So my girlfriend...

[Whateveralot]

Wants me to spend every waking moment with her, when that's impossible, considering we don't live together, and that we have school and I have a job. But I make as much time for her as I can, but she doesn't think it's enough and I have no fucking idea what to do. Help?

Kind of the same thing here.
My girlfriend doesn't get angry at me, she just gets all depressed and sad. There's three things you can do. Give in on her and ruin your life, don't give in on her and have her angry all the times hoping she might stop doing that eventually (believe me, she probably won't any time soon, it's not just "a habit"). Or walk the walk.

What I'm doing is set my broundries, be mad when she crosses them, and when she doesn't eventually adapt...I have bad news for her. The thing is that if she makes you unhappy because you're giving up your life for her, that's not the point of having a girlfriend. It seems

 

[zarsu]

Let her know you cannot spend ever second of the day with her. Tell her you have to go to school, and that you have a job as well. And you probably want to spend some time with your friends, too, am I right? She has to accept that you can't spend all your free time with her.
If she can't accept that, well, that's her funeral.

 

[Monkfish Acc.]

Maybe you should, you know, tell her to grow up and stop being so fucking demanding?
Seriously. You're doing all you can. If that's not enough for her, maybe she should consider dating a hobo.

You're not doing anything wrong, dude. You've got school AND a job to contend with. You already make as much time for her as you can.
Maybe she should be the one sorting herself out.

 

[EvilMaggot]

Wants me to spend every waking moment with her, when that's impossible, considering we don't live together, and that we have school and I have a job. But I make as much time for her as I can, but she doesn't think it's enough and I have no fucking idea what to do. Help?

hmm...

i had a girl friend (wich is my ex now) that said to me after ive been out with some friends watching a football match and drinking beer and its been a overall goodtime ... she says the next day "Instead of using your time and money on your friends, you should use it on me instead" i got pissed off and broke up with her then dont let your girlfriend control you, set boundaries

also... it worked out for the better feeling alot more free

 

[GeorgW]

Prioritize. You have to decide for yourself how your time is best spent, then keep to it, no matter if you get fired, dumped or flunk out because of it. I would personally like to spend every waking (and non-waking now that I think of it... That saying is stupid.) moment with my girlfriend, but that's me.

 

[Iron Criterion]

Quit your job...simple...

By job he means your girlfriend.

 

[rockyoumonkeys]

It depends on how much she puts out, that's all.

 

[Super Toast]

She sounds clingy. Unless you really like her, I suggest that you tell her to take a hike.

 

[C4N4DUCK18]

In my opinion, as much as you want to stay with her, it isn't worth it to have her drag you away from everything that's important. If she can't get over the fact that she isn't the most important thing in your life, then move on. I know from personal experience that dating in school can really mess up your priorities (resulting in friendships going bad, sagging grades, etc.). If your almost done school and you don't have enough time for everything, it may be best to just break it off (at least till grad). If you really want to be with her, give yourself some time to finish what's ahead of you, then see if the relationship is worth it.

 

[harv3034]

Do your best to make her happy.

And if that isn't enough for her, let her see just how hard you are pushing yourself for her. Let her see that you are running yourself ragget trying to make her happy. With any luck, she will see how dedicated you are and will relax a little.

If not, well your on your oun then.


Oh, and why do so many people ask people on a site for game news for relationship advice? It just seems a bit odd to me.

 

[Folio]

I hate girlfriends like that.

It sounds harsh: She needs to grow up. I don't know what kind of girl she is. But doing something new every weekend (Whatever it may be, be it going to the movies or playing Monopoly.) should be enough.

She can't think of anything else but you, and that's sweet and all. But it isn't necassary.

 

[Cheesebob]

Get her a gimp suit and forget to unzip her

 

[Shycte]

If she ain't gonna show you the respect you need, there isn't much to it I'm afraid.

 

[Stryc9]

Get out now. Seriously. I've seen how this goes, if you give in to her and let her control who you hang out with and when you hang out with them soon you will have no friends left.

I know a guy who let this happen to him. Before he met his fiancee he used to hang out with my former friend (his older brother) and I. We'd play games and he'd help up us work on my friend's cars and such like. Then he met his woman and slowly he started spending more and more time with her until eventually it got to the point where he only left his room to go to work.

Now he's unemployed, has a kid with this *****, and can't even go to look for work, they all live with his parents now. If he steps out of their room there for more than 10 seconds she climbs down his throat like a rottweiler on some serious PMS. Once he managed to sneak out long enough to help with a go-kart project we were working on, once she discovered that he wasn't there she came out and yelled, "That's it! I'm done! I'm taking the kid and leaving, we're finished!", unfortunately she never did. Even with all the problems that come with having to deal with child support and custody and visitation I think he'd be better off than he is now.

So if you don't want to end up in a similar situation get out as quickly as possible. You'll be better off and someone better will come along. Someone who isn't so clingy and controlling.

 

[Mr Fixit]

Oh yeah she's actually told me not to hang out with my best friend, who I've known all my life, who just happens to be a girl. When she told me that, I was beyond pissed. She has more guy friends than girl friends. And my best friend is the only other girl I talk to besides her.

Major control problem, i've been in this situation before, it will not get better. Either she stops being obsessed or your gone, thats what i would tell her.

 

[Daverson]

Here's a festive Halloween themed suggestion!

Have her physically grafted onto you. The amount you'll get selling the unnecessary organs (I mean, if you only have one body between you, then you'll only need one set of lungs, one heart, one stomach etc.), the surgery more than pays for itself!