The girl you like is going out with someone better

[ELD3RGoD]

It's happened to me a few times. Then I learned to be cocky and funny and a little arrogant and it works a treat with getting women to like me. Just say things that will make them be like "Does he like me or not?" AKA, "Hey, you are quite pretty, but pretty girls scare me because they usually have no personality, so they hide behind their looks."

Guarantee the girl asks, so do you think I have no personality? Take it from there, always act like you think she's trying to rush into things with you and always keep 'em keen. Sometimes 'forget' to reply, other times stop conversations short etc.

Good luck in the future buddy

 

[Thaluikhain]

Does fancying Lois Lane count?

...

If she's happy with the other person, possibly it's best to avoid changing this.

 

[TheComfyChair]

It's happened to me a few times. Then I learned to be cocky and funny and a little arrogant and it works a treat with getting women to like me. Just say things that will make them be like "Does he like me or not?" AKA, "Hey, you are quite pretty, but pretty girls scare me because they usually have no personality, so they hide behind their looks."

Guarantee the girl asks, so do you think I have no personality? Take it from there, always act like you think she's trying to rush into things with you and always keep 'em keen. Sometimes 'forget' to reply, other times stop conversations short etc.

Good luck in the future buddy

Alternatively talk to them like any human being without trying to resort to 'tricks', because aside from what society imposes, men and women think along the same lines 99% of the time.

Basic empathy goes a long way.

 

[FirstPersonWinner]

Had this happen once. Girl went out with a guy I seriously thought was gay. Pissed me off. I moved to a different state and got over it though. And then the girl I like here is going out with a dude who wears sleeves on his head. And I thought to pseudo-gay guy was bad. -_-

 

[ELD3RGoD]

It's happened to me a few times. Then I learned to be cocky and funny and a little arrogant and it works a treat with getting women to like me. Just say things that will make them be like "Does he like me or not?" AKA, "Hey, you are quite pretty, but pretty girls scare me because they usually have no personality, so they hide behind their looks."

Guarantee the girl asks, so do you think I have no personality? Take it from there, always act like you think she's trying to rush into things with you and always keep 'em keen. Sometimes 'forget' to reply, other times stop conversations short etc.

Good luck in the future buddy

Alternatively talk to them like any human being without trying to resort to 'tricks', because aside from what society imposes, men and women think along the same lines 99% of the time.

Basic empathy goes a long way.

If you're method works for you, keep it up! However, ever since I tried my method, I've managed to sleep with more women than I can count.

 

[TheComfyChair]

It's happened to me a few times. Then I learned to be cocky and funny and a little arrogant and it works a treat with getting women to like me. Just say things that will make them be like "Does he like me or not?" AKA, "Hey, you are quite pretty, but pretty girls scare me because they usually have no personality, so they hide behind their looks."

Guarantee the girl asks, so do you think I have no personality? Take it from there, always act like you think she's trying to rush into things with you and always keep 'em keen. Sometimes 'forget' to reply, other times stop conversations short etc.

Good luck in the future buddy

Alternatively talk to them like any human being without trying to resort to 'tricks', because aside from what society imposes, men and women think along the same lines 99% of the time.

Basic empathy goes a long way.

If you're method works for you, keep it up! However, ever since I tried my method, I've managed to sleep with more women than I can count.

Then I pity you, since obviously none of them wanted to stay with you. Sleeping with 100 women once is easy, try sleeping with the same woman 100 times.

Yes, trolololol. But the whole idea of someone bragging about 'ima banged soo many women' is disgusting and the people who do so i invariably hate.

The OP does not sound like he would be, or ever want to be anything like you

 

[Broax]

I'm a fairly geeky guy... I have my game collection and I even played D&D a couple of times. I'll be honest... When you want to start a relationship there isn't such a thing as a guy "better" then me. When I break up I wanna make sure I find out someone better then what she finds but other then that... I'm not particularly good looking and my ex was the most desired girl in college... She was hot, beautiful, smart, funny, etc.

Since I don't know you I'll give you some small tips I learned in life that helped me a lot dealing with that... "fear"...

