So my mom still thinks I'm gay... (A Follow-Up)
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My dad told some people that I dropped out of school and that I do drugs. He said it as a joke because those guys were stupid and wanted to hear some gossip I guess. I thought it was funny and every time I see those people I act like a junky. I don't care what other people think of me anyway and those who know me know I don't do drugs so I don't care. You shouldn't care either.
All you have to do is talk to her and say, "You know mom, I always have liked guys, but ive never had any problems with Homosexuality. And every time you say something that implies I'm a Lesbian, I get a little grossed out by the idea, but you keep saying...I donno. I'm beginning to think that maybe you're right, and I should give it a shot. I mean, I thought I liked guys, but you seem to be really convinced. I still havn't decided, but I value your opinion".
P.S.: This is probably a horrible idea. But something along the vein of, "I feel like your pressuring me into being a lesbian" might shut her up. A lie, sure, but I think its an ultimately beneficial, little white one.
P.S.: This is probably a horrible idea. But something along the vein of, "I feel like your pressuring me into being a lesbian" might shut her up. A lie, sure, but I think its an ultimately beneficial, little white one.
It's annoying, but I wouldn't take it to personally. Hell, I had my stepmother tell me I could grow up to be whatever I wanted, so long as I wasn't gay. Yeah, least your mother isn't under the delusion that being gay is a profession.DuctTapeJedi said:
So your parents think your gay? their obviously unscrewed somewhere, if it where me Id confront them about it and ask why with some force, talking shit about your kids in that way is one step over the line as far as Im concerned.
Although if it were me Id see it as a perfect chance for some lulz and run with it, but I guess Im an arse that way
Although if it were me Id see it as a perfect chance for some lulz and run with it, but I guess Im an arse that way
First off you have my sympathies for it seems your mom is a large problem.
Now I see several options for your next course of action.
1. Responsible: Tell her she has irrational fears and you are worried that there is a deeper meaning to them. Then live your life and ignore her. She seems too far into her fear to be rational about this.
2. Kinda responsible?: Come home with a bunch of old people home brochures. Look for the cheapest one with the worst health record. "Choose" it for your mom.
3. Mean: Bring over some of your guy friends one at a time over several days and have each be the worst boyfriend one could ever imagine. (If you are near me I want to be the slacker fuckup; it will be an easy part for me).
4. This is war my friend: Take option 3 then add your mom "catching guys leaving" or "in bed with you". Be sure to use close friends who you really trust. Also leave condoms around in her room, use her bed too. The condoms with lubrication should add a nice touch. Then freak out about being pregnant and not knowing who the dad is.
No matter what you do I wish you luck.
Now I see several options for your next course of action.
1. Responsible: Tell her she has irrational fears and you are worried that there is a deeper meaning to them. Then live your life and ignore her. She seems too far into her fear to be rational about this.
2. Kinda responsible?: Come home with a bunch of old people home brochures. Look for the cheapest one with the worst health record. "Choose" it for your mom.
3. Mean: Bring over some of your guy friends one at a time over several days and have each be the worst boyfriend one could ever imagine. (If you are near me I want to be the slacker fuckup; it will be an easy part for me).
4. This is war my friend: Take option 3 then add your mom "catching guys leaving" or "in bed with you". Be sure to use close friends who you really trust. Also leave condoms around in her room, use her bed too. The condoms with lubrication should add a nice touch. Then freak out about being pregnant and not knowing who the dad is.
No matter what you do I wish you luck.
My mother told a psychiatrist that I'd threatened to kill her by way of having me involuntarily committed.
Needless to say, my mother and I are no longer on speaking terms. I will never forgive her for what I went through because she just wanted to get rid of me.
EDIT: On-topic, you've never mentioned a boyfriend, sexual partner, hookup, fuckbuddy, "friend with benefits", or anything of the sort. Is your mom the type who assumes "she hasn't found a husband, she must be a lesbian"? If so, not much you can do to alter that short of getting knocked up.
Needless to say, my mother and I are no longer on speaking terms. I will never forgive her for what I went through because she just wanted to get rid of me.
EDIT: On-topic, you've never mentioned a boyfriend, sexual partner, hookup, fuckbuddy, "friend with benefits", or anything of the sort. Is your mom the type who assumes "she hasn't found a husband, she must be a lesbian"? If so, not much you can do to alter that short of getting knocked up.
At this point you're supposed to sit her down and explain. If that isn't how you want to go, swear at her for an hour. That should be satisfying.
Yeah I have tried that, several times in fact. No it doesn't work with her, I could have gone on and on for pages about why my mother is the way she is. At her core she is a good person, which is why most other people view her as a good person...BUT she had such a messed up childhood, I am talking molestation, beatings, rapings, being completely dirt poor, that her core is wrapped in absolute hatred.Mechsoap said:
She refuses to go to therapy, and it ends right there. You can suggest, you can encourage, you can provide support, but if a person refuses help, you can not force it on them.
Well, after reading your other thread, I suggest you move away, get away. I can understand wanting to try to create a good relationship, but just move. Move to one of your friends, even to the one that said to never marry a girl. She is your friend (right?), so she should support you decision to move there. I would let my friend move over at my house if he really had to. While he didn't have to, it has gotten close, and he may need to move away to my house. He doesn't have the same problem you do, but his problem is family related.
I've had something like that happen! In my case I'm a virgin, but even if you're not she may have just been suggesting that you seem stressed or annoyed and she wants you to feel better, the fastest way. I wouldn't get upset over it.thenumberthirteen said:
OT, it seems like you don't need any advice, OP. You know your mom better than we do, and it sounds like she just wants to make you unhappy in any way she can. Maybe she doesn't even know she's doing it, but that's not the point. The point is, besides getting a boyfriend (which, I can attest from the other side that it isn't that easy for us either) you don't have that much you can say or do to change her mind.
I know that people with serious problems often judge and critique others, diagnosing them with things and then trying to help them with it, when they don't want to accept their own potential psychoses. That might be what's going on here.
Why not take your mum to family court over defamation and slander. Maybe having a Judge tell her to give it up will make her cut back a littleRicoGrey said:
OT: nothing really wrong with my parents, although my grandfather has accused be as being gay because it have not 'presented a girlfriend to him' even though he lived a few hundred miles away at the time.
That's sort of gross. "Son, I see you've been feeling a bit under the weather so I got you these hookers".PrototypeC said:
My guess is all her friends were complaining how their sons are always out down clubs and brining back strange women to the house, and she felt left out of the conversation.
