So my mom still thinks I'm gay... (A Follow-Up)
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almost the exact same, but on the other side. my mom tried her hardest to convince people that i was straight.
(JK)
You could always try to get a guy friend to pretend to date you or something. Then again your mother would interpret that as a "beard" (do they call it something else if its a lesbian?)
it sounds like she is completely immovable in her opinions, so nothing short of a 1st of May celebration would dissuade her
it sounds like she is completely immovable in her opinions, so nothing short of a 1st of May celebration would dissuade her
I could tell you how I would solve this, but I dont think it would work for you. For a while, not my mom, but my old (like 70s) neighbor who was something of a KKK member without offically saying so thought I was gay after one of my Gfs died and one of my gay friends was coming around to help me through it all (without doing aynthing sexual). SO I just brought around a black pregnant girl that he didnt know and had moved in recently and said I knocked her up.
I know, I could have handled that better, and it wont help you, but thats what I did. I just got tired of it.
OT: hm... I dont think my mom has ever talked about me in a bad light around her friends. Though she bares some hate for the English as a race/group of people (dont ask why, its a long and confsing conversation that I myself dont get), and I think she told one of her friends once that hse thought I would. So I sat her down pretty quick with her friend and told her I wouldnt, and nipped that bud, post haste.
I know, I could have handled that better, and it wont help you, but thats what I did. I just got tired of it.
OT: hm... I dont think my mom has ever talked about me in a bad light around her friends. Though she bares some hate for the English as a race/group of people (dont ask why, its a long and confsing conversation that I myself dont get), and I think she told one of her friends once that hse thought I would. So I sat her down pretty quick with her friend and told her I wouldnt, and nipped that bud, post haste.
What's that one porno mag with dudes in it? Playgirl, something like that?
Ask her for a subscription of that for your birthday.
Ask her for a subscription of that for your birthday.
you should go and pretend to be a lesbian just to get back at that one friend of your mom`s. she seems like a real bigot
I assume you have at least attempted to hell her you weren't gay? And if that's the case then she is obviously not listening and insists that you are being stubborn and hiding it. And on top of that she's spreading that lie to others? What kind of parent spreads lies about their own child? Being gay isn't a crime against heaven but the people shes telling probably think so. I am so sorry about this op, my parents are great and they would never do anything like this to me so I don't know what it's like but I do know that parents think they know everything and that it's hard to get them to listen. So just try your best to get her to listen to you
Well, yes... and no. There's a difference between intolerance, and a knee-jerk, distressed response caused by our natural tendency to completely freak out when we don't know how to deal with a situation. She shouldn't have said it, true; but don't be too eager to immediately label someone as 'disgusting' just because they haven't developed a more liberal, egalitarian view of things. In my experience, such people are more confused, upset and threatened than they are actively hateful.Kasurami said:
The most horrifying thing my parents(actually just my mom) told others about me?
Well, that would of course be that I am a sociopath, with no conscience, and a very short temper. It is false, flat out false. I am not a sociopath. I am the type of person who feels so guilty for calling in sick, when I wasn't that sick, that I have only done it once. I felt so bad for it I never did it again. As for the temper, I have been described by people I work with as having a near infinite patience. Oh, and I am not violent in the least bit, I have never been in a fight IN MY LIFE.
My mom bases all this on one argument I had with my sister years and years ago. During the argument I became very loud and vulgar, but understand my sister was in a dark place at the time, not going into detail but know that her life was falling apart. She was accusing me of some seriously bad stuff, and well some seriously confusing stuff, like I lock the bathroom door while I shower, which I don't.
My mom knows I am not a sociopath, she knows I have a conscience, and she knows I don't have a temper. She does this sort of thing to try and hurt me. This has basically been my whole life, my mom trying to hurt me in some way. Luckily my dad was not like that, and he was a pretty good guy. Also my sister is a much better person now than when we were younger. My mom however still trys do whatever she can to hurt me. She has convinced several members of my extended family, along with the neighborhood I live in with my wife and child(she happened to be friends with a woman who lives here before I moved in) that I am a violent sociopath. People believe her, because to them, she is a really good person, but they don't know her the way I and a very few others do.
My mom has also tried to convince people I am gay, she has even tried to convince ME that I am gay. I am not gay, just to clarify.
Well, that would of course be that I am a sociopath, with no conscience, and a very short temper. It is false, flat out false. I am not a sociopath. I am the type of person who feels so guilty for calling in sick, when I wasn't that sick, that I have only done it once. I felt so bad for it I never did it again. As for the temper, I have been described by people I work with as having a near infinite patience. Oh, and I am not violent in the least bit, I have never been in a fight IN MY LIFE.
My mom bases all this on one argument I had with my sister years and years ago. During the argument I became very loud and vulgar, but understand my sister was in a dark place at the time, not going into detail but know that her life was falling apart. She was accusing me of some seriously bad stuff, and well some seriously confusing stuff, like I lock the bathroom door while I shower, which I don't.
My mom knows I am not a sociopath, she knows I have a conscience, and she knows I don't have a temper. She does this sort of thing to try and hurt me. This has basically been my whole life, my mom trying to hurt me in some way. Luckily my dad was not like that, and he was a pretty good guy. Also my sister is a much better person now than when we were younger. My mom however still trys do whatever she can to hurt me. She has convinced several members of my extended family, along with the neighborhood I live in with my wife and child(she happened to be friends with a woman who lives here before I moved in) that I am a violent sociopath. People believe her, because to them, she is a really good person, but they don't know her the way I and a very few others do.
My mom has also tried to convince people I am gay, she has even tried to convince ME that I am gay. I am not gay, just to clarify.