1) I felt like I was uninteresting when compared to some other guys... So I got a job... Jobs are great way to meet people, have experiences and learn how to be less shy and more confident! Also you get some cash and learn life skills;
2) In an effort to be überinteresting I started doing some volunteer work. Here you have a feeling that your individual work is really important which gives you a to of confidence. If you have a chance become a volunteer firefighter. It gives you great stories and when you save someones life... it changes you... When someone dies in your hands you also tough up which is always good;
3) Think of what you want in a girl... A lot of people can tell you a number of things they love in a car, a game, a song, a movie but most of the time if you ask someone what they really look for in a life partner (aside from tits, ass and face) they really have a hard time naming them. If you decide what you want in a girl you'll see you'll be more... "aggressive" when you meet a girl you like. You won't waste a month trying to talk with her only to lose her to some other guy;
4) After doing #3 you have to see how you are compared to such a girl and raise your value to what that. The thing is.. You'll probably be looking for a girl which will be more or less similar to you sou I'm not saying to change yourself. But if you really fancy a slim athletic girl it won't help to be a chubby guy. So go to a gym. If you love a girl who plays bass learn how to play bass... Or even better... Learn how to play guitar...
5) While doing #4 you need to be very cold and ask yourself a question... What don't I like in myself... I don't like my clothing? I don't like my hair? You don't need a show like extreme makeover to help you like that. If you want to dress more like a hipster (for example) talk with a friend (female if possible) which dresses like a hipster and ask her to go shopping with you;
6) I could give you 1000 tips but then I'd just make this post even longer and you would definitely not read it, the most important thing is to work on your confidence and your proactiveness (don't know how to spell that). Also work on your image, but not from a clothing and styling POV... Work on your body language. And learn how to read other people's body language.

It might sound corny but I'll say it anyway, learn a bit about marketing. Try to learn a bit about consumer behavior and sales pitching for example. Definitely learn how to read body language as it's one of the single most important skill a person can have and it's very useful in getting a girlfriend. Learn about using cold reading, neurolinguistic programming (NLP) and Kinaesthetics.

The advises I gave you ARE pure gold... If you have any questions or whatnot just PM me and I'll try to help you.

One last advise, in case you just read this final line... Read my whole post. Also, don't be yourself... That's bullshit... Be your BEST self. The guy you are around with your friends. When you're with your friends you're confident 'cause you don't have nothing to prove. I bet yo do some stupid jokes just for a laugh and if no one laughs you don't get embarrassed. So be THAT guy.. Don't try to act cool and smooth. Just be your BEST self and it'll work out just fine. And as for the new boyfriend... Boyfriends get lost...

Hope I helped and GL with her... (sorry for the WOT)

 

[k-ossuburb]

Someone I've got a crush on is going out with someone else? Oh no! My life is over! Whatever shall I do? It's not like I can just find someone else because she's the only girl on the planet.

Honestly, never had this problem because I honestly don't care. People aren't property, if they'd rather be with someone else then more power to them, I'm not going to get worked up over something that, honestly, means very little in the grand scheme of things. I mean, you're essentially getting depressed over something that didn't happen, I could be depressed about not owning a jetpack but I'm not because there are things that ARE actually happening that I should be concerned about.

Also, notice I said someone else and not someone better because, frankly, I'm fucking awesome. Sure I might not be able to do some things that others can do but I am the best me there is in the world, there is no other person who can be me better than I can. If they want to date someone else instead of me it's their loss, not mine. Relationships aren't everything, life's too short to chase someone around because of some hormonally inspired pipe-dream that makes you think you'll be with them forever.

You might want to hug a person.

I'd rather embrace reality.

 

[Athinira]

Yes, plenty of times a few years ago.

And luckily I've found a way to fix it: Get better!

If you feel that a women who skips you in favor of someone else is doing the "right thing" (for herself that is), then you need to work on:
1) Your self esteem
2) Improving your life (making sure you have control of your life, know yourself and your goals/ambitions)
3) Improving yourself (to be more attractive, mostly personality-wise, but improving your physique/style/presentation definitely doesn't hurt either)

Nowadays, when i see a girl I'd like to hook up with being taken by someone else who was faster, i often recognize that the guy is either thrash or egotistical, and all i usually think is "Oh, she doesn't know what she is missing out on, and she will likely end up disappointed with that piece of ****", and then I'll move on to a new girl if I can find another one who interests me.

 

[Esotera]

Should have asked her, but you'll get another chance. Something similar happened to me a few years ago, so I stopped talking to her for about six months then asked her out on a date out of the blue. Although you can probably keep talking to her if you feel like it - there were other reasons that happened.

 

[James Crook]

Usually, a girl I like is lesser than me, and if she goes with another guy, he is also lesser than me.
Joking time! If a guy's better than me, I'll get augmented.

 

[DinkumFair]

Dude the best girls spend a large amount of their time 'taken' the same as the really interesting guys. You have to act at the right moment and never wait on a girl. If you wait you might miss a chance with another spectacular creature. Like a female Sasquatch.

 

[ZeroDotZero]

No. The first guy was a jerk who everyone in my whole town hates, and she was oblivious.

The second guy was quite likable, but by no means fantastic boyfriend material. They split after a week.

The third guy was the least funny person known to man. I mean, every single joke fell flat on its face and everyone just had to do that awkward laugh time and time again.

So no, she just has no taste in guys.

 

[Ambi]

They weren't going out, but guys I've liked have expressed attraction for prettier girls or particular traits I lack and it makes me feel all whiny and insecure. >_< One example, although I wasn't attracted to them, this group of guys I was friends with in high school all used to talk about how hot this one girl was. I was kind of jealous but I felt like a ***** for it because she was so beautiful in that innocent, graceful way and she seemed nice. I felt like I somehow inwardly resembled this brutish, grotesque androgynous thing that bitterly accuses everyone of being shallow or fake while trying to suppress my own worse superficiality and vanity that manifests itself with the overreaction that caused that line of reasoning... First world problems, I'm pathetic haha.

