree with this. She seems clingy, obsessive, and borderline controlling, which doesn't make a good combination in my books.

No one should have to put up with that kind of crap. If she gets rid of those qualities everyone will be much better off.

 

[Kenbo Slice]

Oh yeah she's actually told me not to hang out with my best friend, who I've known all my life, who just happens to be a girl. When she told me that, I was beyond pissed. She has more guy friends than girl friends. And my best friend is the only other girl I talk to besides her.

 

[Yureina]

Wants me to spend every waking moment with her, when that's impossible, considering we don't live together, and that we have school and I have a job. But I make as much time for her as I can, but she doesn't think it's enough and I have no fucking idea what to do. Help?

It seems as if she may really enjoy spending time with you, probably to the point of being a bit excessive. This is, unfortunately, something that is a little difficult to deal with because saying that to someone else usually does not end well. I guess what you could do is to try to spend time with her, but also to try to make time for yourself as well. If she ends up taking issue with you trying to have time for yourself, then you will have to confront her about this... "obsession" in a gentle sort of way.

Actually... reading your further posts here, it seems like you already are losing things you value because of this GF's neediness. In that case... you may want to deal with this now. If she wants to "rule your life", then you need to either let that happen, get her to recognize that you have a life too, or just dump her.

It really depends upon how you feel about this situation. If it feels unfair to you, its time to do something about it. Better now than later when it has gotten worse

Hope this helps a bit.
- Rei

 

[Ristle]

Oh yeah she's actually told me not to hang out with my best friend, who I've known all my life, who just happens to be a girl. When she told me that, I was beyond pissed. She has more guy friends than girl friends. And my best friend is the only other girl I talk to besides her.

Dealbreaker if ever I've seen one.

*Edit* I should really elaborate.

That's some ripe Hypocracy. If you want to go the petty route, tell her okay if she never speaks to any other guy again and see her response.

Or go the logical route of ending it because if it's already like this it's not going to last long.

 

[jamradar]

Beat her until she understands.

/badness

No I am kidding do not do that.

I REPEAT DO NOT DO THAT!

[HEADING=1]I AM SERIOUS DO NOT DO THAT![/HEADING]

 

[Sean Hebner]

Wants me to spend every waking moment with her, when that's impossible, considering we don't live together, and that we have school and I have a job. But I make as much time for her as I can, but she doesn't think it's enough and I have no fucking idea what to do. Help?

It seems as if she may really enjoy spending time with you, probably to the point of being a bit excessive. This is, unfortunately, something that is a little difficult to deal with because saying that to someone else usually does not end well. I guess what you could do is to try to spend time with her, but also to try to make time for yourself as well. If she ends up taking issue with you trying to have time for yourself, then you will have to confront her about this... "obsession" in a gentle sort of way.

Actually... reading your further posts here, it seems like you already are losing things you value because of this GF's neediness. In that case... you may want to deal with this now. If she wants to "rule your life", then you need to either let that happen, get her to recognize that you have a life too, or just dump her.

It really depends upon how you feel about this situation. If it feels unfair to you, its time to do something about it. Better now than later when it has gotten worse

Hope this helps a bit.
- Rei

Second. there is more too life, and if she doesn't get that ...she needs give some serious thoughts too therapy