So my girlfriend...

[Extasii]

Oh yeah she's actually told me not to hang out with my best friend, who I've known all my life, who just happens to be a girl. When she told me that, I was beyond pissed. She has more guy friends than girl friends. And my best friend is the only other girl I talk to besides her.

Dealbreaker if ever I've seen one.

Totally agree.
My best friend is also a girl and we've been through a lot of shit together. I ain't lettin her go for the world.
We tried dating, didn't work out, best friends for life is best for us.
Next (if any others ever show up) girlfriend had better be able to handle me n her hanging out, or else the girlfriend is getting the boot.

 

[Berethond]

Wants me to spend every waking moment with her, when that's impossible, considering we don't live together, and that we have school and I have a job. But I make as much time for her as I can, but she doesn't think it's enough and I have no fucking idea what to do. Help?

<url=http://www.escapistmagazine.com/forums/read/18.117161-Relationship-problem-thread?page=52>Ask this guy.
Seriously. It'll probably be the best advice you'll ever get on the internet.

I think you need to have her read the Scarlet Teen article on good relationships, and then talk about boundaries.

 

[xmbts]

Hate to tell you but a in a healthy relationship it's best to be able to enjoy time away from each other, I'm not saying you have an unhealthy relationship but contrary to popular belief your girlfriend/boyfriend shouldn't be the center of the universe.

Maybe try explaining that to her.

 

[Redlin5_v1legacy]

You need your space man, she needs to accept that she isn't the only part of your life that needs your attention. Talk to her about it, I hear it's part of a healthy relationship or something.

What is this communication thing people keep talking about? I've only been working with sex and chocolate and my relationships have been working out fine! /sarcasm

If she can't accept that you have a life besides her, she may be too obsessed with you. Tell her that you are doing your best to spend time with her and that if that isn't good enough for her, maybe she should go elsewhere for romance. Sometimes a man has to be tough and not bend over backwards to please his girl.

 

[feeback06]

The one thing everything needs to be reminded of when it comes to relationships is that song "It takes two." Two people who are working together in order to be happy together. It seems to be that you are the only one doing the working because you are the only one who has to compromise.

Now these types of relationships are only going to lead to trouble. Not only to you, but also to those close to you. Your friends aren't always going to want to put up with this sort of thing. My advice to you is easier said then done, but necessary. Talk to her, tell her how you feel and if she isn't willing to work with you, then your better off alone.

 

[remorsless]

Tell her that to have a happy relationship both parties need to be capable of being independent and that you both need to compromise. Also tell her how important your mates are to you and if you're denied quality time with your friends you're going to start to feel sufficated in the relationship. It can help if you have a day or two of the week you'll see her or won't... a roster if you will so you don't have to have an argument every time you can't see her. But all in all she has to know that she's not taking your circumstances into account and you're feeling stressed or whatever. If she can't get a handle on that then she's not taking how you're feelings in to account and it's probably worth assesing if you're really happy in this realtionship.

 

[ninetails593]

Stalkystalkystalky. Jk, send her a video or something.

 

[Marik2]

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Dude just dump her theres no need to have a person like that in your life.

Theres plenty of women out there who arent clingy.

 

[deonte9109]

My gf used to be the same way. You just have to explain to her that such a thing is either not possible or by the looks of it will put a strain on your relationship. I told my gf that I cant always give my attention to her. I will have school and work which at this age is a priority and then if I do hang with the guys she has to respect that I want to talk and socialize with ppl other than her. If she is a really understanding gf then she will get the picture if not you need to drop her like a bad habit.

 

[Stollos]

Do something special with her, just the two of you. Something really expensive, that oughta go down well. Like a fancy resturaunt. Let her know that you don't have the time to lavish her with attention every waking second of your day, but that you really want to make every moment as meaningful as this one.

Diamonds work too.

 

[RJFTW]

I believe the saying is crap or get off the pot. I don't know the rules for profanity on here so I'll just keep it toned down. But over a year decision time on whether you're going to put up with it or be done with her. :/

 

[emeraldrafael]

Thats a problem. You need to get away from her. Those are the girls that 30-40 years later, you come home and has a knife cause a female co-worker called to remind you of something at your job and takes a stab at you. literally.

 

[captaincabbage]

I get that she wants to be with you, but she's gotta respect your boundries. Tell her you're doing the best you can, but she really needs to get her priorities straight.

 

[Estocavio]

Tell her to "Get used to it"/
It sounds harsh, but sometimes its the only way to get a message through to someone.

Other than that, your doing nothing wrong. She wants more than she can get for no good reason, try explaining this to her.

 

[damage999]

My opinion only but, relationships like this always end in tears....always. Get out while you can...

 

[JUMBO PALACE]

Tell her that she needs to respect the fact that you have more stuff going on in your life right now than her and it may not be possible to always give her the time she needs. If she can't accept that then she's not the type of girl you want to be with.

 

[mm321]

Welcome to the dating life

 

[IBlackKiteI]

Wants me to spend every waking moment with her, when that's impossible, considering we don't live together, and that we have school and I have a job. But I make as much time for her as I can, but she doesn't think it's enough and I have no fucking idea what to do. Help?

A friend of mine is with this girl and she wants him to be around her all the time.
Now the thing is she is sort of...controlling him and influencing his actions.
It seems whats happened is hes given into her too much and now she feels as if she owns him, which isnt far off.
He hasnt changed dramatically, but he sort of isnt as he used to be as much, like hes being stopped from being himself by her.

Another thing is, hes tried to end it with her in the past a few times, pretty much saying
"Im breaking up with you" yet the weird and totally bizarre thing is shes forced him to stay with her, all she needs to do is cry a little and say "Waaaahhh, but I thought you loved me! etc etc" and my friend apologises, takes her back and they pretend nothing ever happened.

The thing I fear is because of my friends reluctance and I guess...inability to stick up for himself he will be pushed around by people and more specifically his future girlfriends for the rest of his life.

What I mean to say is having her around you all the time would be bad, very bad and is just impossible in your situation.
Tell her this, if she doesnt understand or care than the way I see it is she doesnt really care about your or what you want, so drop her.

In the end, only you have the best idea here of whats going on, just dont let this chick push you around, and please do not become constricted like my friend.