If I notice someone isn't single I'm like "okay ._." but it's a lot easier to not think about them because liking them feels wrong.

 

[z121231211]

Oh thanks for reminding me I really appreciate it.

Oh wow, I didn't read the OP so I just thought it was another hypothetical situation you react to kind of thread.

 

[Lyri]

A girl that i really liked, is going out with someone out as of now. I was going to ask her about a month ago if she wanted to go out, but i was very hesitant. I knew that she liked one of my other friends. I also thought that she would be better with him than with me.
Im not going to put up a poll. I want to see reactions rather than just yes/no. have you ever experienced this?

..You know, this Thread sort of makes me upset in various ways. I don't care if another guy is better at something like football, or looks more attractive... I refuse to believe that he's better then me in general.

Now, if I am abusive, not caring, lazy, or overall not boyfriend material then yeah there will be better guys out there that a girl would love to have- but if I am loving, sweet, very giving, overall sensitive to their feelings and highly devoted (which I am), then there is no good reason why I am not good enough.

See, people fail to realize that there are always going to be people who seem to be better due to their appearance, skills, social life, or even history (aka being around the girl you like for awhile), but still there is nothing written in stone that says "Oh, that guy is much better then you. He deserves the girl because of that, while you're not worth anything... NO you're not even worth being her friend. You're just wasting your time." Don't even tell me I am wrong, many feel this way because otherwise why would they put up with it?

If the girl doesn't want to date you then okay yea... sucks but still be the best you can be as a friend at most. But, if she chooses someone else over you because that guy is better spite nothing is wrong with you.. .. then forget that. You deserve better then that sour treatment. Life can blow, and I apologize that the girl you liked is dating someone else but it's NOT because he is better.. .. it's because she wanted to date him for a particular reason. Do you know why people date? It's because they want to know who's right for them. Just because she's dating him now doesn't mean it's a sealed deal. She can break up within the few months incoming and end up living her life with you. NOW am not saying get your hopes up, but don't ever consider yourself worthless.. just next time go with your intentions rather then waiting because... longer you wait when it's hard to ask- the more likely she'll think you're not into her and she'll move on. I would know..

Isn't your post just saying

"Women can't decide what is better for them because it's not you?"

Fact of life oh narrow minded friend, if something is not what you want despite all of it's good qualities then there is something better.
Better is subjective, to each and every person.

 

[Superior Mind]

I was attracted to a girl who was expressing more interest in a friend of mine so I respectfully backed off. I learned later that I should have gone ahead anyway as it was just one of those cunning female ploys to get me jealous and competitive and she was interested in me. She didn't bargain on me being a gentleman/limp-dick.

Pcha. Relationships. Never been my forte.

 

[ELD3RGoD]

It's happened to me a few times. Then I learned to be cocky and funny and a little arrogant and it works a treat with getting women to like me. Just say things that will make them be like "Does he like me or not?" AKA, "Hey, you are quite pretty, but pretty girls scare me because they usually have no personality, so they hide behind their looks."

Guarantee the girl asks, so do you think I have no personality? Take it from there, always act like you think she's trying to rush into things with you and always keep 'em keen. Sometimes 'forget' to reply, other times stop conversations short etc.

Good luck in the future buddy

Alternatively talk to them like any human being without trying to resort to 'tricks', because aside from what society imposes, men and women think along the same lines 99% of the time.

Basic empathy goes a long way.

If you're method works for you, keep it up! However, ever since I tried my method, I've managed to sleep with more women than I can count.

Then I pity you, since obviously none of them wanted to stay with you. Sleeping with 100 women once is easy, try sleeping with the same woman 100 times.

Yes, trolololol. But the whole idea of someone bragging about 'ima banged soo many women' is disgusting and the people who do so i invariably hate.

The OP does not sound like he would be, or ever want to be anything like you

You pity me for being 18 and having slept with about 70 women? Yes, I'm going to settle down with a girl at the age of 18 and not live my life? I think I pity you for being that naive towards other people. I do the dumping, your notion of women not wanting to stay with me is completely unfounded.

It's not disgusting, it's not being a hermit who bitches at other people because he can't compete with other men. I think the OP would rather learn how to get women and then use it to get the girl he likes rather than commit to a tried and FAILED method that you seem to enjoy. I rest myself, I have nothing left to say.

 

[BottleOfAwesome]

No, If she isn't with anyone then I would go ahead and ask her out.
If she is with someone else already I just think they should damn well be better than me because I want the best for her.

If you tell yourself that somebody else is "better" for her, then you don't deserve the girl. That's for her to decide, not for you.

Exactly what I think.